Game/tips for LTR?

themostgianthorse · 2021-04-25T15:41:46+00:00

Be the leader at all times.
Frame must be maintained.
Goals. I break this down into body/mind/soul. I have one for each. You must continuously work on yourself. None of this 20lb honeymoon phase weight gain shit.
Vetting. You’ve (hopefully) already done this extensively. Vetting does not stop once you’ve entered into LTR.
Boundaries. You need to know what these are. Seriously. Write it down. Once your boundary has been established, you will not compromise it. An uncertain leader is not a leader.
Conflict. If an issue arises, address it as quickly as possible. Don’t let shit build up and come on here and ask advice on how to handle some shit that happened three months ago.
Friends and family. Don’t lose these connections. Some diminished time spent is normal. If you haven’t been out with the boys in a month, you’ve fucked up.
Mistakes. These will be made and more often than any of us care to admit. Own it. I see guys on here sometimes that say “I lost frame for an hour. Should I break up?!” This is problematic because the root cause of that break up would be fear. Fear that if one makes a mistake then he will be cheated on or treated poorly or whatever. I could go on about this point but moral of the story, if you fear loss for a substantial amount of time, you need to exit LTR and work on yourself.
TRP. Again, it’s a tool box. If you don’t need your dread screwdriver today, don’t pull it out. Except for frame. Frame is the pocket knife you have on you at all times.

Plenty more points to make but time to hit the gym.

As always, the sidebar has a wealth of information.

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Capital_Recognition · 2021-04-25T14:36:36+00:00

Outside of what you already know, like not showing weakness... there’s no need to convolute things or over complicate things, keep it stupid simple.

All you need to do is make sure your life is filled out with hobbies, goals, friends, and things you’re after. And, put her second to all of this.

Once you do that, everything will fall into place. The idea is to keep self-reliant so you’re good with her, good without her. Keeping your own life operating outside of your relationship.

MrNeurotypical · 2021-04-25T22:52:45+00:00

Building a life together with another person can be daunting. Would you be able to live with this person? See them all day every day? Do they compliment your life or consume it? Are your goals compatible? Kids? Figuring these things out are what you should be concerned with. My wife and I had this all figured out before we ever fucked or met in person.

Tractor_Sunpower · 2021-04-26T01:34:32+00:00

Get into serious ltr asap to find out how bad/good it is.

Dont impregnate

btt069 · 2021-04-26T03:40:02+00:00

LTR Game is in Sidebar.

TrpKid2 · 2021-04-25T14:36:08+00:00

Don't get into a ltr if you have to ask for help

Title	Game/tips for LTR?
Author	RisingTigre
Upvotes	6
Comments	7
Date	April 25, 2021 1:48 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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