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Girl starts talking about heartbreak, did I handle it correctly?

April 24, 2016

Bumped into this girl that I haven't seen in a long time online. Previously she seemed very receptive to me the past couple of months, but she was absent for quite a while.

She mentioned that she was away because she took time to mourn a death in the family. That stuff is legitimately depressing so I offered my condolences and sympathies.

But then she mentioned that she got her heartbroken by this guy who had a baby with her gf and blah blah blah (I did not bother to read the rest of it).

Normally, I'd talk about it and be comforting, but I also realise that that's the fast track into the friend zone. I also did not want to be an asshole and say 'what makes you think you can share this with me?'

So I took the neutral route and remained silent. After a while she asked if she was being too personal. I brushed off and said that I just woke up. She apologised again afterwards.

I understand that the second a girl mentions a guy that isn't you (in terms of attraction), it's game over, but this is more an exercise in maintaining frame and making sure I don't end up being a doormat again. Did I handle this right? Constructive criticism is welcome. Thanks

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Title Girl starts talking about heartbreak, did I handle it correctly?
Author BlackPhoenix01
Upvotes 4
Comments 8
Date April 24, 2016 4:46 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]Apexk94 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"At least you ain't the bitch knocked up"

[–]Stories_of_Red2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Soft next. You are her orbiter. Stop thinking about her.

[–]BlackPhoenix01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That won't be difficult at all

[–]eazy_0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Shouldn't get one second of your valuable time.

You gave a weak excuse for not having a conversation about her and another male...I'm tired.

Handled it wrong.

[–]BlackPhoenix01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

At the time, it was either that or tell her straight forward that I do not entertain platonic friendships with women, which she might interpret as anger. As AFAIK, getting angry in response to things like these are no-nos

[–]Taskmaster7770 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great question. I'd also like to know from more advanced members how to handle a situation like this. Say a plate you're spinning asks you something like this, how would you guys honestly respond?

. Ignore . Make a joke of it etc . Outright tell her im not your emotional tampon etc

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would have ignored it

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Plate, jack hammer and next her. Otherwise, you're in danger of becoming a beta cuck.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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