Girlfriend disrespects me in public

2016-06-26T20:19:01+00:00

Stop paying for her shit and read the sidebar, dammit.

Apexk9 · 2016-06-26T20:23:04+00:00

Don't pay for her shit again and see what happens. Like legit stop paying for anything.

rubenbrasil · 2016-06-26T20:52:26+00:00

Shes juicing you, youre her BetaBux.

50pluspiller · 2016-06-26T22:35:12+00:00

Since I'm the guy who buys you stuff then that makes you a prostitute. And prostitutes leave after they fucked their trick. Apparently I'm just your trick, it's time for you to leave.

mr_nate_ · 2016-06-26T21:22:07+00:00

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Jovian8 · 2016-06-27T02:04:54+00:00

"Is it okay if she comes into the (restaurant, theater, stadium, arena, whatever) with me? She sucks my dick."

TheProspecter · 2016-06-26T22:15:20+00:00

Oh fucking hell man. Lift and stop reaching for the wallet. All in the sidebar or handbook.

okkyle · 2016-06-27T00:38:35+00:00

You have a lot of work to do.

Drop this cunt and read the sidebar

icecow · 2016-06-27T08:14:08+00:00

Don't pay for anything PERIOD. Everything should be half, always. I make 4 times what my LTR makes and she pays half of everything. Sometimes she jokes about how I should pay more because I earn more. Shut that down hard. The few times I did try to pay for things she would normally go halves in she got mad and insisted she pay half. That's why she is a potential keeper.

Exception is birthday presents, Christmas etc, however I never spend more on her then she does on mine. Again she insists on it

mordanus · 2016-06-27T02:40:28+00:00

So if all you're good for is paying for her stuff then maybe you only have yourself to blame for this. Stop paying for stuff for her and next her if she has a problem with it.

2016-06-27T03:52:14+00:00

It's possible she thinks of you as a portable bank, but it's also possible she's just trying to be funny. Only you can tell based on her tone and how she treats you otherwise.

When she walks into the weed store and says that, you make eye contact with the manager or whoever she's talking to, laugh, and say, "Hah! Yeah alright good luck with that. So I'll be outside then." Manager will laugh along with you because she's so obviously in the wrong.

Her response to this will tell you if she's using you for money. It will take one of three paths.

1) She laughs and lets you wait outside while she pays for her shit. It was a shit test and you passed. Likely this behavior is her way of shit testing you.

2) She goes for another shit test. This could be: baby voice/begging, continuation of the joke, etc... If you pass this second shit test and she pays for her shit, you're fine. If she gets angry/pissy when you pass her shit tests and wait outside, she's using you.

3) She immediately gets angry. No woman gets angry at a guy for passing a shit test unless he's blatantly being used. Then she's not shit testing him. She already knows he's shit but simply wants resources from him.

Women know when they're being a bitch. Always recognize that behavior and shut it down with humor/amused mastery. When they just get angry at that then they're just being used.

RealEstateRockstar · 2016-06-26T21:31:56+00:00

Beta bucks

shuritsen · 2016-06-26T23:17:21+00:00

drop her like she was a 500 pound brick. it's clear she doesn't respect you now, and usually when people, not just women, get into that mentality of 'oh, he's just my bitch', it usually never changes. She wants you to stick around because you pay for her shit? see how she likes it when you're not there to pay anymore. let her find some other dumb sucker, you deserve better that sone money-grubbing bitch.

redrogue12 · 2016-06-27T03:21:35+00:00

Let us know how she reacts when you dump her.

TrimHer · 2016-06-27T05:44:23+00:00

Dump, immediately.

MaxLorenz · 2016-06-26T20:19:14+00:00

This:

"Twice you have referred to me as the guy who pays for your stuff. If that's how you feel about me then we're through.

"If you need to explain who I am to someone, you can tell them I'm the awesomest guy you've ever met. If that isn't true, then I suggest you go find THAT guy and get him to pay for your shit."

In the worst case scenario, she just wants you to pay for her shit.

In the best case scenario, this is a shit test. It's (unconsciously) designed to find out if you're man enough to stand up to her or if you're just a wimp who she can get to buy her stuff.

Don't get in the habit of letting her disrespect you like this. It will only get worse and then she'll leave you for an "asshole" that is strong enough to stand up to her.

TheBloodEagleX · 2016-06-26T21:11:41+00:00

I think you got your answer. Read what you wrote. Even if you did pay for her stuff, it doesn't sound like she appreciates it and clearly is taking advantage with patronizing comments. Make her a plate rather than a LTR; find someone more deserving if you want a relationship.

DysfunctionalBrother · 2016-06-27T06:31:03+00:00

Stop being a bitch and do something about it, your a fucking man, act like it.

2016-06-27T15:07:31+00:00

Lol, and what stops you from just... not paying for her shit?

nummas · 2016-06-26T20:54:03+00:00

I read a lot of posts on asktrp, but for some reason this one got me wound up. If a girlfriend/LTR or Plate (notice how I didn't put wife? Because I don't believe in marriage lol) did that to me, publicly claiming I pay for her shit, I would invoke a nuclear next. That's a big steaming dump on the chest. Best go with what u/MaxLorenz posted. Let it be known to her that you don't take disrespectful shit lightly and hopefully she is immediately educated. Good luck.

2016-06-26T22:46:37+00:00

Quit being a pussy and stand up for yourself? Or just continue to let her walk all over you, validate her disrespect and prop her up on a pedestal. Your choice.

2016-06-26T23:01:56+00:00

Damn man imagine if a guy did that too a girl, wouldn't that be crazy? Nigga get a grip.

mksu · 2016-06-27T00:47:21+00:00

She sounds like a hood rat.

The-Ban-Hammer · 2016-06-27T00:51:08+00:00

If you don't want her to joke about you being her bitch, don't be her bitch. That's a pretty easy step 1 that you seem to want to avoid.

thats_abingo · 2016-06-27T02:56:42+00:00

dude cmon this isn't a complicated issue. just stop paying for her shit! and if she continues to treat you with disrespect don't put up with her

verily_rp · 2016-06-27T03:22:52+00:00

Holy crap. If my girl said that in my proximity I'd tell her to make like a whore and get the fuck out because prostitutes don't stick around after I payed them for sex.

RationalKing · 2016-06-27T13:46:36+00:00

Next her.

2016-06-27T14:08:38+00:00

You, sir, are a Cuck.

0kool74 · 2016-06-27T14:13:18+00:00

If I didn't already know that there were guys out there who are this galactically stupid, I'd say this is a troll post. But, alas.....

F_Dingo · 2016-06-27T14:21:55+00:00

Time to dump her immediately, she sees you as an ATM.

Iamthenewme · 2016-06-27T18:36:51+00:00

I'm gonna assume she's using a "just kidding" jokey tone when she says these things (but if she's not, and is actually disrespecting you, why haven't you nexted yet?).

Even with a j/k tone, it's a (not-so-)subtle shit test to see how you respond - and every time you fail to, you lower yourself in stature in her mind.

But respond with amused mastery, not with drama. Next time she says something like "he pays for my shit", add "yeah, I leave money by the dresser every morning"; or elsewhere, introduce yourself with "I'm the guy that pays for her: and she's a bit too expensive if you ask me" - the same implication as what /u/50pluspiller is saying, but this keeps it in her own "just kidding" level without making you a drama queen, while also letting her know you're not gonna bend over and take it in the ass. Keep it to a flippant, sarcastic tone, and maintain frame if (when) she loses her mind and tries to make a big deal of your responses.

poochman · 2016-06-27T19:10:09+00:00

hard next and wake the fuck up

--CASPER-- · 2016-07-03T09:25:17+00:00

Hard next

DennisReynoldsAMA · 2016-09-09T18:52:58+00:00

Dump her dude lol don't just stop paying for her shit. There's 250,000,000 other girls in the world near your age who are single.

2016-06-26T20:58:42+00:00

AF/BB is real

Title	Girlfriend disrespects me in public
Author	peppercorn837921
Upvotes	52
Comments	67
Date	June 26, 2016 8:09 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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