Good bye Red Pill

January 10, 2020
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Since I got here, I've been binge reading threads, books and blogs. I, for sure, got better in many aspects of my life, thus I thank every one of you for your effort and time. But no matter how much I read, I'm still stuck in the same stage.

It's about the fear of approaching, I always opt for inaction whenever I like a hot girl looking at me. I have no balls on me, and I can't figure out how to grow a sack.

That's why I decided to start living life instead of reading about it non stop. This thread will be the last one I would read for a month or two while I will be trying to overcome this stage.

Ironically, I will ask you guys to give me some last minute advice that I will go back to during this period.

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Title Good bye Red Pill
Author mrkinix
Upvotes 83
Comments 41
Date January 10, 2020 4:38 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]theUnBannableHulk90 points91 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Good job.

This is EXACTLy what most of us forget, ONCE you’ve gotten the knowledge

GO OUT AND APPLY IT TO INTERNALIZE IT

NOw GTFO of here and hopefully come back a long time later with cool stories 😎

[–]ForeverInYou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe like the other advice in here that was true, I should follow this. Goodbye folks

[–]Practical-Animal21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Approach women you think are cute because we could all die tomorrow from a giant meteor and it won't really matter that fucking much what you did today

[–]BlueMyLoad6917 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop being a faggot and go approach some girls. With any luck they will reject you, possibly cruelly. After the initial shock, take a second, think about it...and realize 1) you’re not dead 2) rejection really isn’t that bad 3) if you put up with this 3 or 4 (or 100) more times you will get dates.

TLDR: don’t be fucking scared of girls you pussy!

[–]RPNorvell[M] 16 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

What exactly are you afraid of? Really try to drill down on that.

[–]l1ght-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not OP but for me it’s feeling like a bit of a nuisance.

I guess I just need to realise my true value, do you agree?

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Most likely physical presence of other people.

People often come from abusive / overprotective / fatherless families and it's DEEP in them. In addition, inherited mental illnesses/syndromes can run - again - through families(Bad choice gene wise?) and also cause social anxiety.

Source - I'm on my way of coping. Trying to expand that comfort zone.

[–]RPNorvell[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go deeper.

Why does being around random people cause you anxiety?

Dig.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I see there's a lot of typical "asktrp" retard comments here like "just talk you stupid faggot, open your mouth" bla bla bla bla...

Firstly, it won't put you in the right mindset, you'll just freeze up if you're a rookie who has been living timidly all his life.

Secondly, this mindset may work in the gym to pump iron but it does not work for social interactions. Being sociable is about being chill, laidback, comfortable with yourself, and simply enjoying the interactions with other beautiful human beings. The main attitude you need to develop is "why the fuck not". Why the fuck wont I talk to this random stranger, surely it's more interesting than listening to my own voice all time. Why the fuck won't I talk to this old lady sitting next to me in the bus, I can make her day by giving her some attention. Why the fuck won't I start talking to the pretty girl in class, maybe she will change my life.

My advice:

  1. Talk to everyone you meet. When you're on the street, remove earphones, whatever. Try to be spontaneous. Say hi when you enter a shop, look people in the eyes, say thank you, smile, all the basic stuff. Learn to relax around others. I remember I forced myself to make it a habit to look strangers in the eyes on the street. And I was proud of myself when I did it. You need these little pats on the back of yourself to continue growing. Furthermore, these really are the fundamentals of interactions. If you don't learn to properly do these little things you won't be able to approach girls.
  2. To approach girls you're interested in and to get over the initial phase it helps to go somewhere where you're not known and you can't "make a fool out of yourself". For me, it's ridiculous now to even utter these words but I was in the same stage as you a couple of years ago and it did help me.

[–]Infernir4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good luck dude, keep documents of all the most important things you need to remember about TRP.

Quit the internet, reddit, TRP, block it... whatever you need to do and focus on applying everything you've learned over the years here for 2 months. Or even more if you think it's beneficial for you.

It helps to listen to RP minded people, read books, podcast about this stuff to remind you of the reality... but after awhile you shouldn't need any of this shit you should know it all yourself and be a RP man who doesn't need to go to Reddit to ask any questions or understand what is going on. You shouldn't need any of this as long as you've been reading for years already and getting experience with women. You have graduated... you just need to go out in the field, go to war and see that you've already become a soldier.

Never forget no matter what happens or how much success or failures you get with women, AWALT. They will always choose the better guy.

Focus on taking massive action every day, talking to people, socializing. Social proof gets you in positions to get laid with new women... be the guy everyone knows and says "Blank name is fun, cool, chill", have abundance and take your looks seriously, women will be inviting you to hang out, just add some plausible deniability, soft core drugs or just a little smoking if you're in college... and you will get sex/action.

[–]i-am-the-prize5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Approach not to close, just to open. Remove the pressure. Talk to everyone, man/woman/gay/straight. Practice so it's natural. Then when an HB8 is the one in line at the coffee shop, she sees you talking to (and remembering the names of) the baristas, other patrons, and sees you're the type of guy she may want to get to know.

Do it for you, and do it pervasively. I do it now and it's nuts how easy it is. And you don't even feel "on" all the time, it's just you.

[–]CainPrice3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lots of guys fall into the trap of reading bullshit on the internet all day and think that they're learning stuff or improving themselves.

They're the same losers they've always been, just with a new internet hobby.

Reddit is social media. It's an online video game. You push buttons and stuff appears on your screen that makes you feel things and react. You type stuff and get awarded with points and stimulus as other people react to you.

Sure, it's an educational online video game. You can read news and learn about the sex and relationships game and stuff. But it's still just sitting at a computer. You're the same loser you've always been, just with a new internet hobby.

If you haven't been to the gym yet today and haven't had sex yet today, you should turn this video game off and go work on that.

[–]Heybuddyyyyyy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Serious: do you jerk off? Stop immediately and give it a few weeks...then go in on these hos

[–]swaghole6917 points18 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

You think flipping thousands of pages of books is gonna magically solve your fucking problem? Why do you follow internships at school? Practical lessons? You cant just read hundred books and think youre some pimp, you actually have to put it in practice and find out what works best for you. And go fucking lift. Jesus christ these people, now go out there bro endless reading isnt enough

[–]mrkinix[S] 10 points11 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

I've been lifting seriously for a while. I applied trp in many aspects in my life. But when it comes to approaching girls, I simply can't.

[–]swaghole6912 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Then put the books down and practice, only way to evolve. If anything, practice in another city or country if youre so afraid of losing face in your hometown. You can fail as hard as you want and never see those people again

[–]l1ght-3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Going Amsterdam in 2 months and pushing myself to go ALL OUT.

There’s something that changes inside you when you go on vacation.

[–]Jabbermouth1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Less fucks given because you know you won’t run into the people any time soon

[–]DoesItMatterTooYou8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can't because you have an expectation. Let go of the expectation.

Just chat with anyone and everyone. Learn to just be polite and engaged in your surroundings for no reason other than to have a pleasant day.

Find one nice thing to say to everyone.

Walking past a male coworker just now I complimented his shirt. It is a nice shirt. Made him smile, others saw me being nice, and it was sincere.

It's practice.

Attractive women are only different because YOU have an expectation. Let go of that and set yourself free.

Good luck

[–]drevil_5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You have AA. Every single guy alive has it too. It’s ingrained in our dna. Most guys don’t ever face this fear because nothing is forcing them to do it. It’s fuckin scary to do man so why would most guys do it? The reward is very high though if you can muster the courage. I guarantee you don’t have it worse than other people. Most people criticising you don’t ever approach themselves (at least not during the day where it is 10x harder.) if you put your mind to it though you can beat it. But you have to take daily action. Daily reinforcement to your lizard brain that nothing bad will happen and if you get rejected it’s not the end of the world. You have to get thicker skin but the ONLY thing that will do this is through taking action. Look up exposure therapy it’s clinically proven to be extremely effective at this

[–]Siyuen_Tea0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Alpha, beta, omega.

If you aren't talking to girls at all ( omega) then go blue pill,( beta). Being a pushover and won't get you pussy but if you're so fucked you're not even talking, then fuck it, be a " nice guy". The only thing worse then slow progress is no progress. Get comfortable talking.

Once you can comfortably talk with strangers, start your red pill journey. You can start small by simply calling out shit tests. You can play around and tease just for fun. Red pill is really just not letting yourself be walked all over. Make efforts to not just " do red pill stuff" but to make it as habitual and natural as cleaning yourself and brushing your teeth.

[–]Onein1024th0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

are you talking to other people too? or are you afraid of human interaction?

When you're buying milk at the grocery store, do you talk to the clerk? If so, is it conversation or empty pleasantries? Now extend that to everyone you interact with. BE TALKATIVE. Live in a talkative frame surrounded by people whom you induce talkativeness

[–]DubbleFUPAwitCheez2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Here, have a dose of reality. You won't be missed.

That said, you're making the right choice.

[–]huey7642 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

$5 say you wont approach a hottie

[–]EdvardMunch2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you smoke weed? If so fucking quit.

[–]pebblefromwell2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The older man who red piled me befor I found this sub gave me what he called the game. It works like this. You win by being rejected 100 times in 90 days. To do this you have to ask out all 100 girls in person. No social media no phones. If you get a date go on it and it does not count to your 100 keep asking.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This one's good.

[–]ProFriendZoner1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can read all you want.

Or not.

But action is where it's at.

You're leaving us because you're reading but not taking action.

So by leaving this sub that's going to change?

I'm missing something here I just know it.

Start an accountability thread.

Hold yourself accountable.

Have us hold you accountable too if need be.

But leaving isn't going to change anything until you get off your ass and take action.

And you've "tried" to overcome this stage for how long now?

And suddenly that's all going to change?

Not knocking you, just trying to find out your reasoning.

You've got the learnings.

Now get out there and apply them.

[–]2030isCloserThan20030 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Books are just tools, in the end it’s between you & your brain.

If someone were to ride a book about skiing, how many of those would you need to read to learn how to become a great skier?

You can read thousands but it’s not until you put on those skis yourself & go down hill, where you’ll finally learn how to become a good skier. Even after reading the books, you will still wipe out & fall many times, but that’s life.

[–]Iluvalmonds830 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good and I hope you succeed in self improvement and reaching your goals and moving on from the stage that you’re stuck on.

There comes a time where you’ve read all you can from a resource and now need to execute/experiment with what knowledge you’ve obtained in real life to realize what works for you and what doesn’t. Doesn’t hurt to chime back in and share personal successes with implementing a RP technique.

[–]PrettyBarbiePerson0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Have fun with it

[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great step forward. Good luck.

[–]red__Man0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

make sure to come back later, the knowledge eventually fades away if not properly refreshed

[–]Zombiespire0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The book Models has a pretty good system on how to overcome the fear of approaching. It involves doing safe meaningless actions to talk to someone in public, then ramping it up slowly with meaningless small talk. Then eventually you get to the actual flirting phase and it won't make you want to throw up the first 20 times you try asking someone out. I recommend you check it out.

[–]arcanepolar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Meh. You don't need to approach to live RP, you only need to approach if you're looking to score fast. If you focus on yourself, exude confidence, etc etc, the girls will flock to you and you wont need to approach. Downside is you'll have missed a lot of practice and may not know what to do when a girl comes around. good luck

[–]drcube20000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There is literally no downside to approaching women. Worst case scenario you get rejected and you're in the exact same position (not picking up women) but you have a data point about what you need to do better next time.

[–]manu_gd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good luck out there, remember Yolo, that kinda helps it for me and the fact that other people don't get the same chance you do, my twin brother died when I was little, everything crazy I do I do it for him.

[–]SirAttackHelicopter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's why I decided to start living life instead of reading

This is EXACTLY what I was gonna say as the solution to YOUR problem. Get out there and enjoy life. Better yourself with experiences and shit. Ask girls out, get dumped, learn from it, and ask other girls, repeat.

[–]MeansToABenz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good riddance. Now hurry up and get off your screens

[–]Patches0wholahan-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you read these books hoping for the miracle pill. You want the easy way out.

You want, but you refuse to earn. You are having a pity party, and personally I hope nobody shows up.

See ya later. You won’t be missed here.

Good luck with life. Keep your chin up, kid.

[–]MisterRoid-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Have you had your testosterone levels checked? I have an easier time interacting with people since I started injecting (I had a shitty 16nmol before I started). The change did not happen overnight, but now social nervousness is almost gone. I can act like a dick or total retard and not care about what people think of it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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