1. Me and a few friends were invited to a small party thing, we showed up talked to our closer friends and hung out kinda boring tbh that’s about it, 5 months ago I was at a similar gathering and this guys backpack straps got “sliced” off the bag they had asked if I did it or knew anything about it when It happened, I had no idea and that’s what I told them.

The gathering we were at last night the 2 same dudes were there “guy that owned said backpack and his buddy” I haven’t thought anything about this, I have no idea what happened to the guys bag lol I don’t see the benefit of messing up some dudes bag??? But I saw them and said what’s up and got their names again cause I had forgotten, and the buddy says hey I got a question and starts pacing and looking around? I say “and that is??” He goes my boy here’s bag got cut a while back you wouldn’t happen to know anything about that would you? I legit laughed out loud “I thought he was kidding” said no that sucks I sure don’t” he says alright well I didn’t think you did we’ve been trying to figure out who did it? Wtf people?? He said something like you always seemed cool but I’d hate to find out you did a thing like that. At this point I’m starting to get pissed off because I hate passive aggressive behavior, and 2 when it actually happened we settled it then..so I thought??? I don’t say anything rude I stay calm and just looked at him and said yeah idk what happened to your friends bag I’d tell you if I did it, and if I had a problem with you or your friend I’d tell you that too, not tear up your fucking backpack. He never made eye contact with me, and the actual owner of the stupid backpack never said a word just awkwardly stared at me like he wanted to eat me. I ignored them and walked off, me and my friends were sitting on the front porch minding our own business and then they peep out the door and said “hey you guys got to dip”. Just shrugged and said ok and we left.

          2. Me and a couple buddies went to eat somewhere, but were in a hurry and ordered something extremely quick and easy, barely anybody else in the place too. The waitress told us itd be quick as well, 35 minutes go by we’re running late for our plans..decide fuck it we’ll leave money on the table for our drinks and they can keep the rest. We’re outside and these dudes walk outside real slow and almost scared looking at us. One guy walks up keeps a good 10 foot distance and nervously says “hey if you guys are going to leave without eating you should tell somebody”, “we say we’re in a hurry my man”, him-“we’ve had a problem here with people running out without not paying for food, go in and make it right” another guy walks out and stands about 13 feet back with his arms crossed staring me down.          I said haha oh yeah that’s why we left our money on the table for her”. His face drops like “oh shit I’m stupid” we considered leaving right then but I decided to go back in and pay for the not finished food that should had been done an hour ago at this point and the waitress told me not to worry about it and gave it to me for free and said have a nice day. “I believe I experienced a full group of white nights”  

Yeah, these are kind of dumb. But they both could have resulted in a fight which is what seemed both parties were trying to accomplish out of these situations, in which I don’t have beef with anybody and don’t want it, but if they were to really get in my face or throw a hand I’m going to come back and beat the shit out of them. I knew I could take either of them, also had backup. I feel like I held pretty good through these by steering away from anything that may get them to start a fight but could have done better. Any tips and advice would be appreciated.

Ps- I have dudes do shit like this to me a lot actually and I think it may come down to them being jealous or somethin idk. I can defend myself well, I have plenty of times but I don’t like to fight or have anything like that with anyone.