I've done this so many times and I never realized how dumb it is. I have probably wasted a good amount of time on this too.

Basically, I've gotten a number of dates online, Tinder, etc... But there were contacts that just didn't go through, and these were the ones that I initiated or tried to "plan". To explain this better, girl replies to me, I got a good chain of messages going on. When I plan specifically, example: Okay, let's meet at this time, sat. feel free to contact me, I'm flexible = No responses. Compare this to, "I'm free Friday, let's go..." Generally, I get a number and a meet.

It's perplexing. But I'm also a bit frustrated. You'd see women with elaborate profile descriptions, how they want this and that, here and there but when it comes to planning or being specific, or explaining, shit just hits the fan. It's even more frustrating because I seem to just forget about being straightforward and leaving no room for emotional discussion. I get intertwined in writing essays, wanting to know her more BUT her profile is basically: "Hey, I've got my compass, let us discuss!".

This also surfaces in real life a bit. Correct me on this, but I'm also not the best looking guy like I've got genetics that I can't change so straightforward meeting initiations are gold when they go through. But it makes me wonder, am I just that quick flirt or did I peek interest beyond just the quirks or niche? Should I wonder at all...? Feel free to discuss, I guess I can also share that yes, "come over" has a general chance of success. I wonder how it is for better-looking gents? I'm sure women would just respond, either way, some of you guys got it easy but I'm not complaining, just appreciating, is it all that different?

  1. How do I revive a recent case, we got a good chain of messages going, I got too specific on my reply for a meet-up, should I wait a day or two and just reply with "Sat. is canceled, sorry, but I'm free this Tues.?"

  2. Is there a way to determine what she actually wants? I've had contacts who I just message here and there, but they still respond occasionally

  3. Curious how this translates into real life. I've forgotten how real life first meets are like, but texting and digital communications are still the middleman in between- There's just gotta be hard lines for guys like me, the quick and semi-vague but on-point messages have a higher success