Hard times keeping an erection with girls i really like

December 3, 2019
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So basically i have no problem fucking 6,7s but as soon as i pick up and 8 and 9 my dick refuses to operate. It will get up and then go soft or semi hard shortly after. I stoped watching porn for couple of months. Hiiting gym regulary, my game has improved and yet somehow i still feel performance anxiety with girl i really want. How do i fix this? You guys went trough something similiar? Should i start no fap or is it just in my brain?

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Title Hard times keeping an erection with girls i really like
Author Dimenzije90
Upvotes 3
Comments 18
Date December 3, 2019 7:44 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]JRebirth9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well I had a similar problem with my first gf, she was hot as fuck so I felt like i had to do a good job. What I did was stop jacking off and only escalated when I was dying to fuck.

Then its all about positive reinforcement. My dick is like a small dog, if I get angry at it, it shrivels and hides in fear. Learn to let it go.

[–]Dimenzije90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man, i think im in my head too much.

[–]rybonucleosis4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Cut porn, and stop worrying about what she thinks, it will lead to performance anxiety

[–]Dimenzije90[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Its really eazier said than done. Im aware its from my validation seeking problem but even when im aware of it its not that easy. Ill just try to keep an abundance mindset and if i fail then fuck it. But its really becoming anoying.

[–]Rodent90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course it’s hard, that’s why it’s worth doing.

Stop being a pathetic beta and start being a man you’re proud to be.

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[–]Dimenzije90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man, appreciate it.

[–]Jesusfeminist1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Lol don’t sit down and talk to her. Pop a viagra/ciallis until you figure it out. Also there’s these benzocaine wipes you wipe on your dick that makes you last dumb long, rolman I think. But no, don’t spill out your weakness to them

[–]Dimenzije90[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah im not a guy to really open up with girls but i do get the idea of opening up can make you feel more relaxed. I will try and if i fail ill just say she should try harder next time lol. Then maybe ill pop viagra.

[–]Jesusfeminist1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just act like it’s the most normal thing in the world. Women get their behavioural cues from you. If you feel ashamed or awkward she will feel it. But the fact that your dick works with some girls and not others obviously shows it’s a psychological issue

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is performance anxiety.

Get her to perform to earn your approval. Not the other way around.

[–]Dimenzije90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is it, i still have a lot to learn but luckly i found TRP at age 21

[–]vondoom9000 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is a new thing right? Like the generation brought up on internet porn. How and why is it happening? Like the 6/7 is a gross out to you compared to porn women?

[–]kap1pa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Cause you don't care about the 6/7 so you bust your nut and you're done. The hotter chicks you want around so you try to go for a legendary sex god, which makes you too in your head which leads to the little head not getting the blood it needs

[–]Dimenzije90[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Porn has damaged a lot of my generations sex life. It can really desensetize you from a normal sexual behavior. Its weird but its real and yes it is a new thing. Idk why but 6/7s are easy and i dont feel any performace anxiety(sometimes i will go soft with them too but im not bothered and can recover again) but when it comes to hotter ones my brain is telling me to put them on the pedestal which is direct consequences of porn consumption and because of that i turn in to validation seeking and loose my frame and confidence which leads to lower sex drive. Its fucking anoying. But i am seeing better results. So i guess i should just give it more time.

[–]vondoom9000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do feel bit for younger gen. like you download some software and there's some woman with her tits out or some gif of someone shagging. Can't imagine that growing up. I'd have lost half my bodyweight in jizz.

[–]frognads0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's gaming the hotter ones I shoot myself in the dick with, fucking them is no problem. Try getting into the foreplay side of it more and yeah no jerkin/porn

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its in your head. You feel inferior/anxiety/outcome dependent with these 8s and 9s. They take steaming hot shits in the toilet each day too. Stop thinking they are the prize/being intimidated.

Get a viagra on hand and pop it 30mins before you wanna fuck. This should get your head in the game and then you can ween off/stop using it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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