I have a girlfriend and she is being hit on by some other dude. I have been trying to apply the red pill to my life for the past year yet its left me feeling pretty insecure.

The options don't seem very good. I can ignore it completely and feel like shit about it and wonder if my girl is cheating or not.

I can claim her and make her not talk to him and come off insecure and controlling.

Or I can dump her, which I would not like to do. At the moment dumping her feels like the best option but I would like to avoid that.

How do I get rid of this other guy without coming off insecure?