I've come to a realization that I'd love some advice on. I am 31, smart, good looking, articulate, and attractive enough for friends and ladies to keep around when convenient.

However, I am invisible. At parties, people walk right by. The things I say and do in public, by result, leave people bored. I have lost any sort of ability to have an effect on people, to charm them convincingly, to command their attention.

To be clear, I have little trouble getting laid. But that's not all I want anymore - I want to have an effect on people. And the kind of effect I want to have boils over from being an energetic, interesting person on the inside and overflows into a charming and magnetic personality on the outside.

I've been getting into acting the past few years, with relatively great success - in a few weeks I'll be joining my first Improv comedy group. Any other suggestions as to how to get out of my head, live life more loosely and really demonstrate value for people on the spot? I know these problems tend to stem from a deep lack of self-belief, and maybe this is still where my work needs to be. I'd appreciate any helpful words though, thanks.