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How do you guys find the time for women?

April 29, 2021

Early 20’s, trying to invest in myself/my career. It’s practically impossible to do anything on the weekdays with work, gym and other personal development activities.

When it comes to the weekends I got my boys on Saturday’s and then whoever else is tryna kick it that weekend. I find myself not having nearly enough time for my friends, plates and potential prospects. Since I’m never gonna put women before myself, my career, my purpose or my bros I just find myself missing out on tons of opportunity to rail some thots. Which is fine since I can say been there done that and I understand it’s not all that but it’s still nice to do.

Is it simply a matter of deciding what I value and prioritize? I’m damn efficient with my time too. No video games, very limited social media usage, limited time spent on bullshit, etc. How do you guys find the time for women?

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Title How do you guys find the time for women?
Author KingGerbz
Upvotes 49
Comments 33
Date April 29, 2021 3:09 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]somebullshitrp 73 points74 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You fit girls in around the other stuff you're doing.

Going out with the boys some night? Have something lined up for afterwards; or meet a girl when you're out.

It's not hard if you're nailing your shit, and you don't need a lot of spare time for women. Women should be a significantly smaller part of most people's lives than they are.

If you're taking about an LTR, they should be willing to fit in where they can... Otherwise they better be a fucking heart surgeon, or doing something critical for mankind in order for you to sacrifice your time for them.

Prioritize yourself... Which might included setting aside a few hours a week to pick up new women, if that's important to you- but don't sacrifice the life you want.

Balance in all things.

[–]curvedbymykind 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]SIR_SKINNYPENIS69 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No idea lad, I can only fit them in on Saturdays and Sundays I usually like to just have alone time. Weekdays like you say are filled with work, gym, and sleep. I'll have at best 2 hours after I get home before bed, and some of that is spent cooking. Welcome to adulthood. I guess some guys here can function on less sleep and do it that way?

[–]chrischeungchug 32 points33 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I don't. After doing half a thousand cold approaches and dating different women, I am clear on what I want now and what kind of woman and marriage will support my mission. I've moved on from a machine gun approach to a sniper rifle approach.

In your shoes, I'd focus on cold approaching in your every day life. Don't wuss out and talk yourself out of approaching a woman when you're getting groceries, going to the bank, and waiting at a train station.

[–]ChadCyrus 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Isn't sniper approach what Billy beta does to get oneitis?

[–]4everrekt 26 points27 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Billy Beta is too afraid to approach, and not secure enough to be selective

[–]plainbread11 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Billy Beta approaches one girl and thinks she’s the one, and stays even as she walks over him.

Real man approaches girls he likes and is confident enough to leave if she isn’t a good fit.

[–]SenorTonto 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

wanting a relationship and being selective is not oneitis. oneitis is putting a chick on a pedestal

[–]____Weabooo_V2 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]superbad4life 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In short, there is a bit of prioritization but the priority doesn't need to have women as the focus. If a woman or getting some thots is important, you'll make time for them. If you don't have time to meet them, you probably don't have much time to rail them either.

When you're kicking it with the boys, where you doing it? If you're over at one of their cribs and no one invites girls, I guarantee you won't meet any women that night. Now we switch the place up and go to a bar or a club. Still kicking it with the boys, but now we're in an environment that we can at least approach women. Set yourself up for success!

[–]Alittihad01 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The exact meaning of living a dream life is BALANCE . gym , pussy , crew , family , money!

it's an important art to combine these things and enjoy , otherwise making money is easy when you masturbate and don't have fun!
being around guys is easy when you don't think about business and bitches , balance is the key.

do your things more deeply , more focused so you'll find more time!

pussy is the last priority in your case , but you should still manage to get some dates and sex in every week or every other week , or your life will be boring soon.

[–]CoachOcelot 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was the same in my early 20s, bro. Don't worry about it. If you are on your purpose, the right women will come to you. Don't worry about making time for them or dropping anything else. Be on your purpose in your early to mid 20s at least. You'll find that people and activities naturally fall away over time and the time you need for the things you are worrying about now will present itself when necessary.

You're doing the right thing. Keep at it and make sure you never fall into the trap of chasing women and losing your focus.

[–]shouldergirdle 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are always busy focusing on yourself. You focus on self improvement. You prioritize Bros over Hoes..............

This gentlemen, is how it is done. This is the correct attitude to have in your early 20s.

Additionally, this is the attitude that is most appealing to women.

Well done!

[–]stuckmeformypaper 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Usually it's easier in your early 20s. Everyone's got time for some dates. Unless you have kids or work 80 a week.

[–]throwawayburner2021 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

105 hour work weeks

[–]stuckmeformypaper 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hey if that's what you're meant to be doing, other things have to wait. Or your social life works on narrow windows. Whatever it is, purpose comes first.

[–]throwawayburner2021 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep. “A life of fulfilment comes through a life of service, to others”.

[–]TheDevilPutD 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Whatever excuse floats your boat.

[–]masmiester 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Truth! ... fact is guys gotta trim down on other stuff If they really want to get the time to get good approaching/ improve their game.

OP clearly isn't invested enough to want this..... its a nice dream for him.

To anyone reading this - obviously there is a balance in life but this should be a very important part of your life and you should make the time to get experice and practice ( out approaching/dating) - that is how you get better.

[–]thegreyone3000 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is it simply a matter of deciding what I value and prioritize? - Yes. Take it from me though. Don't make them numero uno. I did this from 18 to 27 and fucking wasted my 20's like a bum.

[–]KurkTheMagnificent 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You don't. I only do it when it's convenient for me. Don't go out of the way just to get some hole. They'll show up in your daily activities if you're doing high quality things.

[–]ReasonableWealth 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, value and prioritize, or cut back on sleep. Spending time grinding will put you ahead in your career and finances but will put you behind in experiences with women. Remember that being successful with women is also a large part of being a respected masculine man. Guys will say focus on your purpose but ignore them. Do both, prioritize your purpose, but still make time for women or else you'll be like those dudes that got money but have to trick off because they have no game or practice with women.

[–]LibertarianLibertine 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You don't have 2-3 hours a week spare one night to bang a girl? I don't get your schedule.

[–]TroubleGettin2Reddit 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

People living life on max have women appearing in activities they do. Everything is natural for them and we will never have the same life.

"So what are you gonna do, bitch about it and cry?"

Nah, just gonna end it all so I can be reincarnated

[–]ultrasuperthrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My dad was redpilled so he gave me a trust fund.

[–]kcuhcabbub 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You let the girls chase you. You chase your purpose and the girls will chase you

[–]-since 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I never touched girls till i was late 20s unless it was a quick plate.

For one i never gave a shit about girls

Number two, most of the time it took at least a couple dates and logistics work which I did not have to rail them.

You decide for yourself based on your priorities, values, and situation.

[–]AlphaletePornstar -3 points-2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Go out on Thursday’s, Fridays? Just be back at a decent time like 2:30am

[–]alt483838 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I wake up at 5

[–]superbad4life 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

2.5 hours King, how much you need?

[–]alt483838 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

6 minimum or I sleep through all my alarms

[–]HeungMinSwan 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i wish i could function on 6. i need 8 minimum or i cant focus all day. i am 19 though

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