How do you handle dark ( depressive) days ?

CompetitiveAd4912 · 2021-01-09T22:13:07+00:00

Just accept feeling bad and realize that every feeling is temporary and will eventually pass

Majestic_Bed_5576 · 2021-01-09T22:15:17+00:00

You are literally fine bro, if you are working on improving yourself and are happy with your life. Everyone has those depressive thoughts sometimes, and having them for 10% of the time is literally nothing. I am pretty sure highly successful people feel depression sometimes too, it just means you are human. Keep grinding and keep working on yourself. Wish you all the best.

PunjabiDegenerate · 2021-01-09T23:16:59+00:00

Lol your having sex with multiple partners during a lockdown ; you’re doing eons better than most losers like me trapped at home with old people

IMADETHIS14 · 2021-01-09T22:33:39+00:00

Give meditation a go, don’t try and fight the bad days, let it happen from a point of understanding why, once you do this the bad days become less frequent

kingofsnake96 · 2021-01-09T22:35:12+00:00

There's no good times without bad times bro we all have them , I'd say 10/20% bad days is normal ?

Smerdakas · 2021-01-09T23:57:55+00:00

Not sure if applicable to you, but many people have vitamin D deficiency especially during the winter months, and even more now because of lockdown. Apparently low vit D levels affect the mood, so I'd think about supplementing.

MemeroniPeperoni · 2021-01-09T23:15:01+00:00

I get these days every once in awhile as well, and today happened to be one of them. I was in bed until 3pm with no motivation to get up to work out but one of my roommates came into my room and had me do a smelling salt with him. Idk what it is about them but they really wake you up, fill you with energy, and clear your head. I'm thinking about getting a pack of my own from Amazon for similar days

thesoloronin · 2021-01-10T05:32:00+00:00

You’re in a much better than my position.

I still live with my parents because houses where I live cost $175,000 (for a 3,000 occupancy apartment) and above, and $300,000 and above (for sub-1,000 occupancy and landed unfurnished properties) while our average wage is $850-$1,250. Dollar-to-dollar speaking.

And with that regards, my only 2 plates have dropped by New Year’s Eve and it’s pretty hard to score lately as our daily cases have broken new high yesterday.

doloboi · 2021-01-09T22:46:07+00:00

If that’s only 10% of the time I don’t see a problem. Having some form of shitty feelings are normal.

Architecture_Nut · 2021-01-09T23:17:52+00:00

I lift and smash.

mushman59 · 2021-01-11T02:57:15+00:00

Cold Fucking Shower
Drink water
Meditate (Try Wif Hof Method)
Exercise (oh, you feel like shit? Drop and give me 20)
Light Therapy Lamp (probably a placebo but it works for me so fuck it)

I get seasonal depression and currently battling PMO addiction. After doing all these things it kicks my ass into shape.

Edit: added numbers

AceMav21 · 2021-01-10T01:00:20+00:00

Buy a GSXR600

Rimefang · 2021-01-10T00:45:52+00:00

It is what it is.

gmahogany · 2021-01-10T03:51:03+00:00

On those days I just do whatever is needed to be roughly on the right path and go to bed early. I'll lift, eat well enough to support the lifting, maybe go on a hike/spend some time out in nature alone to clear my head. Usually I feel a bit better after that.

If I can crash early after a shitty day, I tend to wake up early fired up the next day. I also haven't gotten laid in ~6 months and don't have many opportunities to meet women right now, that's been getting to me recently. IDK man life's not awesome in every aspect all the time. Seems to always feel like you're ONE piece away from making it, then when you get that missing piece, something else falls apart and now that's the missing piece. Such is life.

dynospectrum7 · 2021-01-10T04:04:15+00:00

May sound lame, but all you can do is look forward to a better tomorrow.

fushiguro_megumi · 2021-01-10T05:11:23+00:00

You can't be happy all the time. But you can be content and at ease knowing that all feelings pass.

hiddenpersona · 2021-01-10T05:33:55+00:00

Accept it, see it as the dark times in a video game or movies. Get yourself in mood. Put a hoodie on, play some lo fi beats music, cook your dinner, go to gym, wake up early, plan and visualize your future.

Just know those days will pass and you will come out better than ever. Find some new hobbies and interests man.

Yes socializing is missed but fuck it, you can’t right now. Focus on other shit you’ve been lacking or never considered or interested before.

yacrazu · 2021-01-10T10:52:11+00:00

Take one day a week where you don't "get shit done", just go for a hike and enjoy whatever your hobbies/interests are. Nature is the ultimate healer for depression. Get some houseplants. Read great books next to them daily. Check your natural light intake. Write. Relax.

Snowboard18 · 2021-01-10T22:25:15+00:00

What I do is simple, I do nothing about it. I don’t try to keep myself extra busy to try and hide from my thoughts, I just feel them fully and roll with it

Ben_Eszes · 2021-01-11T01:38:55+00:00

Use those rare depressive days as ones to evaluate your basic needs: food, sleep, exercise, sunlight, etc. A bad day doesn't necessarily mean that you're lacking in those areas, but it's always a good reminder to make sure they're in check.

iaurtgl · 2021-01-09T22:35:27+00:00

Hey man I know how you feel, I’ve been in the self-improvement grind for about 18 months now (am now 21) but I’ve only recently found red pill (like around Christmas sort of recently).

This happens, especially during lockdown. The key is to not try fight it and pretend it’s not there, I know there’s a huge “must be Alpha 24/7” mentality here, but having a day to yourself just to catch a breather/recharge is needed to do this long term. My only advice is to make sure you do your non-negotiable tasks no matter what (gym as an example) and the rest of the day just take it easy, you’ll feel better if you still manage to accomplish something on your off days. You should also look into mindfulness, it helped me greatly in terms of acknowledging and processing all types of feelings/emotions.

There’s only better days ahead. Because of lockdown/poor luck I haven’t hooked up with a girl the entirety of 2020, shit can eat you away sometimes. We just gotta keep doing what we doing

IchBinDieMadness · 2021-01-09T23:22:22+00:00

Bad days are normal, but if you feel shit for more than two weeks go see help. Bad mental health destroys life, trust me

4Y4ChctXyXwX5AVwNMk9 · 2021-01-09T23:25:53+00:00

I look in the mirror.

SteveStJohn · 2021-01-10T00:15:20+00:00

Same situation, but higher than 10% for me. I watch Wes while I work out. https://youtu.be/naAsOey5Dno

jackandjill22 · 2021-01-10T00:43:38+00:00

I don't know what your problem is then tbh

StackRedemption · 2021-01-10T08:18:35+00:00

What are those? Never heard of

319Skew · 2021-01-10T15:12:22+00:00

How do you have plates and be on lockdown?

JackTheRipper_17 · 2021-01-10T17:43:16+00:00

skizoids · 2021-01-09T23:52:08+00:00

Masturbate.

throw-away-1709 · 2021-01-10T08:35:56+00:00

Light a candle.

TheSpiciestSalsa · 2021-01-09T22:45:40+00:00

I still fail to understand people who HATE staying at home...enjoy your free time while us essential workers bust our asses fool.

Title	How do you handle dark ( depressive) days ?
Author	swimminginblue
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Date	January 9, 2021 10:01 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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