I'm 31, and a "ginger". Jokes aside, it's not the hair-color itself that sucks, but the fact that I'm pasty as hell, and my arms have a lot of freckles. I quite literally cannot tan. As in, part of the "redhead gene" means your skin sucks and just creates freckles instead of tanning.

This is, genetically speaking, a sign of weakness. So, it makes sense that it would also be perceived as weakness. Doesn't matter how much I like being outside, I'm always going to look like some dork who never goes outside. It also limits me to pretty bland color options, and I feel like shorts look like shit me on no matter what, because my legs are pale.

I know it's super easy to say "sucks to be you, ginger", but I'm legitimately trying to pick myself up here. But I honestly just hate looking in a mirror or seeing pictures of myself. I feel like "how I look" winds up being at odds with "the guy I should be".

How do you work on that?