How to become OBSESSED with success?

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-10-17T01:29:28+00:00

Aristotle said, greatness is a habit. The best way to build a habit is to chain it to another one. Eventually you have what we call "structure" in your life. Clearest example, when I get off work, I go to the gym. I always go to work so I always go to the gym. Build a structure of success.

PokeyTifu99 · 2020-10-17T03:23:15+00:00

Set goals man.

For me its always been Smart goals.

Specified Measurable Achievable Rewarding Timebound

I set up a shit ton of them and I grind man.

Wake up early, hit the gym, don't waste your time. I give myself some leisure time surely but if you aren't working to better yourself in some way each day then what the fuck are you doing. Lift, eat right, stack money.

Right now I just decided to go back to school to finish my masters before the end of 2023. Make it something achievable, rewarding, set a time limit on yourself. Most important question I ask myself before I do something.

"Is what I'm doing now, going to help me achieve my goals?" if not, then I don't fuck with it. I was a pot head stoner loser 12 years ago in high school, I worked one day at a time. I started lifting to build my self confidence, that was the most important step. You need feel good chemicals to be released to stay motivated.

1 thing man, from someone who used to struggle with depression when I was younger, you have to eat healthy. Stay away from shit food, and drink a gallon of water a day and get adequate sleep. Sleep, exercise, and diet are the most important parts of life to regulate your mood. You want high test and motivation? Pay attention to those three.

ForeverInYou · 2020-10-17T02:34:08+00:00

Well success must be the 1# important thing. Drop porn, sugar, dumb friends, dumb people, dumb habits. Make it so the only thing that fills your brain with good chemicals is success in what you want. Easier said then done

misls · 2020-10-17T01:01:48+00:00

Being driven by something that lights a fire in your heart. For me, it was/is martial arts. Putting your drive into action is how to become OBSESSED. Being obsessed with something that drives you is animalistic at its core, it makes you feel alive.. It's easier to push a car that's moving than it is to push one that is static. Build off of momentum, don't let yourself regress too much if you're going to fall off.. I fucked up by letting myself fall off during quarantine and not picking myself up. I'm trying to find that animal again in me.

Man, after Kobe died for a while after I became obsessed with his work ethic and drive. I was doing literally everything at an intensity I didn't know I could. I was OBSESSED with success, believing I could literally do anything I wanted because I saw how powerful action is. I now use Covid as an excuse to sink back into mediocrity. Waiting for the animal to reawaken. This video is something I watched every single day. Watch it and learn. Adapt his mindset.

THdz101 · 2020-10-17T02:28:35+00:00

Gotta get 1% better every day this will compound greatly overtime. Kobe built his drive and dedication overtime.

cali323231 · 2020-10-17T04:26:48+00:00

Here are my reasons

• I have a purpose for wanting success

I want to provide my family with everything. They worked hard for me when I was young. I could only get so much since I was raised with immigrant parents in the US. They did provide everything and I want them to have everything now. Not just my parents but my sisters.

• I have a natural urge for wanting success

I get a high whenever I beat someone. I channeled my hate towards myself whenever I failed to aim to go higher. To not hide from the uncomfortable, but move towards it. The high is great. I follow the saying “The only failure is never trying” or something like that. Also family has a drive to be better. And I feel it.

• i surround myself with people who strive for more.

I go to the gym. At work, i surround myself with people who are in higher positions, even when I started out on the low end of the totem pole. I FaceTime my family / text. My friends have high ambition (one became a network technician in 6 months). You can feel the energy.

This goes both ways. If you surround yourself with lazy people...

brngamer · 2020-10-17T08:59:19+00:00

Mediocre is painful. Success is painful. Chose your pain.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-10-17T06:14:27+00:00

Mission is what keeps you driven over long term.

It is a marathon afterall.

Start with 'why?'

Once that it clear -- how, what, when will become clear as well.

BlackSeaGull99 · 2020-10-17T10:34:17+00:00

I don't have an answer for you since I struggle with the same thing. One thing I can say is figure it out quickly and start working on yourself day and night or you will suffer the consequences later in life. I am 30yo and was cruising in my 20s not doing much work on myself and never building long lasting good habits and now I suffer big time the consequences. You don't wanna be in my position when you are 30, trust me. Do whatever you have to do to get stuff done or the regret will kill you.

https://wallstreetplayboys.com/the-only-four-things-that-matter/

2020-10-17T09:09:16+00:00

One word - Why

What is your why

strongsovereign · 2020-10-17T10:50:28+00:00

Nothing fails like success buddy. Be careful what you wish for, you might get it. We are captivated by success because we are not materialists, we are abstractionists. Our interpretations of success have become very shallow, and we tend to idolize success that is driven heavily on power, but you should think thoroughly whether that is really what you want. Change usually happens from the inside out, and while bad habits and lack of discipline are counter-productive, the phenomenon of boredom, for instance, can be very fascinating.

Contrary to popular belief, you really can't force yourself to succeed, because there is no one separate from you who will force you to succeed. Therefore, you must first come to yourself. And, then, know exactly what you want, clearly, write a 2-page essay of what your idea of heaven is. Success holds many different connotations, many driven by materialistic wealth, but if you measure your life's richness by measuring wealth, you probably lead a very superficial lifestyle. Educate yourself, read great books, work out, become immersed in your passion and become incredible proficient in it, and then, build a natural structure around hobbies you genuinely enjoy and then re-evaluate your essay and see if you're missing anything.

So much in life has to do with great taste and good sense, and the most powerful thing you can do is educate yourself and become content with yourself, any ideas you have about yourself are merely rooted in your ego, forget about it, stop identifying with it. Look around you now, it's all here buddy. Make a life for yourself, and do not assume you must suffer hard to be content with yourself as you are now, that is absolute bogus most people sell you on. All the power is with you from the start, but we have been fed this idea that you must earn it and that the more you suffer, the more it will feel like you have really earned it. While suffering brings with it fantastic growth, it should not be a measure of character alone. If you love what you are doing with life, it will not feel like work, it will feel more like play. So, to conclude, figure out a way to get paid for playing, because the sensible person gets paid for what he enjoys doing.

Goodluck, SS.

guccibans · 2020-10-17T13:08:11+00:00

Compare yourself to men who are more successful than you and who possess the qualities you desire. Make an actual effort to be friends with them, or even force a relationship if you have to. You most likely have a shitty social circle or friends that don’t do jack shit with their time.

I legit walked up to a guy at my uni gym who looked like an IFBB pro (I’m decently built myself but this dude was next level) and asked for his snap, worked out with him the next day and he fucked up my shoulders. He had a much higher intensity in his workouts and I saw how it led to massive growth. He was more obsessed than me at being aesthetic. I connected with a guy in one of my zoom classes who was getting better job offers than me, and now I have an offer from a big 4 firm starting next year through his networking connections. He was more obsessed than me at building his career.

It’s hard to become obsessed with success when your baseline is the people around you that aren’t doing shit. Do you play a lot of video games? Do you engage in gluttonous eating habits? Reflect on your own choices and your reasons for justifying why they are okay. Imagine what a more successful man would think watching you engage in these habits. Change your perspective to the point where you reject these bad habits and even look down on those who engage in them.

testfreak377 · 2020-10-17T06:38:55+00:00

Figure out what you need to do to be successful, aka make a game plan. Figure out what new habits you need to develop to hit your goals. Whatever bad habits you have now slowly wean off them while building your new habits.

Once success is a habit you no longer need discipline AS much. Still gotta grind for sure. You can also use supplements and pharmaceuticals to increase your drive

RevolutionaryPea7 · 2020-10-17T09:43:27+00:00

IMO it's unhealthy to be obsessed with anything. Even if you were to become obsessed with success you'd never be happy because you'd never make it. There would always be another frontier that you are chasing.

Stoicism is the key to happiness, not success.

sportsdude523 · 2020-10-17T03:20:11+00:00

find structure in your life. it's important.

connect with a time in your life where you had it, so you can recapture hte feeling and more easily implement it.

life can be overwhelming with options. so structure, and pick and choose wisely.

beardestbird · 2020-10-17T07:20:11+00:00

I’ve seen people say “habit” for everything and honestly dude that’s literally what everything is. I found it hard to stick to a diet. At a certain point I’d quit. But once I finally just did it regardless of how I felt it became easier.

That’s really what it takes for something to stick.

I’m in the same boat as you honestly. I’ve been messing up studying for my classes and not going as hard and sleeping improperly. If I just change it once and stick to it it’ll become natural.

Seriously good luck. Kobe was alpha as fuck

AlpacaStrap2 · 2020-10-17T07:09:24+00:00

Stop crying to start

ev3rynightfireworks · 2020-10-17T07:26:58+00:00

I used to be growth mindset oriented and think that I am deep down, after coming out of a relationship I just started to believe some people have it and some do not.

I can’t help but wonder if maybe it was not hard work but genetics or luck or something.

michael1962-01 · 2020-10-17T07:29:50+00:00

Stop 'I want to'

Just do it. From morning to night. Do every necessary thing for your goal.

J u s t . D o . I t .

Paypal me for the motivation course. 25$

ProdigyPizza · 2020-10-17T09:25:14+00:00

Ah yes the mamba mentality

aarrick · 2020-10-17T10:48:21+00:00

Discipline. It’s simple, but not easy.

Change your diet, and change your workout schedule. Stop doing drugs, stop drinking alcohol, stop watching TV, stop watching pornography.

If you do all the above, I guarantee you will get serious and get to work. 100% guaranteed or your money back

dolmino91 · 2020-10-17T11:36:34+00:00

I recently reflected back on the career of Kobe Bryant.

And it was all for nothing if you just die young and can't take your money and fame with you.

If you are mediocre than you must realize that people like Kobe are 1 in a million (or more), no one on these sorts of sites will be 'top 20%' males. That's just luck, coming from rich families and genetics.

Hyperdude · 2020-10-17T12:40:16+00:00

There a book I recommend reading. "Think and grow rich" talks all about mindset and fears you might have.

moldovan0731 · 2020-10-17T12:44:53+00:00

https://youtu.be/L6Gcv5jfPs0

letmereadthatshit · 2020-10-17T14:31:30+00:00

Why live in mediocrity when you can or have all the tools needed to be successful?

dankturtle3440 · 2020-10-17T14:58:49+00:00

You are not a mediocre lazy loser. You simply chose to have the life of a mediocre lazy loser. Start making small, CONSISTENT, choices that take you towards the life of a non-mediocre non-lazy winner, and get more positive input.

I suggest reading these books for a start- - "The Compound Effect" by Darren Hardy - "Extreme Ownership: How U. S. NAVY Seals Lead and Win" by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

If you prefer hard copies, get them. If you prefer digital copies, I have the PDFs for both, please feel free to direct message me and I'll gladly give you access (also for anyone else who reads this)

I would love to help a brother(s) out

2020-10-17T15:14:12+00:00

Everything is life or death. Kobe lived everyday like it was his last and look what he accomplished before he died and how short his life was. Live as if you’ll die tomorrow. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy. Embrace the struggle to achieve your goals. View as life or death because it is. If you’re not growing then your just living to die. Great question. Mamba out!

Watch this: https://youtu.be/tjFhjq5EfBY

me76h · 2020-10-17T16:00:58+00:00

It's a new thing. You must think about how you think and what makes you tick. Emotions or pain or just ambition. Once you are connected to this part of yourself then learn strategy. Niccolo machiavelli and other strategists. Treat it like a game!

cluelessguitarist · 2020-10-17T17:26:25+00:00

Get obsessed with finding your purpose, that will bring success

gggg8884 · 2020-10-17T19:20:34+00:00

I read most of the comments, reset my password on my 10 year old reddit account to make my first post (a reply to your thread)

It's a good question, most of you have good replies. The guy selling his course (fuck off)

My advice would be, smoke Indica kush strains in moderation if you can get it at a good price, only smoke Sativa at night if that's all you have but avoid Sativa (and I've smoked Sativa for 4 years before I made the switch after obtaining OG Kush by accident).

If you smoke rolling tobacco you're lazy, if you smoke cigarettes you're stupid. If you vape, that's gay. Stick to zig-zag rolling papers, the small-medium ones, same size as cigarettes. If you really have money buy backwoods and rolls blunts, but assuming you're average financially, just get the slow-burning zig-zags small-to-medium.

And smoke Indica kush strains. It's only after like 5 years of smoking that I realize not stocking up on high grade Indica kush strains has been the most retarded thing in my life.

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If Indica kush isn't the love of your life, you're a kid.

God Bless Marijuana (Indica kush),

Winner checking out

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-10-18T01:52:27+00:00

if u obsess over self improvement, by definition, youll become obsessed with success

dtyler86 · 2020-10-17T07:04:06+00:00

Honestly, read. Find yourself reading/listening to Think and Grow Rich repeatedly. Seriously. And then read more. You’ll get it under your skin

bachbozo · 2020-10-17T05:51:00+00:00

Psilocybin/The Carnivore Diet

nixon993 · 2020-10-17T12:14:42+00:00

You are going to die anyway

Title	How to become OBSESSED with success?
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