How to best handle a non-response to date confirmation?

oldredder · 2016-07-15T09:30:58+00:00

just set up more dates for the same time then whichever one doesn't flake you flake on the others.

Also it's really dumb to invite women you don't know to your place. Any story at all could be made up and you'd be fucked. You're setting yourself up for robbery or false rape accusations.

Motel rooms are cheaper than lawyers

[deleted] · 2016-07-16T10:26:12+00:00

If they don't respond they aren't coming, your schedule just got freed up.

I don't almost the exact same thing with tinder, but even more brief:

On the 3rd message I invite the girl over to my place, then get her number. Really no conversation at all, I just invite the girl to my place.

Don't listen to anyone who tells you this doesn't work, ive fucked 6 tinder girls in 3 months by doing this, and I've probably put a grand total of 10 hours into tinder. Talk about low effort high reward.

Keep doing what you're doing

lionofthejungle · 2016-07-15T03:49:25+00:00

Even if you SMV was really high, most women would hesitate to simply walk into a stranger's home for dinner. I mean, you could be a fat, bald, 60 year old freakazoid.

Think logically - if you were a woman, would you do it?

You need to stop being so lazy. You don't have to invest a lot. Invite her out for a drink so that she can see you, escalate, then find an excuse to go back to your place.

asrhx4 · 2016-07-15T03:05:06+00:00

Dude I am currently in this exact situation. Ive been messaging a girl and escalating, we had a date scheduled for this weekend. She seemed excited, was sending me options, then all of a sudden since this afternoon-no reponse. I'm not even sure I should text her to ask her if we're still on for this weekend honestly because I don't want to be in a situation like you haha.

The better part of me just keeps saying fuck it-move on. But it just makes no sense to me as well. It's not that I'm upset, I want a reason or want to improve. Let me know if you get any advice on this.

frerri · 2016-07-15T03:34:47+00:00

Call her

oldredder · 2016-07-15T07:46:58+00:00

Balsamic? No wonder they stay away! Who wants vinegar on their pork chops!

If you offered "pork medallions with apple maple glaze, followed up with creeeamed red velvet cake" you will have her dripping for you.

[deleted] · 2016-07-15T03:17:11+00:00

They will probably ditch you, just say I still went and had a blast. Actually do it, go to the bar meet people put stuff up on snapchat

literallyhere · 2016-07-15T06:23:20+00:00

How far away are your cities? Laziness and anxiety could have caused her to want to back out but became too embarrassed/anxious to say so. Not that it's a good excuse for basically standing you up. For confirmation in the future I suggest calling instead of texting.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-07-15T16:05:22+00:00

Assume she's not coming.

That being said, first date at home is a bad idea, if you're ok with the results so far then you do you, but if you want to change that, go for a drink in a public place, work your magic and then head home.

Title	How to best handle a non-response to date confirmation?
Author	corsega
Upvotes	2
Comments	19
Date	July 15, 2016 2:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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