How to deal with higher status/smv males shit test?

ReadyBison6336 · 2021-01-05T17:47:26+00:00

Bruh, this reminds me of those 'Supa Hot Fire Rap Battles', check them out on YouTube, if you haven't yet, they're hilarious.

Well, most alphas around are only situational alphas and it's inevitable that they might come across a more dominant alpha. If the other person is more gifted, skilled and has more social proof, it is unwise to engage in direct confrontation. We have this notion that alphas must always compete, but ignore the fact that alphas can also collaborate. The first thing to look for in such an encounter, is to look for allegiance or atleast not engage in a direct confrontation, because it'll be a sure defeat for you.

However, sometimes we can't choose our battles, the battle chooses us. The main objective then is to not lose your frame. The moment you defend yourself to his insults at you, is the moment you declare yourself as inferior. Your apparent nonchalance to the remarks will prove your invulnerability and also make your opponent frustrated and prone to errors, which you can choose to capitalize on to bring him in your frame.

Additionally, you can use the same principles of dealing with a shit test, like agree and amplify, divert and distract, amused mastery to your advantage.

Remember, you can't always choose the battles, but you can choose the battlefield. Even the mighty Mongols used to feign retreat before pincering down on their numerically superior opponents.

RStonePT · 2021-01-05T19:08:08+00:00

Higher status men don't shit on you, They don't have to.

Chances are someone is just meeting you and doing a little banter for fun. Learn to be sociable because you're coming off as akward and alienating the people around you

kclanton80 · 2021-01-05T21:49:42+00:00

The best way to defeat a bully is to be unaffected by anything he says. Now if things ever turn physical...put your foot in his aas.

Other than that... people bully, and attack people they are threatened by, ornines they can get some sort of reaction out of.

If he cracks a joke on you and you just sit there with a blank stare. HE will look like the fool, not you.

DonuInitial · 2021-01-05T23:45:27+00:00

If someone is making jokes and everyone’s laughing, that means everyone is having fun at your expense in that moment. For you to then make it some serious matter just makes everyone else feel somber, and then you become “that negative guy”.

Everyone is clearly enjoying the show, so the only solution is to contribute in a way that makes the show even more exciting, whether at the opponents expense or your own. Swallow your pride and contribute to the fun, you might just make more friends that way. Be a likeable person, and don’t take shit personally, even if it’s personal as fuck.

michael1962-01 · 2021-01-05T12:29:18+00:00

Thats wo theoretical.

In a group setting a real alpha would not react to a insult of a minor.

If he interrupts several times he'd tell him to stop that infant behavior or leave.

If it is not his party he'd leave.

vazeline200 · 2021-01-05T11:37:34+00:00

I don’t know how to teach you to handle this because it comes with experience of knowing your audience and the type of people around you. I’d just suggest to calmly tell him to stop. Don’t let him downplay the situation. Let it be known you are serious. You don’t feel like being jokes with.

IronPlug · 2021-01-05T17:47:23+00:00

Act like they’re not even there. Don’t even turn your head, continue talking to the others as if the other never existed in the first place.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-01-05T14:23:06+00:00

this happens so rarely... is this a theory question? or actually happened to you?

if someone is Chad (higher smv = hawt) and initiates male shittesting out of the gate, and continues to rabidly engage: they are a loser/insecure.

A single banter pressure flip back is all that's normally needed (it's like pushing back, verbally) if they volley again, literally turn (blade) away from him and engage another person in a quick convo.

if he continues to talk 'at' you, simply turn your head, not your shoulders and throw an AM grenade:

(hold your finger up to your lips) "shhhh, quiet now, the adults are talking"
(shake your head side to side with a grin) "good gawd, do you have a crush on me?"

(for both, turn back to your convo target - don't wait for a reply. you don't want a reply/care to hear it)

-- or continue to look at your new convo buddy and say:

3) (make a "shooing" motion, like brushing away a gnat) "some people don't know when to shut up"

4) (shake your head 'no) "found the guy with the tiny penis!"

remember, a true high value male doesn't need to be shitting on the mere mortals around them - he's telegraphing huge insecurities in his actions, so don't play his game by his rules.

ParadiseCity22 · 2021-01-05T18:41:05+00:00

Don't hang around with annoying pieces of shit who try to belittle others to make themselves feel better. These people are toxic vampires who drain your energy. These males usually have rarely had their behaviour checked so never grow up and stop being c*nts.

Also build muscle and learn martial arts so you're not t an easy target and just in case something happens and they keep insulting you.

At least with a woman it's worth it as if she shit-tests you, you put up with it cos you can bang her after you pass it.

jjj2576 · 2021-01-05T15:13:58+00:00

STFU.

Negative Inquiry.

Don’t hang out with insufferable cunts.

cfbovernfl · 2021-01-05T19:05:02+00:00

Agree and amplify or ignore. Though guys who are actually "alpha" wouldn't be insulting you without reason in the first place. They don't have time for that. The guys who do are 'fake alphas" and who gives a shit about them.

Title	How to deal with higher status/smv males shit test?
Author	deltaghost7
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Date	January 5, 2021 10:58 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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