How to deal with insults?

MazerTag · 2021-01-08T16:20:10+00:00

If they're just busting balls, give it right back to them. They're just fucking with you.

If they're actually trying to start a fight or bully you, then punch one of them in the face. It's amazing the amount of respect a good ass whooping will instill in someone who thought they could bully you.

DrizzlyShrimp36 · 2021-01-08T17:44:20+00:00

Pressure flip. Ask them if they’re okay. “You good man? You seem a little tense” works wonders

jjj2576 · 2021-01-08T15:57:45+00:00

Why are you friends with people who insult you?

Read NMMNG and WISNIFG.

ReeeeDrumpf · 2021-01-08T17:40:14+00:00

They sound like terrible friends. Why do you keep such toxic people around?

gcaa99 · 2021-01-08T16:01:10+00:00

Great friends

friezadawn · 2021-01-08T17:40:22+00:00

Get new friends.

TigerXtrm · 2021-01-08T17:49:05+00:00

bringing up some irrelevant story that makes me seem like a pussy or something

Agree and amplify is the solution for this one. But in general it sounds like you need different friends. Fucking around with each other is normal between groups of guys, but if you're actually getting singled out with personal insults, then you need to remove yourself from the toxic situation.

cluelessguitarist · 2021-01-08T17:47:49+00:00

Bro , just because you hang out withsome doesnt mean they want the best for you, its ok to take small jabs from your buddies but if its a recurrent thing just leave them behind, they dont respect you enough so why should you either? They are probably jealous or just shitty people ,once you realize this you will start judging people by their actions and not their words. Dont waste your energy on how to insult them back go to the library or study something on how to get money.

TSHIRTTIIIIIIME · 2021-01-08T18:32:50+00:00

These are not your "friends".

DanishApollon · 2021-01-08T19:53:41+00:00

Why are you with these morons?

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-01-08T16:48:18+00:00

Level up your smv, get a better more masculine haircut(think Beckham,Meeks,Jeff seid), grow some stubble or short beard(think Beckham,Meeks,Zayn, Brodrick Hunter), groom it RELIGIOUSLY, fix your posture, walk with masculine swagger(think Thor,the Rock,Idris Elba, gosling, caville in the Witcher),eat 2-4eggs everyday, noFap and semen retention, Supplement b complex,lift heavy shit,take up space(alpha body language).

When they insult or bully you, ignore, aggree and amplify, or pressure flip them.

If they get rough, I shouldn't have to tell you the consequences for that,assuming you pee standing.

If you follow these steps:

You will be more attractive to women, look more alpha, be more alpha, and won't take shit from these clowns anymore.

"You may not like the man I've become, but I'm still a motherfucking man. Better respect or get the fuck outta dodge bruh." --tupac

Good luck homie

usedtimecapsule · 2021-01-08T17:59:27+00:00

Guessing your in high school. I had similar issues.

Punch him in the fucking face. Or physically taunt him somehow. Let him know you’re the boss.
Never talk to them again. Make new friends. I don’t talk to any of my shitty high school friends anymore. Don’t keep them around.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-01-08T20:14:33+00:00

At the end of the day, you gotta ask yourself if these friends even bring value in your life. Similar to never going back to game an ex-gf after discovering trp, always seek new friend groups.

Keep raising your SMV and you'll start joining quality social circles with people who respect and admire you. It's night and day.

Hypnot0ad · 2021-01-08T17:54:57+00:00

Agree & amplify.

If you let on that it bothers you they will key on it and do it more. If it truly bothers you let them know, and then if they continue get new friends.

ParadiseCity22 · 2021-01-08T19:48:30+00:00

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idevastate · 2021-01-08T20:09:59+00:00

Why are you friends with people like this? I ball bust my pals, but this doesn't sound like it.

trpppp123 · 2021-01-08T16:57:56+00:00

Do you lift?

Chris_in_PL · 2021-01-08T19:03:12+00:00

Don't have shitty friends. You have no obligation to keep meeting with people in your free time who aren't bringing some good into your life.

ngyuhnang · 2021-01-08T20:28:22+00:00

You are using the word “friends” wrong, honestly drop those loser friends and get better at choosing friends

Thebegmen12 · 2021-01-08T20:29:34+00:00

They are not your friends... they insult you to feel good about themselves. Get away from them.

namargolunov · 2021-01-08T23:22:12+00:00

Those are not friends

Confusuicide · 2021-01-08T22:12:44+00:00

I used to be treated like that, the key is to raise the masculine energy and either dominate a conversation or leave it. my personal advice for you is to work on your looks, meaning your body and your clothes, and also the tone of your voice would matter. Do not exchange a lot of words with this type of people and don't hang with them often.
if they insult you ignore at times, and at other times give that guy/girl a warning, something like "Do not say that again.

j_vila1980 · 2021-01-08T23:29:47+00:00

Lmao shitty fuck dick. Is that shitty dick or some?

rookieMale · 2021-01-09T00:12:26+00:00

If insults happens often, is not distributed equally among everyone , and everyone participates on your turn, You are wasting time with that group. They don't respect you. Probably because you didn't have the balls to stand up for yourself, be unaffected or leave. Distant yourself, visit and form some new circles and Work on yourself.

1tayg3r · 2021-01-09T04:12:23+00:00

I think you need to work on your self esteem bro.....Maybe you subconsciously crave acceptance from them

BigMeta · 2021-01-08T18:46:56+00:00

This is why I don't waste my time having friends.

callthedopeman · 2021-01-08T17:40:41+00:00

If they're just being an asshole to you and masquerading their words as "jokes," then call them out on their shit. I'll give an example:

You: Says something they think is stupid

Them: Calls you stupid

You: Who the fuck are you calling stupid, mother fucker?

Look them in the eyes. Feel the rage inside you. Be ready to damn near kill them (obviously don't fucking kill someone, but control the anger that you feel inside and if something escalates physically, be ready to rock their shit.). We've got a limited time on this earth. Fuck other people that want to put you down. Stand up for yourself man. I don't give a fuck if you live with them. Don't take shit from anyone. Grow a pair.

Them calling you names or bringing up irrelevant stories to make you seem like a pussy is unacceptable. Next time that happens, check those motherfuckers.

Gamedragon345 · 2021-01-08T18:29:42+00:00

just say, shut tf you dumb bitch, ill blow your ass up if you say one more word. Ill kick yo ass. fuckin asshole.

xdrunkagainx · 2021-01-08T18:56:50+00:00

Look into Agree and Amplify. Your friends are shit testing you to see if you can take it or fold.

Sad-Independence4711 · 2021-01-08T17:41:33+00:00

Embrace it, be the court jester. At the end of the day guys giving you shit doesn’t matter. Guys opinions are irrelevant, it’s women that matter. Let their busting your balls strengthen you and make you stand taller.

Tambamwham · 2021-01-08T17:50:03+00:00

Slap in the face

RStonePT · 2021-01-08T19:56:04+00:00

Irreverence.

Trust me

debes0 · 2021-01-08T22:55:49+00:00

Engage in kino

allahyardimciol · 2021-01-09T00:04:55+00:00

They treat you like shit because u are shit. If you were more confident, buff, successful or knowledgable than them, they couldn't shit on u.

ScopeSided · 2021-01-09T02:29:45+00:00

idk how old you are but any adult man wouldnt call this their friends. walk away. you will find real masculine friends who arent toxic

francis0118 · 2021-01-09T02:32:15+00:00

u sure it’s not just banter lmao

SchaeBae · 2021-01-09T04:02:37+00:00

Smile, agree and escalate, and dish it back at them and laugh. If you dish it back to them and they get mad instead of laughing, they're not your friends. A good way to respond would be "yeah, I'm such an idiot that I picked you to drink with... you turn every night into the alcohol equivalent of a food contest. I'm pretty sure I could sanitize a scalpel just by keeping it in the same room as you" (it's situational obv, here I'm ragging on him for drinking too much)

(The point is to be sarcastic and be so secure in yourself that you can actually escalate your insult without breaking a smile. And joke back on them.)

Schhwing · 2021-01-09T04:22:38+00:00

It says more about you that it is getting to you than what they are actually saying. Men interact on challenge, if you can’t mix it with the boys you need to masculine up

GloomySpeech · 2021-01-09T07:27:30+00:00

It depends.

If you take insults seriously, it means that you are incompetent, and they will lose respect for you.

If they already lost respect for you, generally it means that it is unrecoverable, and you better get new friends.

Insults may be friendly, which means busting balls. They are not serious, and the way to take it is like a half tongue joke. Irony means saying one thing, and implying the contrary. For example, you can pretend to be annoyed, implying you are not annoyed.

You can also insult somebody implying that is not an insult, but the joke is on you. You are mocking your lack of common sense, and the purpose is to make the other laugh.

That's how you have to take mocking on you: as if the other dude is actually mocking himself, for his lack of social awareness.

But a lot of losers don't get it, and they insult because they don't know what to do, and they are pretending to be cool. Those are bad as friends, because they are incompetent at joking.

So, it depends. It depends on if they are actually joking, if they have the social skill to not be insulting, it depends on your own skill, and what you did in the past.

If a group of losers insult just to pretend to be cool, and you answer the right way, making it funny, you scale up on the hierarchy, because you are funnier, and a cooler person than them.

That's the same thing with shit tests. Women bust your balls. The smartest do it jokingly, and the dumbest do it because they are dumb, and don't know what to do. On both cases if you take it seriously, you lose, and if you can take it tongue in cheek, you win.

For that reason, it is good practice to bust balls between friends. They train you to be cool with women.

L2diy · 2021-01-08T22:02:18+00:00

Bust their balls back, A&A, ignore. Be grateful you have buddies that are busting your balls. It helps you grow thicker skin.

Whisper · 2021-01-09T02:35:10+00:00

Is this something that everyone is doing to each other, or are you being singled out?

Dead_Dick_Dadz · 2021-01-08T21:32:53+00:00

Fucking retard. They're messing with you.

Title	How to deal with insults?
Author	shittyfuckdick
Upvotes	95
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Date	January 8, 2021 3:53 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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