I(22M) have always been a fit guy. I have been doing martial arts for the past 3 years and have had a couple of fights. To enhance that i have done some running and weight lifting as supplement.

I had some pain in my wrist and went to the doctor some month ago and after finally being referred to a doctor with knowlegde to this specific subject, i was told that it would be best if i got surgery. Im fine with that but the recovery time was up to a year where i cant use my hands. The doctor told me that i could refuse and i am not being forced, but the problem with my wrist would just come back sooner or later in life, so i thought i would be best to just get it over with.

I has always taken pride in being able to fight. Not saying i can beat anybody but i can give most people a tough fight. I have always thought that any man should be able to protect himself. Other than that it is a great hobby to sort of disconnect from reality and focus on sparring/practice. It has become a part of my identity and now i dont know how to fill out that empty hole.

And now i dont feel like a man. Im gonna be a fucking retard, that cant do shit with his hands. Cant fight, cant lift anything. It makes me so devastated and depressed. I dont know how to handle this when friends or girlfriend will try to tease me with this issue and test my masculinity. Because for the first time in a long time i feel insecure, where as i always felt confident before.

Im at a low and dont know how to deal with it. Any advice would be much appreciated