How to get gf to give more bj's without seeming butt hurt.

the-bum-hammer · 2017-02-14T17:11:29+00:00

So my gf isn't the biggest fan of giving bj's.

She would be if you were the "prize" to her.

This girl is also an ltr.

So, you made a girl who doesn't give blowjobs that often a girlfriend?

"Blowjobs aren't everything..." But they are, aren't they? Your woman wanting to give you pleasure? Why one would stick with a girl, long term, who doesn't want to please her man is beyond me.

For the record I'm not wanting a bj to finish because it takes to long and I'm not a huge fan of bj's to finish.

Said by a young guy whose never had a good one.

Just want a little dick sucking before penetration.

Your girl doesn't even want to suck your dick for 5 minutes. Kind of says it all.

BusterVadge · 2017-02-14T14:33:45+00:00

I bet she would give chad a bj without complaining. Be more like chad... Dread game is your friend.

mattizie · 2017-02-14T13:22:23+00:00

Just stop and do something else. My go to is gym.

If she asks why you're leaving just tell her the truth, you're bored right now, she is boring right now.

Be sure to give her a hug and kiss good bye, and squeeze her arsea bit, before you leave and be smiling.

Most likely she'll surprise you next time.

Good luck.

vandaalen · 2017-02-14T13:28:41+00:00

Dread game.

[deleted] · 2017-02-14T15:27:10+00:00

Find a side piece that will suck your dick down like a milkshake.

RedOkra · 2017-02-14T15:50:36+00:00

honestly i would just tell her that you want your dick sucked more often and if she doesn't do it you should break up with her and go find a woman that meets your needs.

Life is too short to not have it your way. Sex in a LTR is about maximizing connection and pleasing the other partner. Find someone who believes this.

FvckYourSafeSpace · 2017-02-14T14:46:03+00:00

she's not that attracted to you if she doesn't do it spontaneously or at least offer. find some new women on the side.

indianblanket · 2017-02-14T17:25:59+00:00

Wash yourself.

idgaf- · 2017-02-14T17:06:19+00:00

Just guide her head down; there is no verbal trick.

Kalidane · 2017-02-14T22:19:25+00:00

Why should she do more than she needs to?

Girls are lazy as fuck. If she doesn't need to do something to keep you around, she won't.

ThatKassiusGuy · 2017-02-14T13:15:45+00:00

I honestly don't think you're going to get anywhere, anytime soon.

However, if you're continuing to improve yourself, lifting, hobbies, blah blah blah, usual sidebar bullshit, maybe she'll suck you off more often. Or maybe she'll go suck some other guys dick instead because you clearly aren't ready for an LTR, or ready enough to introduce a TRP lifestyle into your LTR.

It's all about framing dude and it's clear you haven't set yourself up in the right light with this girl for her to blow you.

Just my thoughts matey.

FrameWalker · 2017-02-14T17:11:53+00:00

Two ideas based on sex god method.

Use your judgement on this one. Go the ultra dominant route where you pick her up put her on her knees and go to completion. Let yourself build up the week before. Focus only on your pleasure. BJ ONLY. Many girls like being taken, and this may really turn her on.
Return the favor

radioactivities9 · 2017-02-14T22:57:41+00:00

do u shave?

jasondougies · 2017-02-15T02:10:58+00:00

do you eat her?

Spaw-1-4-5 · 2017-02-17T02:49:04+00:00

I'm married and when we first got together she would not do it. Slowly over time, I just kept pushing for it.

Eventually I convinced her , "If you just suck me off to finish, we won't have a mess to clean up"

Since then, it's everytime and now she's a pro...

Just keep working at it. Also, someone said to leave and say she's boring, this is boring... do what that guy said. You can't let it bother you man because then you look like a whiny kid...

Peter_B_Long · 2017-02-15T00:59:46+00:00

My gf was the same way before trp. In fact, I wasn't even trying to specifically increase blowjobs when I learned of trp and began to apply dread game, which led to me being surprised when she told me after a few months how much she liked giving me blowjobs.

Things you want to do is 1. Apply dread game of course 2. Compliment her when she gives you a blowjob. My gf makes me cum pretty quick from a blowjob, and sometimes if I cum way too fast, I'll just joke around and tell her, "damn look how good you are, you made me cum too fast". 3. Bring it up every once in a while outside the bedroom. When you guys are sexting or sending pics, maybe you can send her a dick pic and be like "I wish your lips were around my dick right now (;" or some shit like that.

but the most important part is that you want her to want to please you. That should be the goal. If you guilt her into it, it's not going to last and the blowjobs are going to suck (not in a good way). One way to do this is to please her in bad. Fuck the shit out of her. Fuck her so good that she thinks that no other guy could fuck her better than you. when you please her, she'll want to please you.

Oh and last tip. Sometimes I don't want my gf to give me a blowjob (because I want to last longer during sex) so when she goes down on me, I'll just tell her no and start fucking her. Because I told her no, now she wants what she can't have, and maybe after you get hard again, she'll give you an unconditional blowjob.

Or you can just find someone else. Good luck.

hello_ther · 2017-02-15T01:30:53+00:00

You should reciprocate with oral on her if you don't already. Selfishness in bed isn't sexy.

Atticus_Crowley · 2017-02-15T09:58:58+00:00

I mean, rest of the comments here can be onto something. Or maybe, head just isn't something she enjoys and you're gonna have to decide if that's something your willing to deal with.

No bj's (or having to pull teeth to get one/receiving only unenthusiastic ones") is a totally acceptable deal breaker. I know plenty of women who won't consider a dude who is opposed to going down to chow town, and considering just how much of sex is us men doing all the work, having something where you can lay back and relax and have the pleasure be focused entirely on you for once should be expected.

Can try introducing 69 into your foreplay. Or start having a more dominant/rough sex style, and just grab her by the hair and force her onto her knees/while fucking her missionary, stop and move up to her chest and make her suck you a bit before going back into her pussy. Stuff like that.

Title	How to get gf to give more bj's without seeming butt hurt.
Author	Kommanderdude
Upvotes	26
Comments	50
Date	February 14, 2017 12:36 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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