How to Get Over the Feeling That It’s Too Late For You?

Shipbldr2000 · 2021-05-17T14:21:46+00:00

Ok Shittyfuckdick, we are off to a good start. I am going to go for the low-hanging fruit in this comment, then we will go after the deeper stuff that will take more time.

Get yourself a new account name and show yourself some respect. If you don't respect you then nobody else ever will.
Get some balance in your life. You are working out and that is the right thing (Can we have an AMEN from the community please!!!). You are lifting hard and your body SMV is going up! Correct me if I am wrong.... but you are working your right and your left side... Upper and lower body... correct? You have a balanced program right?
Is your self-improvement program also balanced? Are you working Body (lift + diet), intellect, and career finance also? When is the last time you busted a savage career or business move? Took on mastering something big, new, and useful? - Been a while hasn't it?

If you are not working on area #3 it is going to show up in your frame and women will see it... You will be lacking in the areas of swagger and aloofness. Women find these characteristics maddening... But that is not even the most important part:

While you are out busting a move in business or learning new things... THAT IS THE PLACE YOU ARE GOING TO MEET NEW PEOPLE!!!! That is where you are the new and interesting stranger that gets the IOI's...

So get out of your rut and get out there. Don't worry about being 26, you are still a baby :) I didn't make any real progress until my 30's because it took me that long to sort my shit out. Then I went from broke to overwhelmingly successful in 15 months when preparedness met opportunity... lost it all a couple of years later and built it back even better.

Keep yourself out there and keep fighting. Balance your improvement program, work through the lag time, and keep moving forward. They will pursue you... you will see.

BTW... either you do it every day or you don't. Fakers never win.

Get out there.

Edit for spelling

RPEdmonton · 2021-05-17T13:56:20+00:00

Man when I was in my early 20s I would get cheated on/ monkey branched etc. This was before I was RP’d. I watched a No Jumper YouTube episode where Robesman said dating gets way easier for guys in their late 20s +

I’m 28 now and this is 100% true. Lots of guys on here say men’s dating prime is in his 30s which I believe is also true

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2021-05-17T15:30:33+00:00

Lol dude you’re paranoid. 26 is nothing. It’s another lie of our society that youth is the best and adulthood is shit. You’re in your prime for the next 20 years. Just don’t let yourself go.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-05-17T15:13:10+00:00

26? That means that you have 3-4 years to set up your 30's to be awesome as fuck.

And honestly, your 20's are about figuring shit out. Making mistakes, finding your likes and dislikes.

IAmCoochieMan · 2021-05-17T14:22:45+00:00

I'm 26 as well and kind of just getting started in my life. Sure, I could've started early when I was 18 with college/a trade/working out/eating right/ect but, unless I can build a time machine, I can't change the past. Instead of dwelling on the past, create a future.

Dwelling is what got me in this situation in the first place and it will never make it better. You'll dwell and throw a pity party, never get yourself right because you should've started 4 years ago and LOOK AT THAT, it's been another year of you doing bare minimum.

Cut the past out, it's gone. Start what you wanted to do 5 years ago, TODAY.

Unless you're trying to be a surgeon, it's never too late. College is 4 years. You'd be 30 with a degree. Apprenticeships are 4-5 years, you'd be 30-31 and a journeyman. Lifting and eating right can get you jacked in 3-5 years, you'll be a jacked 29-31 year old. Learning a skill could take 2-5 years to master, ECT ECT ECT...

You're hitting 30 regardless of what the fuck you do so you NOT doing those things, isn't going to slow down time.

makeadolfgreatagain · 2021-05-17T15:34:50+00:00

Lol bro if you think 26 is too late, you're fucking nuts. You are just starting your journey into adulthood, so chill out with that negative bullshit and start improving today.

od_et_amo · 2021-05-17T17:41:36+00:00

As an 27 year old I really appreciate the positivity in this thread. So much for a 'hate sub' lol

CollectorOfBreesh · 2021-05-17T14:44:50+00:00

Best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. 2nd best time is now

KettleLogic · 2021-05-17T14:53:15+00:00

Male CMV doesn't peak til 30.

BajaGhia · 2021-05-17T14:57:36+00:00

Go to meetup.com.

Build a simple profile, its just so you can search stuff.

Find meetups in your area that interest you.

Easy.

New_Guard · 2021-05-17T16:53:59+00:00

Too late? Kid, you've barely started. Your glory years are still at least 4 years away at a minimum. Put in the work now - you'll be rewarded in your 30s.

papunigga031 · 2021-05-18T06:01:46+00:00

Stop thinking start doing.

You want friends. How exactly the fuck does lifting more get you friends?

Go talk to people. Face your weaknesses with real action TOWARD fixing those weaknesses

Alittihad01 · 2021-05-17T14:11:18+00:00

26?

bro can't you see these 50 year old grandmothers saying they're 35 , photoshop like god and act like they're a solid 10 princess on tinder? what is late

men are like wine , the older they get , the better and tastier they are ( until they keep on improving )

and bitches ? after 30 they are expired .

it's never too late , just go out and try.

T1METR4VEL · 2021-05-17T14:06:24+00:00

You’re wasting time and energy wondering if it’s too late, which it isn’t at all. So cut it out.

ObjectiveDay8 · 2021-05-17T20:53:44+00:00

You have lots of pussy getting days ahead of you my friend. You can plate and bang chicks until you’re 68 and your dick won’t work anymore.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2021-05-17T23:14:55+00:00

Self-pity of this kind is a game for women and children.

You're dealing with frustration, boredom, cognitive dissonance, a lack of plans, by indulging the self-pity hamster, spinning around in it's little narrative wheel.

The purpose of this self-pity and powerlessness narrative is a way to avoid making long term plans, (sich as planning for retirement I would imagine.) The cognitive dissonance is due to the fact that you know you should be making such plans, but you just don't wanna right now because: reasons. In this way, self-pity is one of the most common forms of Learned-Helplessness.

If you had a plan for what you're going to do on the next year or two besides show up to work in the morning and crack a couple wanks at night, you wouldn't be here.

theFlaco1998 · 2021-05-17T17:40:43+00:00

How tall are you

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-05-17T15:21:32+00:00

honestly man in my 30s now and i feel basically the same as in my 20s except i have more wisdom, more money, and i have the chiseled looks of an adult man.

all that's really changed is that i need to get more sleep and i need to be a bit more careful with exercise, nutrition, and recovery. when you see people in their 30s with guts and looking like shit, realize that that is the life they fucking chose.. all it takes to look and feel decent is to live decent, and most people are too fucking stupid and stubborn to do something as simple as that. it's not hard to be better than most people. start building good habits and lifestyle now. stop giving into your own weaknesses.

honestly man at least you were in an LTR in your 20s, that's not something to be ashamed of at all, if anything you should be proud of that. all you've gained is some wisdom and life experience, and now you feel the need for meaningful friendships, and that is absolutely something you can work to build for yourself.

NewCommonSensei · 2021-05-17T16:23:48+00:00

It’s never too late to live the life you want to live.

Your story is made of many chapters. This new beginning can be exciting and fresh! It’s all about your outlook and having positive self talk.

If you want something, like a vibrant social life, there’s a few posts about building a tribe on trp!

SeasonedRP · 2021-05-17T21:58:20+00:00

You have a lifetime to enjoy. Keep lifting and plugging away. You'll be fine.

ErectileDistention · 2021-05-18T00:19:04+00:00

I'm not going to tell you that your still young and "go get'em tiger!" Maybe it is too late, so what? Your job is to find a circumstance where you thrive right now. Life is a direction not a destination. Focusing on what you've missed is like looking for a rewind switch that doesn't exist.

StarchRunner · 2021-05-18T04:08:47+00:00

It is too late for you, old man.

319Skew · 2021-05-18T05:04:54+00:00

Fuck. If you were 25 there's a chance but then I read that you're 26 in a few months. Shit.

Sorry OP. You've got a few good months before you're locked in. Everyone knows that.

jjj2576 · 2021-05-17T17:38:42+00:00

It’s like OP never finished all of the volumes of TRM.

Title	How to Get Over the Feeling That It’s Too Late For You?
Author	shittyfuckdick
Upvotes	11
Comments	42
Date	May 17, 2021 1:49 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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