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How to make more friends in college

October 22, 2019

I recently transferred colleges and I’m currently not a freshmen. I was wondering what’s the best way to go about making friends in college not only to party (because I want to party more and have a great social life) but just to find some good in real life friends to kick it with.

A bit of background it’s not like I didn’t have friends in high school. I wasn’t popular but I was cool with the nerds and popular people I guess. Middle of the pact. I’m not some social outcast who’s never had friends. However I only talk to a few friends from high school and they are my best friends and we hangout whenever we can.

Essentially I just want more friends. Not even worried about women or anything. Where do I go, what events should I attend, how do I go about this?


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Title How to make more friends in college
Author beardestbird
Upvotes 3
Comments 8
Date October 22, 2019 8:44 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]pyth0ns6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

"Hi, how are you doing"
You'd be surprised at how many others in college are just like you and are secretly hoping someone would talk to them...

If they're snobs, fuck em; don't even bother or waste your time feeling hurt/shutdown/etc

[–]beardestbird[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks. Great logic. If they ignore me and don’t want me then I just gotta move on.

[–]cuztrp4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

the comment you just replied to is exactly my point, everyone is in your shoes now and are wishing to approach people and make new friends, but they're too shy to do so

yesterday, I saw a guy in my uni sitting in the corridor staring down people passing by like a creep instead of talking to them, don't be that guy lol

[–]somejerseydude2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Join a club, frat, intramural sports team

[–]beardestbird[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I’ll look into clubs. Anyway to be friends with fat boys without joining? Really not trying to join one.

Thanks though

[–]somejerseydude7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I DJ’d in college which got me tight with a lot of frat guys and into parties without having to pay dues or anything like that. Like anything in life if you can provide some sort of value to the group they’ll accept you.

[–]beardestbird[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Understood. I’ll try to find something I can provide of value. Thanks

[–]cuztrp3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This might sound cringe to some people, but it worked for me, and sure as hell can work for you.

The most important thing is really how you say the following, not what you're actually saying, be it with guys or girls. It doesn't really matter.

You need to choose your sample wisely. Choose people you're taking class with or people you're seeing on regular basis, physical proximity is important. Also try choosing freshmen. They will be much more receptive.

To start with, you need to say the stuff I'll give you in a deep and relaxed voice, with strong body language, basically standing with a good posture, and SLOOOOOOOOOOOOOWLY. Just be conscious of speaking x2 slower and x2 deeper, and you're golden.

Wanna know the magic words? For real.

"Hello, hey. Excuse me" *grab their attention*

"I'm new here. I'm a freshman. And... uhmm... (SLOOWW DOWN) I have no friends. I'm lonely, and I want to make new friends. " *guage their reaction* and trust me you'll know.

If they laugh, are receptive to your approach, they'll introduce themselves back and you'll take it from there.

If they don't or start acting like the world is revolving around them, fuck them. Move on to the next potential friend.

Let the converrsation flow. Don't think about TRP or PUA. Be honest, be nice, whatever the fuck works for you, just talk and get out of your bubble.

Embrace the awkwardness. People start freaking out when it's awkward while really there's nothing wrong with that. The funny thing is that EVERYONE LITERALLY WANT TO HAVE THE BALLS THAT YOU DO TO SAY THAT because it's honest and straightforward, so trust me they'll appreciate you.

Most of freshmen are too shy to do anything.

I have really made so many friends just doing that. I actually always do it. I usually go to social events alone and that's always my opener "I'm here alone and I wanna meet people". If they like me, they'll talk back, if they don't, they'll fuck off, which they're welcome to do any time in the conversation.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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