How to set boundaries without being verbal?

oytrp · 2018-09-14T18:56:10+00:00

1st one is easy: When they fuck you you give them your time. You don't do dinner, concert or whatever they want you to do until after you fuck them.

2nd one is all about how you carry yourself. If you present yourself as a high value man with options who doesn't take shit, then you will be treated as such. Do you think Tony Soprano needs to tell his bitches not to flirt with other guys?

[deleted] · 2018-09-14T17:08:58+00:00

I think sometimes you need to be verbal, when it's warranted. Then if they step out of line, respond with action. An example would be leaving the coffee shop when she's late for a date, after you verbally warned her that you'd do so.

319Skew · 2018-09-14T19:33:57+00:00

You put the pressure on her. If you're on your point she's going to lose you for someone that can provide you sex. Simple as that. If you don't create that anxiety in her then you're living with scarcity mentality by not walking away for someone that you do. She should be doing everything (intimacy) to make sure that your attention is on her. If she can fuck around then you walk away. Don't be a dick about it or butt hurt but just say something along the lines of "I don't think we're on the same page."

She's not stupid. She knows what's up. Game other girls as well. Plates need to be aware that there are other women competing for your attention.

As for her flirting with other guys, fuck you think happens when you're not around anyway? You expect a woman today to sit by her rotary phone waiting for news of you? No. They have social media and a hundred plus orbiters to feed her ego.

Don't let it bother you. Hell don't think about it because if you're gaming her right, she will be flirting but her body is yours.

Now, if she's doing in front of you, then just dump her. I tolerate zero disrespect and have made a date get out of my car and walk home before. The most precious thing I have is time and if I'm wasting it with someone that doesn't have the sense to be aware of her actions, or lacks the respect to treat me like I want to be treated, then I don't owe them anything but contempt for wasting my time and will make it aware. There's a fine line between a shit test and just being rude. Learn to place that golden standard.

Title	How to set boundaries without being verbal?
Author	Kabuki431
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	September 14, 2018 5:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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