Lets say you meet a cute chick at some event and luckily she happens to think the same about you. You walk over there and talk, things go smooth and you get her contact info and leave. The next logical step is to set an opportunity to meet in person for coffee, study sesh, etc however most girls dont usually go out of their way to meet up with someone they dont really know so how do you create enough rapport without constantly texting her and accidentally throwing yourself in her sea of orbiters? Ive had girls who i try to set up a meet with but either end up flaking or either are "soo so busy" atm. I usually next and just try to meet more chicks but i cant help but feel like im being to rash at times.

The thing is i don't necessarily want an LTR but im open to one so i just kinda want to vet girls by going on a date or two with them where i can decide if theyre plate material or ltr material. I feel like my current process might come off as too agressive to girls but I don't know how to communicate consciously or subconsciously that i simply want to "see where things go and depending on how good i feel your value to me is will decide the future relationship between us". This has led to either me placing girls in a sort of grey zone or even them doing the same to me which sort of dries up things and eventually im forced to hard next.

Any links to theory on this or even personal suggestion based on experience are greatly appreciated