How to stop being goofy funny and become sexy funny?

MattyAnon · 2018-06-06T13:44:08+00:00

How to stop being goofy funny and become sexy funny?

Great that you've realised the difference. You're not their entertainer.

Why do you need to be funny at all? You need to fix this within yourself, and you can only do this by going "cold turkey" - stopping being funny altogether.

I can't just suddenly become sexy funny after simply realizing the difference.

Actually you probably can do it near instantly when you know how. But see above about fixing in yourself why you need to be funny at all. Girls SAY they want a sense of humour and someone that makes them laugh. This is because she wants the experience of sexy-fun-and-carefree-with-a-high-value-man. NOT because she wants to fuck a comedian.

Do not self deprecate AT ALL. Ever. Just fucking stop it. It's not attractive in the way you hope it is. You are positioning yourself below her, which she'll approve of, but won't fuck you.

Have any of you go through the similar process as me? Any tips? Any resources? (books, stand up comedians, movies?)

Yes.

Ok, some hot tips:

Don't be funny for a while. You need to KNOW and to FEEL that you don't have to be funny to survive and have value.
Switch from funny to emotionally-engaging. Be challenging. Use more of an ordering-around type voice with women. Be more dominant. Don't be led.
Don't self-deprecate. Noone appreciates it, don't do it. It's just admitting defeat before you start, to get approval and avoid repercussions. It's like a pre-emptive apology. Fucking quit it. It works in romantic comedies because romantic comedies are based around female wishful thinking.

And some detail:

The emotionally engaging thing might take some time to get your head around. It's basically using talk that elicits emotion (almost any - love, hate, fear, anger, etc etc... anything except disgust. mix sex in too). Women find this hilarious, even though you're not being funny. Don't try it on friends (female and especially male) - they find it weird. But girls and especially new girls love it.

It's hard to make this concrete, because it's so situational. Paint ridiculous pictures of her antics. Make stuff up about her, then call her out on her fictional behaviour. Make it a bit sexual. Accuse her of being a stripper in the evening. When she's shocked, follow up with "yeah, but in your defence your lapdances are really cheap/expensive". (cheap is she's really hot, expensive if she's more normal).

You'll fuck this up a few times, especially at first, but you'll get the hang of it. It will really spike a woman's emotions if you do it right and they love this. But you do need to transition out of it fairly quickly or she'll be in perpetual emotionally-spiked mode and it's investment+comfort that's required for seduction.

Hope that helps

zero12three · 2018-06-06T13:18:02+00:00

You can be sexy funny by becoming, you know it, sexy

Lift. Increase your SMV. You can’t skip lifting just by being funny.

DadOnDabs · 2018-06-06T17:30:57+00:00

Goofy funny is you trying to be funny for other people.

Sexy funny is you amusing yourself.

mortalcoil1 · 2018-06-06T14:07:09+00:00

Goofy funny:

the clown: laughs a lot, makes everybody comfortable, everybody understands his jokes because he explains them if he doesn't gets laughs, waits for laughs, lots of self incriminating humor, doesn't mind being the butt of the joke, big smile, likes to explain his jokes, his humor is designed to comfort people, loves when people laughs at his jokes, after he makes a joke, he waits, with a big smile on his face, expecting praise and laughter and attention for his joke.

sexy funny:

The Oscar Wilde: never laughs, especially at his own joke, makes people uncomfortable, (not weird uncomfortable) sometimes his jokes go over people's heads or people misunderstand him, that's fine, he never explains his jokes, if you don't get his joke, you weren't worthy of it, never waits for his jokes to "hit", rare self incriminating humor, but everybody knows it's not being serious, never the butt of a joke, and if he is the butt of somebody else's joke he doesn't get mad or frustrated, he comes back twice as hard with an even better zinger, never smiles, his jokes aren't for comfort, they aren't to make other people laugh, they are to make him smirk, not laugh, if people get your jokes, then they are worthy of your attention, his jokes aren't for attention, or praise, or even laughter. His world is mysterious and the only thing he can do to survive is to have a laugh (internally) about it. Think Oscar Wilde.

I disagree with "absolutely no self deprecating humor." However, it takes a lot of skill to successfully do self deprecating humor correctly. If you don't know what you are doing, then don't do it, but a good self deprecating joke at the right time can increase attraction. Use it for comfort, not attraction. Too much of the Oscar Wilde can scare women off, but a perfect self deprecating joke during comfort can really take the edge of an interaction.

Something like, let's say you are dressed really well, or you are wearing a cool necklace or watch, and the female compliments it, first, look her right in the eye and say "thank you," and really mean it. She just gave you a compliment, reward her for it, but then smirk for half a second and say something along the lines, with 100% dead pan complete seriousness, sadly, my thong and ass-less chaps were at the cleaners, and this was all I had left to wear, then don't acknowledge you just said that, act like you just said the temperature. If she is into you, she'll have a laugh (and this will also get her thinking about your crotch and ass as a bonus) and continue the conversation, if she isn't, then there will be an awkward silence and you will tell she didn't like it, if this happens, you were probably screwed anyway, but if you notice she is uncomfortable, immediately change the conversation and pretend like you never said anything. Do not make a big deal about it. Jokes sometimes hit, jokes sometimes miss. Don't make a big deal about either. If you told a joke and she wasn't attracted enough in you, that is your own fault. Continue on like nothing happened. Remember, this is your world, this is your reality. Do not be outcome dependent.

Blckclaw · 2018-06-06T13:12:15+00:00

High trust low smv = Friendzone

_A_L_3_X_ · 2018-06-06T13:09:38+00:00

maybe double meanings?

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2018-06-06T19:19:16+00:00

It's the difference between being witty or being a clown. Figure that out and you're good to go.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-06-06T20:07:59+00:00

You are looking for "Amused Mastery". The James Bond films, particularly those starring Sean Connery, are a master class.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-06-06T19:36:07+00:00

My dad is goofy funny and it fits him because he's a "family" dad. In high school I was also a goofy funny. I was funny enough that I got attention from girls but I was too goofy so almost every girl I talked to friendzoned me.

Now that I've discovered TRP and I've been implementing the principles as much as I could, I've actually become less funny.. Or I put much less effort in being funny.

When I'm with my closest friends and we smoke a little weed, sure, I'll be goofy funny and it's a great time.

I think the main thing about being "sexy funny" is that you don't need to be "sexy funny" with everyone. When you're trying to game a girl, then that's when you become "sexy funny". The self that I act as with my friends is different than the self I act as with a girl.

Don't get me wrong, I am confident in who I am. Once I build attraction with a girl and I know she's into me, I'll have no problem bringing her around my friends and being "my self".

BUT, for building attraction.. it's a whole different ball park. This is when you flirt, this is when you neg, push / pull, escalate, etc.

I think the best advice I can give you for being "sexy funny" is to try to stop trying to come up with jokes to say. Your responses are what should be "sexy funny" (AA, Pressure Flip, etc.) Sure you can come up with fresh jokes like, "Smart decision wearing a choker. That's gonna come in handy later on." then she'll laugh and ask what you mean and you can just change the subject.

I recommend watching RSDTyler on youtube. He gives a lot of real life examples that you can implement.

Me personally, I'm very sarcastic and I say things in a serious tone but I'll be joking. For example, if a girl kisses me on the cheek and she gets lipstick on me, I'll say something like, "oh no, my wife is gonna get sooooo mad" and I'll play along with it until it's not fun anymore. She'll probably ask something like, "wait are you really married?" and I'll say, "I'll be honest, I don't have a wife. I have a husband. And he's not gonna be happy about this lipstick."

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2018-06-06T16:02:02+00:00

A couple things: 1) tie most of your humor to sex 2) when you deliver the punchline or make people laugh give the girl you want a smirk.

If you can make someone laugh it releases endorphins in the brain, make it all about sex and your cock.

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2018-06-06T16:51:01+00:00

If you are naturally funny it’s a gift, but you can’t fall into the “court jester” frame or your fucked. Girls love a guy that makes them laugh. Use it to “neg” them a little and you will be money.

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2018-06-06T16:52:46+00:00

Also don’t put your self in a 5/10 frame a good sense of humor and teasing puts you at a 7-8 easy.

UncleChido · 2018-06-06T19:05:49+00:00

Lift. Lift. Lift.

Increase your fucking SMV. I have this strength too. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt from experience, it’s that every single woman loves a funny guy. The problem is, with low SMV, it wouldn’t be sexually appreciated. However, with a high SMV, you would be a god. Increase yours.

Keep up your talent mate. Pussy is not your mission, it’s just a side dish. I sincerely tell you that a good sense of humour goes a VERY long way, in all aspects of your life.

erthian · 2018-06-06T22:05:10+00:00

Escalate. Be bold. You'll get knocked back a few times but it's the only way to get good.

Youcantbanthechamp · 2018-06-06T23:44:07+00:00

Definitely check out the YouTuber "Charisma on demand"

huge_gap · 2018-06-07T01:11:02+00:00

Lift then your goofy funny becomes sexy funny.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-06-07T07:14:06+00:00

What I have learned about humor and being funny in last few years is that. When I tried to make others laugh then ye sthey laugehd for a bit but that was it. Nothing else. But when I tried to boost my own mood with my humor when i tried to goof around for my own sake. Yes mostly everyone especially women - they didnt like it at all but they were immediatly attracted to me. So humor or not it doesnt really matter. What matters is your congruency anf are you content with yourself with your actions.

Title	How to stop being goofy funny and become sexy funny?
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Date	June 6, 2018 12:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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