How to stop taking rejection personal?

Snowboard18 · 2021-01-05T17:56:39+00:00

You go approach and get rejected 1 time, you are upset and think all girls hate you

You go approach and get rejected 10 times, your still frustrated your mostly getting rejected but you did get that one girls number and she seemed somewhat interested

You go approach 100 times, you realize that rejection happens for a variety of reasons and so why would you take it personally ? Plus you got 7 numbers and fucked one of them

You go approach 500 girls, you are learning to predict exactly what she is going to respond with when you display different levels of confidence, you couldn’t give less of a shit if she rejects you cause you have 30+ options in your phone rn plus you have 4 plates.

So to answer your question, go get rejected

ReadyBison6336 · 2021-01-05T18:58:52+00:00

You're basing your value/ self worth in her approval of you. That acts as a double whammy for you in that it makes you look weak and needy in her eyes, leading to your rejection and loss of self worth in your eyes. The more you get disapproved, the more you chase it, to be accepted not just in her eyes, but in your eyes too. This is a perfect recipe for despair and depression, my friend.

Find a purpose, which doesn't revolve around women, and work tirelessly for it. Get disciplined. Achieve something of value. Seek help. Help others in need.

Remember, if you can't respect/ love yourself, why would anyone else? Don't expect to reap the benefits, before you sow the seeds. Purpose always comes before the woman does.

bumbandit999 · 2021-01-05T18:13:52+00:00

a) stop interacting with women completely

b) get rejected more until you are numb and immune to rejections

The only time I have regretted approaching is my home gym or a similar don't shit where you eat place... Anywhere else I feel way worse for being a pussy and not going for it than getting rejected. I love rejections. I hate what ifs

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2021-01-05T17:53:46+00:00

Get rejected more.

Same exact thing happened when I first started cold approach. I got a girls number, I called her on the phone, she straight laughed and hung up on me. I felt like absolute dog shit and I came here. They told me "stop being a pussy, deal with the hurt, get rejected more."

I've since been rejected probably 200 times if you count night game. It doesn't bother me not one bit. I look forward to rejection. It begets personal growth and improvement. It sharpens the mind, makes you acutely aware of your inadequacies and how to fix them.

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-01-05T22:58:07+00:00

in what other area of your life did you never have to practice or try multiple times?

Protocol_Apollo · 2021-01-05T19:59:07+00:00

Check my profile: wrote a post about rejection.

aegeaorgnqergerh · 2021-01-06T01:29:18+00:00

First of all work out why you're being rejected and fix it.

Unless you're the Elephant Man or Rainman, this is doable.

It's natural to take it personally no matter what some people on here might say (again, Rainman being oddly fitting there....) but whatever the fuck you do, remember this is your problem and your problem to fix. It is never the girl's fault.

And kick out this "even girl that is way below me" shit - hierarchies exist for a reason. Just work at moving up the ladder rather than expecting people to climb down to your level.

inbredostrptw · 2021-01-06T04:30:45+00:00

Your problem is your frame. You determine your worth based on women’s responses to you. Start valuing yourself based on how well you live up to your own standards. Your standards should be ambitious, but realize that as long as you’re making progress you’re doing well.

Stop looking for women to tell you how good you are and know how good you are.

allahyardimciol · 2021-01-06T14:29:14+00:00

Would she reject you if you were shredded and good looking?

Title	How to stop taking rejection personal?
Author	Warframe_Immortal
Upvotes	9
Comments	18
Date	January 5, 2021 5:03 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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