Before I started applying TRP to my life, I was a very timid/quiet person. People constantly talked over me, I’d get ignored, my needs & wants would always be overlooked, etc. I work in security and I realized that this is a really bad trait to have in that field. Looking back, I think it’s a goddamn miracle I was even hired in the first place.

I’ve noticed a recurring theme in the sidebar: forget women and focus on improving yourself. Getting laid should always be secondary. So I started lifting, and I made a goal for myself. I decided that I hate being broke. I’m going to do everything in my power to get promoted at work and make more money. The obvious first step was to stop being such a pushover. I needed to be more confident at work. So I did. I started being more vocal about my needs and wants. I’m not a pussy, I don’t need to be scared of my boss, and especially not my coworkers. Of course, when I started doing this, I got shit tested a lot at first, but I apparently passed them, because I started noticing something after a few weeks. My coworkers started acting scared of me. Now, people at work actually pay attention to me when I’m talking. Things are so good that the other day, my manager called me into his office and told me there was a supervisor position open, and he encouraged me to apply for it.

I’ve been trying to act the same way in my personal life, but for some reason it just does not have the same effect. I still get ignored. My friends don’t invite me to things, and when they do I still get talked over often. What am I missing? My only theory is that maybe it’s because I don’t really have any goals in my personal life to motivate me the same way I’ve been motivated to change my attitude at work. At work, I have a clear goal: get promoted and start making more money. I know what I needed to do to achieve my goal. I don’t have anything similar to motivate me in my personal life. I want opinions, what do you think? What am I missing?