Basically I've had horrible social skills my entire life because my mother always made sure to make me feel inferior to others. I'm proud of how I've come along and I'm much better socially and have learned to command better respect.
However I find that when it comes to social battles with certain people (joker types) I simply cannot win. Most times I deflect, ignore or try to face people down. But in some cases some jokers won't give up, and while I can take a joke if someone continuously tries to make me the butt of his jokes it drives me nuts. These battles -no matter how hard I've tried- I've never been able to win, and it affects my mood (admittedly with my growing social skills it doesn't affect as long as it used to).
For a time I've come to accept my introverted nature and so I simply stay away from tense situations or people (as a therapist suggested), but I'm wondering if that's the answer?
Someone told me that the reason I'm attacked is because others around me are intimidated by -or jealous of- how well read I am. I think it explains some things, but I still don't want to feel I'm at the mercy of someone else's mood. Thanks in advance.
EDIT: I appreciate all the replies and I'm taking it into account. I managed to rile the guy up later and put him down so I'm not as upset now, but I won't be overlooking mistakes.
1)Hold frame; do not break frame. Especially with joker types (I don't mesh with these people). 2) Learn to defend yourself. The mere feeling of power and confidence will help greatly.
Thanks again.
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