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I can't eat with my girlfriend.

November 18, 2015

Simple as that. This anxiety grew on me when it first happened also happening with my close friends. I know it's anxiety, it's happened with other girls but this time it's my gf so it's a bit embarrassing.

Backstory: I'm a big extrovert, basically always been. 3rd year med student, launching an app and lifting 4 days/week. I have a pretty tight schedule so I'm often stressed. Also she's my ex from my first year of TRP. We broke up after I cheated on her (dumb me did it. Dumb me broke it off. Now it's going great, she knows about this anxiety of mine and she's supportive. Obviously though I don't talk about it too much).

Speaking has helped a lot, meditation and keeping a journal as well. But I want to go deep to the core, any help fellows RPers?

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Title I can't eat with my girlfriend.
Author Spiritualpha
Upvotes 0
Comments 19
Date November 18, 2015 4:58 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]thenemaxofredpill4 points5 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

Damn dude. You are brainwashed to the core. You cheated. So what. Who doesn't cheat? I'll tell you who...the guys who don't have many options. If you are a high value guy, chicks will be throwing themselves at you. If you are not married, you are a retard for not dipping your dick in them. But the thing is...you gotta make sure you don't cheat in a way that women care. Meaning, you fuck and forget. Do not..I repeat...do not commitment cheat. Meaning, do not spend money or much time with these side bitches. Once you start giving those side bitches commitment, then your girl should be upset.

I fuck other bitches all the time and I have been in a relationship for 6 years. My chick has even found condoms in my room (we don't live together and I don't use condoms with my main). So, she pretty much knows and has comfort tested me on the subject many times. The test always ended after I explained that those chicks were just sluts that I used when I was horny and she wasn't available. I made sure that she understood that I don't spend money on them like I do my main. I always end the conversation with "Babe, who gets to go lay on the beaches of Mexico with me? Who spent the weekend at Disney with me? Who has met my family?. She always thinks for a second and then turns into the little girl while saying "me" and she gives me a kiss.

Chicks really don't care that you sleep with other bitches as long as you are giving your commitment to them (resources). That is what they want. They want a highly desired man that only gives her his resources.

Now, guys on the other hand. Well, here is a question: Which bothers you more; your girl giving a dude 10 bucks or her sleeping with him? Exactly. Chicks would get more upset if you gave a chick 10 bucks.

[–]neptunesunrise1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

She's fucking other guys on the side. She doesn't care because your indiscretions are her green light.

[–]thenemaxofredpill1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Wanna know if your chick is fucking other guys? Answer: Is she fucking you?

Quit spewing your disinformation. Why the fuck would a chick keep fucking you if she has already secured anther man with her pussy for his resources? This is why we see tons of posts on dead bedrooms reddit. Once she stops fucking you, you better know that she is fucking someone else. However, if she is fucking you on the regular, then she isn't. Plus, I live an hour away from my main chick. You really think she would drive all the way up to fuck me if she had good dick elsewhere?

Good try though.

[–]neptunesunrise0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Now that I know she lives far away, I'd bet good money that she's sleeping with other guys.

However, if she is fucking you on the regular, then she isn't.

Who sold you this idea? Get your money back.

[–]thenemaxofredpill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not around alot of modern women are you? Do you really think they would drive an hour to fuck a dude if they didn't want to? Hell, just get on Tinder or OKC and try and pull a chick. Bitches wouldn't even drive a mile to come see you if she has better dick already.

You sound like you are still in the anger stage. It's cool. Been there, done that.

Now that I know she lives far away, I'd bet good money that she's sleeping with other guys.

I don't care. I am not married to the chick nor do I live with her.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Lol you're an absolute moron. You sound deeply insecure at trying to be an alpha. Your Gf sounds like a whore also, no self respecting women would stay with you with the knowledge that you are cheating over and over again, unless your net worth is in the millions..

[–]thenemaxofredpill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok. Keep doing you, man.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Your girlfriend sounds like a fucking dumbass and you sound like the ultimate douchebag. Any self-respecting person wouldn't accept the sorry excuses you've given her for fucking other girls...unless she's banging other guys behind your back?

Nah, that would be impossible for a guy like you.

[–]thenemaxofredpill4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

you sound like the ultimate douchebag

Thank you. Now, kindly read the Red Pill and soak up the knowledge, rookie. Cause the truth is...women love douchebags like me. That is why you are here. Because some chick your were "boyfriend" "girlfriend" with broke your poor little heart after you found out she was banging the 6'2" pool boy who is a total douchebag. I shouldn't even worry about your dumb ass. I can call her up right now and have her deliver herself to my door like fucking Pizza Hut if I wanted. But instead, I am on here trying to wake assholes up like you who still don't get it. I am tired of this country being a bunch of pussies who still think Disney stories come true. Who spend thousands of dollars of clear rocks and bow down to sluts.

But it's cool. Call me names. Say my main is fucking other dudes. Here's the kicker. I don't care. I know who I am. If she is fucking other dudes, I don't care. Why? Because I don't own her nor am I married to the chick. I live alone and do my own thing. If she leaves then she leaves. If I find out she is fucking other dudes, then I replace her. We have already taken a "break" so she can "find herself". That was short lived because the next day she ran into me and another chick having breakfast at a local hotspot. You need to stop caring, man. This is the IDAF attitude. You can't stop a chick from fucking who she wants. All you can control is your reaction to it.

[–]zenRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good advice buddy, all these pussies need to quit their whiteknight bullshit. It doesn't work here. ♂

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Like I said, being red pilled doesn't mean becoming a massive dickhead. I'm 0% plugged in but people like you make me the whole ideology look bad. As a man, I have values and not being a lying scumbag is one of them. You can be in an LTR and still have full control over your life. There's a middle ground you know.

[–]thenemaxofredpill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

not being a lying scumbag is one of them

It's all relative. I don't have your same opinion nor do I lead the same life as you so you immediately try and shame me like a woman would. Time to wake up Mr. Nice Guy. And you are still plugged in. You still believe in this whole "be honorable" BS propaganda that your mom and Disney has pushed down your throat.

Here's a reality check. If you and I were lost at sea, you better believe that if it came down to it....I would fucking eat you. Welcome to the animal kingdom. Survival of the fittest. You have rules such as, as you state, not being "a lying scumbag". Well, guess what? I will lie, cheat, steal which means that I am more willing to beat you. "Cheaters never win" - every woman in the world. You think the top 1% of men in the world didn't cheat, steal, kill? Which one of us is still plugged in?

[–]AlphaAccountant1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

1) stop you're judgmental bullshit 2) you're obviously still plugged in see https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/04/25/women-are-more-comfortable-sharing-a-lover/

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm not plugged in at all. Being red pilled doesn't mean you have to be a total scumbag either though.

[–]tip_tipperary 3 points3 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Yeah but who's at loss if he sleeps with chicks other than his LTR? He ain't stealing anything, he ain't even deceiving her (she knows about other sluts) he ain't holding a gun to her head forcing her to stay. What's so scummy about his actions? Cupcake can make a choice to drink and ride the CC wasting whatever gray matter she still has left, choose a dangerous job, whatever - and the reaction will be "You go gurrrl", or she can make an informed decision to stay with an alpha she craves regardless of him getting booty on the side - and the reaction will be "totes not her fault, Chad's a total scumbag". Finding it funny, are you?

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He is deceiving her though. He's using what he has to offer her financially as a trump card to get out of being committed to her. If you want to treat a plate that way, that's a different story entirely. But an LTR? Sorry, not buying it.

[–]2secret_barber1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Google Cognitive Therapy in your area. Hire a professional.

[–]machimus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can't eat with her? What does that have to do with any of this?

Is it spending "quality time" together? Are you wracked with guilt because you cheated on her but she's still being nice to you, and you feel like you don't deserve it?

[–]Fumblz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ill be honest here its probably the guilt. I cheated on a 2 year LTR around 3 times and I started getting high blood pressure from being so stressed out and having that on my conscience.

Could be that.

I recommend meditating 2 times a day for 5-10 minutes. Should ease your anxiety.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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