Most of the stress comes from our own imagination but this would hardly sooth the pain we feel when a very attractive women is in your line of sight. What I’m imagining is guys think of a song that plays. They are on the stage playing for the fans and the fans are both part of the act but they are not the person on the stage. So if you take an image like that of you sitting in the audience watching yourself, watch yourself get up in the morning, get dressed, go to work. Just watch yourself interact with people and eventually you really notice the difference but if you get frightened or angry then you know it’s your ego and that means you aren’t looking.