While I was dating a girl who wasn’t a plate by definition because we didn’t have sex. We were sexual at times, and close. So while I was staying at her house outta the blue some guy shows up there from another state who drove down to see her. We kept a tight knit crew so only friends and family were ever in or out of the house which led me to believe there was nothing to worry about. But I was wrong. For the first time she rejected me when I asked her to come out with me. I don’t know the specifics but somewhere around the same week she was with that guy at a concert. I remember bob Marley said if she’s worth it she won’t b easy and if she’s easy she won’t be worth it. Now I’m at a crossroads with my own integrity. My self respect. Do I proceed to pursue this girl? Taking a loss just makes me feel worse. Going no contact makes me feel like a loser. I can sleep with other women and I have two plates whom I have sex with. Neither of which I wanted to start a family with I thought it would be the girl in question. Where do I go from here?