I feel like some of my friends who are in relationships become really boring and lose their individuality

cat_magnet · 2019-01-21T23:41:03+00:00

The thing is, women lose respect for a man that does this. As much as she says she wants it, she will lose her attraction for him. Either monkey branch or just treat him like a bag of shit. She was attracted to you for who you are, you cannot change in an LTR as much as she will push you too. Be prepared to walk.

_Legendairy_ · 2019-01-21T22:05:32+00:00

This is the large majority of men. Blue pilled as fuck. Stay red pill and make red pill friends.

TheStumblingWolf · 2019-01-22T04:28:21+00:00

In the Deep sea there's something called an angler fish. The female is very large and when she mates it's done by the male attaching himself to her permanently. Most of his body disintegrates but his sperm (resources) stays available for her on demand.

I feel like this is a good metaphor for what happens.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-01-22T00:02:06+00:00

This just in: BetaFags worship pussy.

Zanford · 2019-01-21T22:26:28+00:00

This is true. And the women can sense this too (and often they are angling for it and doing what they can to socially isolate him). Also the men who let this happen will be the most crushed when dumped (and prob most likely to be dumped too)

finally_a_free_man · 2019-01-22T02:13:55+00:00

It happened to me. I have a close friend who is naturally pretty red pill minded and he used to always hate it when I would talk about my LTR problems, any lovey dovey shit about my ex, and shit like that. I finally ended a 7 year relationship lately and got my glow back after about a month of being single and needless to say, our friendship dynamic has vastly improved. He told me straight up "Bro, this is the ____ that I used to know. The guy with the dope music, super into dancing (my passion), always dressing on point, and moving with purpose. You're gotten back all the qualities that made me friends with you in the first place."

manbearpiglord · 2019-01-22T01:17:01+00:00

“PussyWhipped” is the official term

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-01-22T00:54:50+00:00

Ugh. Yeah, this is sad. I think some people get comfortable, and believe life really is just about the relationship. Once they have it, they stop trying. Or they have validation, so stop pushing themselves. Who knows?

Why mission is SSSOOO important. You gotta have something that drives you. Something that makes you keep improving, and ambitious. Something where you can keep setting new goals, and.not become complacent.

And I know that NOTHING is for certain in this world, and anything can happen with that girl, so you best stay on your feet and pushing forward.

They are living in a blue pill world. Risk is, once that relationship ends, they will be lost on what to do without the red pill

ghosts_of_me · 2019-01-22T02:32:23+00:00

Some do some dont. Got a few close friends who are more like power couples than subdued human fusions.

wmap99 · 2019-01-22T10:16:44+00:00

My dad told me that women ruin social dynamics amongst males, I was 15 back then.

gbnz87 · 2019-01-22T09:49:23+00:00

It pretty much happens to everyone. As the guy you prefer to spend time with the girl rather than going out to bars and crap with friends. Until you actually make a connection with someone its quite difficult to understand. Everyone here will talk tough but when you have the choice of cuddling on the couch or standing in a nightclub all night one option is usually a lot more enjoyable. You just need to find a balance between seeing your friends and your girl if you choose a LTR.

Also constantly watch out if your girl doesnt want to see your friends or she doesnt want you to see your friends get away as quick as you can.

MattyAnon · 2019-01-22T13:01:35+00:00

This pretty much happens to guys that choose to cut off contact with their bros to spend extra time with their girl.

This is most men. Sadly yes, it's very common. Like 99% common.

But i refuse to let myself reach this point.

Good!

Stay free, stay happy.

LasTitan · 2019-01-22T13:17:08+00:00

Actually i need help too my friends are totally blue pilled and never accept red pill. I try to teach them but they are not agree with me cuz i'm not PUA ( like 6 months i think about something more important for me .) what should i do i am 17

AuberyBitoni · 2019-01-22T18:48:47+00:00

I'm 21 myself, never been in a serious LTR either and a lot of friends became pussywhipped in my group of friends.

My best friend was the coolest guy who I knew. But he started dating his ex again and started flaking on his friends for his girlfriend. Everyone cut him off. I warned him about the girl, she was studying for 4 months in France. I knew she would cheat on him and she did. He came crawling back, no one respected him anymore. But I gave him a second chance. He's his old self again and I love it. He definitely learned from his mistakes.

Second friend was someone who always laughed about others being pussywhipped. But he met a girl, started dating her after 1 week of knowing her and they have been together for a couple of months now. He's with his girl 24/7. Is practically living together with her and she's like 19, he's 23 lol.

Third friend is one of my best friends. Has been dating his gf for 7 years and had a healthy balance between his bro's and gf. He has the best relationship I've ever seen and does whatever he wants. He is genuinely happy and that's how a LTR should be.

Some guys, like you and me, never had a serious LTR, we can't really have an opinion on it I guess. But I'm sure we wouldn't lose our individuality. Some guys need to hit their head against the wall and fuck up. Love makes blind and it's pathetic when someone becomes boring because of a LTR. The relationship is doomed to fail. Always stay true to yourself.

masterduelistky · 2019-01-22T00:54:13+00:00

This is what caused my ex to leave me. I totally smothered her, because of long distance and things happening in my personal life. I can’t blame her the way I was acting, but I did it because I really loved her. It sucks that’s the way it goes sometimes.

good-look · 2019-01-22T01:59:29+00:00

im 28 n never been in love...maybe in hs but that shits gay...just lift weights n everything takes care of itself nigga

TheDonCap · 2019-01-22T07:13:05+00:00

Literally my best friend

Razzoz6 · 2019-01-22T09:11:08+00:00

Is there any point in talking to those friends about that issue? Have a close friend of mine and he is exactly like that. He got dumped by a girl for THAT reason, they just hanged out at home and smoked weed together.

She broke up, I introduced him to the gym and he acted more red pilled - but he got into another LTR soon and started clinging to the pussy again.

[deleted] · 2019-01-22T02:31:03+00:00

Blue pill is as blue pill does.

I don't see a question. We all relate.

Melanoma_man · 2019-01-22T21:18:51+00:00

Make new friends and more networks. I had a problem where most of friends were settled down and some with whales. I had to meet new friends.

One group an early 20s crowd the other mid to late 20s and a good source of pussy.

I’m 33 but look around 26.

rp2626 · 2019-01-22T22:40:04+00:00

When guys are young they tend to do everything they can to seem interesting and stand out to women. Then they get into a long term relationship and they stop trying. They eat bad. They put less effort into their image. They stop going out. I'm guilty of this myself.

You've got to stay the charismatic guy you sell them in the first place or they will get tired of you. All women will.

rockyp32 · 2019-01-22T23:16:41+00:00

This is what happened to my best friend... how can I tell him this without pissing him off?

Title	I feel like some of my friends who are in relationships become really boring and lose their individuality
Author	QuantumSpecter
Upvotes	182
Comments	62
Date	January 21, 2019 9:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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