Alright, so I'm 30 years old. I'm overweight, but working out five days a week and getting my diet back on track, so hoping to see improvement. The only women I interact with are all at work, and all married. As much as I would like "just getting laid", the truth is I genuinely want to meet someone I can be in a relationship with a build towards something.

First off, is online dating even feasible if you're unattractive? I mean, I do have a tendency to beat myself up, but I photograph like shit, on top of being overweight. Online dating has always struck me as a visual medium, so maybe it would be a wasted effort to even try?

But, IF IT IS worth considering... how might I make a profile?

I mean, do I just put my desires out there, that I'm looking to meet someone I could see a future with? Or should I be more casual and "see where things go" sort of approach?

Also, if you have any other suggestions or alternatives to online dating, please let me know. There's one woman who I've fallen for and it's really messing with my head, and I'm just trying to force myself to move on with my life.