We've been hanging out all night, drinking and she smoked a blunt. Admittedly, I kind of initiated us hanging out, since roommates were out and it was just us, but we were laughing and hanging out.

For context, about two years ago we'd gotten drunk, somehow got on the topic that I'd never had a BJ before, and so she offered to give me one. I obviously accepted her generous offer. We drifted apart after (I wound up turning her down to meet up later, because I knew her ex and felt bad).

Once the roommies got home, she said she was going to bed, and that was that. She stayed in her room, lights on and clearly watching TV or something, for about an hour after that. I JUST heard all her stuff turn off.

I'll be honest, I feel about as ashamed of myself as I ever have. I just honestly never learned how to navigate any of this shit. I don't know how to flirt, my only sexual experience was basically her instigating giving me a BJ. I don't even think she was attracted to me, she was just thirsty at the time and I was someone new to her.

I literally don't know the words I'm supposed to say or how to escalate. I mean, do I say some shit like "Hey, remember that night a few years back? Maybe I could repay the favor...?", or do you go more upfront like "Hey, I feel like there's a spark between us tonight, would you want to try something casual for tonight?"

Or hell, do you even use words, or would you just start touching her in some capacity, and see if she pulls away or rejects?

And assuming you were in my stupid fucking shoes, and the girl has closed herself in he room but was clearly still up, would you have made a move? If so, how would you have played it?

(at this point, I think her lights and sound went out about 10 min ago, so it would definitely be fucking weird to make a move now, but I at least know what I SHOULD have done, if I werent such a fucking loser...)