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I miss being attractive.. at the time I didn’t even realize it but I had a lot of girls coming my way and I was fucking blind. Now I feel like I’m shit compared to how I was in HS and I was shit then too... I can’t seem to do anything right. What should be my first course of action?

rockyp32

March 10, 2021

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Title	I miss being attractive.. at the time I didn’t even realize it but I had a lot of girls coming my way and I was fucking blind. Now I feel like I’m shit compared to how I was in HS and I was shit then too... I can’t seem to do anything right. What should be my first course of action?
Author	rockyp32
Upvotes	24
Comments	37
Date	March 10, 2021 4:19 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/m1p5vc/i_miss_being_attractive_at_the_time_i_didnt_even/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/i-miss-being-attractive-at-the-time-i-didnt-even.751998 https://theredarchive.com/post/751998

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[–]whhoa30 points31 points32 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]rockyp32[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

thing is ive been alone for a long time its seem to have gotten worse. maybe because ive taken on more responsibility and still adapting. I was fapping back then all the time and just wasnt really interested. Now i practice semen retention and like my lust for women gets out of control and honestly i thought it was a good thing cause it gives me a ton of motivation to go after women which i would never do before i would only have easy dates aka quick fucks no dates or nothing. IDK man i do lack all of those things you mentioned i guess just everything in the past made it easier to hide all those things. fapping would hide those urges for a while. let me relax my anxious brain but it would never get rid of it. now that i dont fap its like the brains left to do what it was always trying to do just go wild with anxiety. which is why i started fapping in the first place because it gave an escape. Now its like im facing the full blunt forces of my old trauma but im still not fully facing it.. im always doing something. I think i just need to sit with my thoughts for a while but im like oh i have such little time i want to spend it gaming or something or talking to friends instead of just unwinding.

ITs just weird i felt like i didnt have those things before either but my enviroment and shit allowed me to be alright. Id like to think all this shit im dealing with was deep down the whole time and ive been suppressing it. now its just all in my fucking face. and its almost worse for my health to unleash it... unless i sit with it that is.. which is what ive been avoiding. i dont even know what self love is anymore or confidence im just so scared that i have to achieve my goals or ill be a failure

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Take away all the focus from "the DM's" and all that. All that shit comes easily and naturally just by raising your SMV, so put all your thoughts on that basket.

Be real with yourself. Say, "yea I've let myself go. I've been lazy and obviously I'm not getting hit on, but today is the first day of the rest of my life, and I can have everything I want, but I have to be hard on myself and put in the work."

Start small. Wake up and say that your only priority for the day is to meditate and exercise. Once you're done, pat yourself on the back. You've owned the day already. Even if you have a shitty day, you did what you said you'd do, so you're still a winner.

Keep going and add more things. Build these habits and stay consistent. When you fall off the bike get right back up. Before you know it, in a few months you'll look down and see your old self way down there looking tiny.

[–]Nathan_of_Ex_Machina2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]RedEyeBlackEye17 points8 points9 points 3 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

1) I looked like a superhero movie hunk motherfucker towards tailend of highschool(after YEARS OF BEING SAVAGED BY BITCHES TIL PTSD caused me to groom OBSESSIVELY and train like a gawd damn Olympian), but WAS BLUE AF AND OBLIVIOUS AF. Compliments = she just being nice, attempts(by chicks) to get my attention/flirt = she just being friendly, heard some chick likes me = they can't like me bc treated me like wet dogshit all highschool, some chick called me sexy(while licking her lips) = nope bc other bitch screamed how ugly I am in front of everybody. It took an older badgirl chick(who friendzoned me) and an old man to TELL ME THAT CHICKS WERE BASICALLY THROWING THEMSELVES AT ME EVERYWHERE I WENT. So don't be too hard on yourself OP, we've all been in your shoes(or we wouldn't be on trp) homie.

2) stop trying to eat "like a bird", homie. Find out your bmr, multiple that by your general activity level, now eat 500 calories less than that number. Also, eat mostly protein dense foods bc it'll help maintain(and build) muscle and it's satisfying. That's the ONLY WAY TO STOP THE CRAVINGS.

3) Drink at least 8-8oz glasses(roughly 60oz) water everyday. In fact, ONLY drink water(and unsweetened drinks). It's good for ALL body functions, no calories, and helps stop hunger cravings too. Weight will DROP EFFORTLESSLY.

4) eat 4 eggs everyday, it's like taking a natural testosterone booster/get-my-dick-rockhard pill/appetite suppressant ALL ROLLED INTO ONE.

5) lift or HIIT calisthenics with DROPSETS til Failure and isometric holds. Finish off with isometric chest (and triceps) squeezes to activate all the chest(and triceps) muscle fibers. This has been EXPLODING MY GROWTH.

6) grow a stubble or short beard and groom it RELIGIOUSLY, trim it, and edge up sideburnlines, cheeklines, and neckline. Get a better haircut for your face shape.

7) fix your posture, move with masculine swagger. Think Idris Elba, the Rock, Hemsworth (Thor), or Cavill (the Witcher).

8) take it one day at a time. It is a campaign, a campaign of discipline and hardwork.

Good luck G

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