I spun 180 degrees and strolled away from my date in public. Too fast of an ejection?

whatdidshewrite · 2019-02-21T02:26:58+00:00

Lmao this situation plays out hilariously in my head

399oly · 2019-02-21T05:31:14+00:00

Am I the only person that's going to ask? WTF is a magic muffin?

ShortDamage · 2019-02-21T11:36:00+00:00

What’s with all the post similar to this lol? What’s next, some guy jumping out of a plane after his gf disrespects him on the way to the bahamas?

yumyumgivemesome · 2019-02-21T02:15:24+00:00

I admire your willingness to walk away but it could’ve been a simple shit test. Unless she yelled at you seems like a pretty over the top reaction.

olKoozii · 2019-02-21T02:56:21+00:00

When she asked where you were going you should have turned around slowly and robotically said:

“I have an important mission” while staring into the horizon behind her. Then continue walking away with a robotic swagger.

jbpostv · 2019-02-21T09:45:21+00:00

This might blow you away but dates will let the clock run down and just watch you run the ball around field and end the game before you get to the end zone for the sake of milking you for attention

GayLubeOil · 2019-02-21T06:54:33+00:00

Trust your subconscious. She repulsed you so deeply that she triggered your flight response, like roadkill, vomit or a corpse.

rugged79 · 2019-02-21T03:12:15+00:00

If she said the armrest thing playfully, you could have made a joke and probably put your arm there.

But if your instinct told you she was not really joking about it, you might have been on the money. You guys were on a date. She shouldn't be so standoffish about small details.

Had a chick invite me over on a Friday for a movie. Knew she was into me, but when I told her to come lean on me on the couch, she said no. Automatically got up and put on my shoes. She asked where I was going. I told her "to the club". Went out, had a great time. Next thing I know, she spreads the word to her girlfriends about what I did. They approach me the very next weekend and I take the hottest one home and fuck her.

The End.

redpharma7789 · 2019-02-21T03:12:17+00:00

Lmao, this sounds like a >greentext story.

If true, then this could’ve been like the others have said... a shit test or you’re escalating too quickly.

[deleted] · 2019-02-21T04:20:34+00:00

Lol this is awesome, “correct” or not you just gave yourself a reason to have solid abundance mentality.

SolarTortality · 2019-02-21T06:55:51+00:00

Lmfao. The AirPods and Magic Muffin killed me

monsieurhire2 · 2019-02-21T03:04:27+00:00

You countered rudeness with rudeness. I mean, she could have been polite about not wanting your arm draped on her shoulder. It sounds like she either wasn't into you, or you escalated physically too quickly before qualifying whether she would be receptive to it, and she abreacted. In any case, it's almost certainly over and you should move on to the next.

Kabuki431 · 2019-02-21T03:55:04+00:00

Honestly i am at a point in life that i would done the same if my date disrespects me in that way abruptly and "swats" away my hand.

Fuck that bitch, there are thousand more.

Aestheticcunt1996 · 2019-02-21T15:14:33+00:00

You went full autist mode here.

jbpostv · 2019-02-21T09:49:28+00:00

Honestly shit testing about physical escalation is a hard next for me. If a girl is brushing you off to see if you’ll persist physically she’s basically testing to see if you’re alpha enough to dominate her and impose your will on her. That’s called rape, and some women fantasize about it! Difference is if a girl is gonna play hard to get with escalation just listen to her signs and be free to walk away if you’re not getting what you want. Women who shit test with hard to get are dangerous in the #metoo era and who wants a girl who manipulates you anyways.

Aesthetik_1 · 2019-02-21T07:18:04+00:00

Am I the only one here who thinks that all you guys posting shit like this recently are overreacting / butthurt and defeatist?

If you already see this as rejection how are you gonna ever progress with any chick? Don’t you know she could have said it playfully? Or maybe shit testet you? Do concepts like ASD don’t mean anything to you?

Why are you so weak and immediately bail at the first sight of possible disinterest.

See I am a very banterfull, negging guy and have had girls tell me no and „reject“ me in these things all the time but most of the time I go ahead and do my thing anyway. The amount of sex and good times I would have missed out on is very high.

Stop being little bitches and read the sidebar more

Hexo9 · 2019-02-21T07:24:44+00:00

You could’ve saved it if you just used AA and RKO’d her

8700nonK · 2019-02-21T13:08:20+00:00

Actually, it can be quite uncomfortable to have someone fully resting their arm on you, especially a man with a heavy arm. She probably had people do that before and it was just a negative reflex.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-02-21T14:05:38+00:00

You gave up and did drugs instead showing the ability to handle the simplest of shit tests. You have a ways to go.

Greek-God-Brody · 2019-02-21T15:42:18+00:00

lmao, you aspie retard redpiller lacking socal awareness. don't kino escalate if she is not receptive to basic kino, didn't RSD-Max teach you?

BloodSurgery · 2019-02-21T04:08:12+00:00

You escalated too quickly most likely, that's why she acted so rude, first of all.

Instead of doing AM, A&A like "your shoulder is kind of soft, you are a good armrester indeed" or something, you literally walked away. So yeah, you could have salvaged it, ignored it, or escalated before.

Aarxnw · 2019-02-21T09:01:33+00:00

Bro you pull out the magic muffin before you turn around not after you fucking beta cucklord

philbignig · 2019-02-21T13:58:01+00:00

thats just plain douche lol

mseand · 2019-02-21T15:22:50+00:00

Ur game sounds like trash

missingfromthetown · 2019-02-21T02:17:38+00:00

a sensation of clarity hm? why dont you expand on what that might be

because to me you failed a minor shit test and displayed incompetency

get a grip

maljo24 · 2019-02-21T11:24:23+00:00

So rude! I would have done the same.

XT3M3 · 2019-02-21T09:47:53+00:00

WTF is with all these stories here where 1 person (normally the "alpha male" here) COMPLETELY OVER REACTS to simple shit. i think ALOT of you newer people need to go to the sidebar or to read the books again. you guys arent coming off "Red pilled" you guys are coming off completely Butthurt.

You should have responded with AA and go from there. im sure enough example have been posted. but in this situation your manchild came out. if you felt disrespected by what this girl said to you , you have ALOT to work out inside you.

part of me feels this story (like alot recently ) are fake but in the case this is real, you blew it kid

Aesthetic_God__ · 2019-02-21T12:35:40+00:00

Magic muffins, dude you are crazy for this one you got me.

It might have been a simple shit test, unless she said that in an angry/genuinely annoyed tone. You didn't mean to fuck up, I see you're willing to walk away and feel the power of having options but don't fall into black and white perspective with it.

What I mean is, you should have just given her a little more time and just pass the shit tests, and if you saw her behavior got out of hand then you could leave.

I'm still laughing at the muffin part by the way, nice one.

JSuma · 2019-02-21T14:03:01+00:00

Trust your gut I guess

vivid_mind · 2019-02-21T14:26:24+00:00

She thought she was a princess but turns out not even a shitty armrest.

TheFastCat · 2019-02-21T14:37:20+00:00

Here's the thing - if you don't want to deal with it -- don't! it's that simple. You reached the level of I don't give a fuck that is aspired to. That is a good thing, sure you can play her fucked up mind games and string it along until you have sex -- but jesus at a certain point you decide -- nah I'd rather not. Cheers to you -- isn't it great?

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2019-02-21T16:59:09+00:00

Sounds like you had enough of her bull shit. Besides, in my experience if the girl is unreceptive to touching, you're not seeing her again anyway. Best that you didn't waste your time

[deleted] · 2019-02-21T17:07:13+00:00

Attaboy.

newbie3hunna · 2019-02-21T17:14:45+00:00

First sign of rejection give up and do drugs to ease pain. lol

Naebany · 2019-02-21T17:23:00+00:00

Why airpods? Whats so different about them that you cant just say earphones?

Prysefighter · 2019-02-21T17:46:42+00:00

This is a troll right? Lol

AuberyBitoni · 2019-02-21T17:53:15+00:00

Hahaha, good job man. Better to walk away at the start instead of wasting your time on some stupid bitch who says dumb stuff like that.

muddynips · 2019-02-21T19:50:15+00:00

This is so subjective.

“I’m not your ARMREST (caww cawww)!” Empoweredwomanwhodontneednoman

“I’m not armrest (heehee).” Cat and mouse fun. Up your game daddy

“Im not your armrest (bro).” Protocol breach. Respect the process. Helpmehelpyouhelpmehelpyou.

The important thing is that on the trust yourself/ don’t trust yourself, pursue/abort matrix you didn’t do the worst thing possible variant: pursuing when your gut is saying run.

Even if you were wrong (nobody really knows), I respect the nuclear option. Feels good to push the button now and then.

KinkysMT · 2019-02-21T12:43:25+00:00

Lol you must have a huge ego man. You got triggered for just a small shit test. Leave you ego at home next time you go on a date, and learn game.

You acted like a little kid who have never been social.

dtyler86 · 2019-02-21T17:32:19+00:00

Love it. Probably too fast of a rejection, but she sounds like a bitch.

I opened a car door for a date and she told me “I can do it myself!”. I closed the door and drove off. Not interested in wasting time or money on an asshole, I think OP had the same feeling.

imtheoneimmortal · 2019-02-21T07:13:40+00:00

I’m not your armrest Put the arm around hips then

hmsthinkingmeat · 2019-02-21T08:11:24+00:00

She sounds a bit like a feminazi. Anyway only OP knows but if she's going to be a pain in the ass, why bother? (if you really do have an abundance mentality just move on).

justnicepersonhater · 2019-02-21T11:26:55+00:00

everytime a girl rejected kino from me it was a fail date.

OP reacted good IMO. JFL at people saying disrespecting is shit test. okay it is. been there done that, but it doesnt mean you have to put up with that.

Also very funny thing to read. fuck that hoe.

Even if she was just playful, way too many women literally reject u this way, so its her fault for behaving like them

SeasonedRP · 2019-02-21T11:33:41+00:00

You made the right move. She gave a clear sign she wasn't interested and was rude about it. No point wasting more time with her.

Idfsupporter · 2019-02-21T13:25:49+00:00

Honestly well done

chrischrisv6 · 2019-02-21T06:28:53+00:00

It was certainly a shit test, intentionally or not. The appropriate response would have been "yes you are", and then if she continues to refuse then that's when you leave. You chose not to deal with her shit test instead of passing it. Alpha as fuck regardless.

chazthundergut · 2019-02-21T07:01:42+00:00

Good for you dude.

The willingness to just walk away will serve you very well in the dating market, believe me

thy_shall_win · 2019-02-21T02:37:40+00:00

Omfg. Defo troll post or full on autism.

MisterRoid · 2019-02-21T12:40:32+00:00

I got the impression you overreacted, but I wasn't there. If she didn't seem that into you I think it was a good call.

Freedom__Fighter · 2019-02-21T14:57:07+00:00

“Of course you’re not my armrest, you come off as more of a foot rest kind of girl” would have been a better way with shot tests. You got all autistic and butt hurt LOL

Crixusgannicus · 2019-02-21T16:03:41+00:00

He has chosen...wisely.

EarthAngelll · 2019-02-21T16:28:14+00:00

looooooooooooooool

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2019-02-21T16:50:57+00:00

Not all women like it when strangers grab them like that. You already noticed she was only slightly of responding to you and putting your arm over her like this was overcommitting too soon. But if you’re fine with it, keep doing this with every women you’ve only known for a few hours.

DadOnDabs · 2019-02-21T16:53:28+00:00

I would have tested again but I don't know how much prior kino was done. Id say, "I'll have to find something better to do with it then" and held her hand.

hopscotchking · 2019-02-21T17:24:06+00:00

I think it was a bit of an overreaction but not too extreme. You should have stuck it out imo. If she had done it again during the night, then it could have been acceptable. I have a feeling she was still into you.

[deleted] · 2019-02-21T17:28:27+00:00

My first walking move is to extend my elbow out as an invitation for her to link my arm. It's a pretty harmless move but one of the best compliance tests for me.

EosMermaidGoddess · 2019-02-21T18:13:03+00:00

New to red pill... what the hell is "kino"?

TuhTodayJr · 2019-02-21T18:40:21+00:00

Bro you a pimp

Don_Draper27 · 2019-02-21T18:53:22+00:00

You need to trust your gut in situations like this.

I can see myself doing this if the situation called for it.

I went on a Tinder date last year and we met up at a Chipotle for a quick bite. Not even 20 minutes later I was running to my car, locking the doors, and blocking her number. No joke. I probably should've left sooner but I wanted to practice outcome independence.

OP, you honestly need to ask yourself if your intuition called for you to 100% bail and to stop giving somebody who isn't "fuck yes" about you another second, or if you simply failed to handle a shit test.

Maybe the best outcome would've been to stop, check the time, and say something like, "I actually need to get going. A friend is coming over."

Based off her response, you can then gauge if she's interested at all or if she's also looking for an excuse to go home.

If she says something like, "oh okay. Let's get going then" you have your answer.

If she then says, "Wait what, hold on, blah blah blah" then you might have gotten the hamster spinning and she might be more receptive to you knowing that you're willing to walk away.

You can then say, "Yeah well, maybe if you make it worth my while I'll make my person wait a little bit" ad see where it goes from there.

The fact that she was asking where you were going tells me that you got her hamster spinning and that you might've had a chance at changing the frame. Just keep this in mind.

Regardless, you should still pat yourself on the back for having the balls to walk away from someone who isn't interested in you.

LilLoserFreny · 2019-02-21T18:55:29+00:00

Bruh stop flexing frame please

geo_gan · 2019-02-21T19:15:00+00:00

I think it was correct move. Remember this is her on her best behaviour, can you imagine what she would be like once she got used to you and let her guard down! I did similar myself about 20 years ago. French girl, on first date, had an epileptic fit when I jokingly imitated some french words. I just walked away.

throwitdownman · 2019-02-21T19:31:22+00:00

Here’s an upvote you Chad, you.

TheStumblingWolf · 2019-02-21T21:12:44+00:00

You can tell she isn't receptive to kino, but you escalate further anyway? Sometimes she needs a bit of time to warm up. You can't warm up by skipping to the next page. No wonder she reacted like she did.

Hope the muffin was good at least.

mgtownigga · 2019-02-22T00:12:06+00:00

not enough detail to really get a clear read on this one. You mention she's not receptive to kino but you could have been applying too much, too fast or in an otherwise awkward manner. This would definitely color the rest of the date negatively.

But overall? if a woman is swatting your arm off her shoulder and not being warmly receptive to your advances, it's probably best to just abandon ship and salvage the rest of your day/night. I can't tell you if or how you fucked up, but chances are it doesn't matter regardless. If she's not receptive, the next one will be, and enthusiastically so at that. no reason to waste your time with a frigid bitch

[deleted] · 2019-02-22T02:43:04+00:00

Yeah that was a shit test. You should have made a joke about it. Now you look like a sore loser.

zxcvb7809 · 2019-02-22T02:55:17+00:00

I think you can still salvage it. Most people would have just been like oh my bad. You kind of distinguished yourself. This is funny as hell by the way.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-02-22T08:00:38+00:00

All I can say is you are a legend, did well mate. Never deal with bitches shit.

[deleted] · 2019-02-21T09:29:22+00:00

You did it wrong. Rarely do women like arm resting in their shoulders. Learn from this mistake and never do it again. You could have salvaged this by not getting butthurt from her expressed boundaries.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-02-21T14:36:50+00:00

Every decision you make is the right decision. There is no chance of salvaging this, IMO, so if you got her you can get another. Carry on.

socalcollegedad · 2019-02-21T17:53:27+00:00

Hahah. Nope. Perfect.

BookyMcBooks · 2019-02-21T07:26:50+00:00

You don't want a bitch that's going to make you jump through hoops just to fuck her. Fuck that.

[deleted] · 2019-02-21T02:51:46+00:00

Should of just put the phone on loud speaker and played "Ludacris - Yous A Hoe"

oooKenshiooo · 2019-02-21T15:19:58+00:00

I probably would have responded with something like "noted. I'll go straight for the butt next time."

Title	I spun 180 degrees and strolled away from my date in public. Too fast of an ejection?
Author	FalconWrite
Upvotes	211
Comments	203
Date	February 21, 2019 2:09 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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