I'm angry all the time, advice for emotional control?

dukab · 2019-07-10T10:22:32+00:00

I used to struggle with the same thing. I went to see a psychiatrist because it was exhausting. He helped me identify where my anger came from and tought me the basic psychology behind anger. Basically anger is stored in your body, physically, and it adds up when you are treated bad etc. Your subconcious works on it day and night, but with limited speed. If you have a lot of anger stored you become the old angry guy that snaps at the cashier for working slow, his shoes for not working etc. Because your body cannot store unlimited of anger it should be released when felt (if possible). Buy a boxing bag, hit it really hard, scream, curse, whatever makes you feel the rush of hatred leave your body. You should feel the steam leave your body afterwards, like an orgasm. It feels fucking good.

Edit: if your not lashing out on people I'm wondering if you are a nice guy with assertiveness issues. Speaking up for your self is a great way to release tension and feel powerful. You don't have to lash out, but you should definitely tell the person that you don't appreciate such behavior. Totally ignore their reaction, you do it for your self. If they don't stop you can ignore them completely and you avoid passive aggressive bitch behavior because you stood up for your self.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-07-10T08:13:49+00:00

Have you considered a martial arts or even basic boxing. Keep going to the gym but it can be a solitary environment. Whereas martial arts is a family of sorts plus you get th beat the living fuck out of a bag.

Krebota · 2019-07-10T08:19:46+00:00

Controlling your emotions takes practice. You can do some fighting sports like martial arts, but you can also find treatment with psychologists if necessary. Since you post it here, it's probably something you don't know how to solve, so ask help if you need it.

genital-love · 2019-07-10T10:08:47+00:00

How old are you brother? Deep breathing helps me, I like Wim Hof's breathing method. And remember, nothing's that serious, chill. You don't make rational decisions when you're emotional.

Lift heavier weight, follow a strength program.

teabagabeartrap · 2019-07-10T10:27:12+00:00

For me it was because of insolin levels and not enough sleep.

Check for blood sugar maybe and do you sleep 8 hours?

Masterdan2015 · 2019-07-10T11:57:33+00:00

Something needs addressed. Something needs to change. Listen to your self. You aren’t killing people like you’ve mentioned, but you are feeling internal conflict.

My view may not be backed by science. But take a look at what’s going on in your life that needs changed.

There’s an imbalance. Embrace your anger, Embrace your mild sadness. Use it.

I’m not recommending this as a guess. I’ve tried this. It works.

Hope you start to feel better and send me a message if you need to. Also, everyone else advice are pretty solid too, but the problem needs dealt with. Or those emotions will return.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-07-10T17:40:42+00:00

log your food intake vs. mood

i was surprised to find how some foods affected my mood, even "healthy" foods.

a mentor of mine went on a full-on "elimination diet" type exercise, it helped him a lot, he was mildly allergic to salmon and broccoli it turns out, 2 of the healthy things his wife was cooking for them :)

Title	I'm angry all the time, advice for emotional control?
Author	RivenHalf
Upvotes	5
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Date	July 10, 2019 7:27 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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