I’m angry with myself for being such a blue pilled through college despite being attractive. How do I overcome this phase?

May 11, 2019

So many missed opportunities that I can’t comprehend now

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Title I’m angry with myself for being such a blue pilled through college despite being attractive. How do I overcome this phase?
Author rijeka1
Upvotes 140
Comments 49
Date May 11, 2019 4:06 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/im-angry-with-myself-for-being-such-a-blue-pilled.238041
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bndou9/im_angry_with_myself_for_being_such_a_blue_pilled/
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[–][deleted] 245 points246 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

You’re on stage 2-4. Initiate stage 5 by forgetting your blue pilled past and continue to swallow the red pill with self improvement and becoming the best version of yourself. Increase your SMV, muscle gains, fashion sense, work ethic and improve eating habits. Months-years down the road, you become more attractive, your chest is getting better and more women are starting to give you IOI’s. You’ll slowly start developing an abundance mindset as you realize you are a desirable man to attractive women and accept female nature for what it is. Now, you’ll love being in control of your own life and have more confidence in yourself and you can reflect back and laugh at your blue pilled past self!

Stages of the red pill

  1. Denial: "Women aren't like that! They're people just like everyone else! Treat them all as individuals, and you're sure to find the right one!"

  2. Anger: "WTF! Bitches are all like this! They have no honour, no loyalty, and they don't really love anyone but themselves! Fucking cunts!"

  3. Bargaining: "If I work real hard and learn all the pickup moves, then at least I'll get laid."

  4. Depression: "Getting laid by shallow, obnoxious women has become dull and unrewarding. And there's no sense looking for a unicorn. Maybe I'll just be MGTOW for a while."

  5. Acceptance: "Women aren't bad. My expectations of them, and theirs of me, were based on faulty premises. They are creatures of instinct, just like I am... but of different instincts. If I learn what those instincts are, and teach them about mine, we can develop realistic expectations of each other and get along just fine."

[–]s3lcuk31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

holy shit ive just realised ive experienced all the stages to 4. thanks for clearing this up for me.

[–][deleted] 32 points33 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I like it, but the anger phase has two sub phases. 2a) anger at the world for lying to you and anger at women for not being what you wanted. And 2b) anger at yourself for believing the lies. Anger at yourself for blowing opportunities.

[–]umizumiz3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ouch, you're not lying. The anger at yourself does come last in the anger phase. Probably because who wants to be angry at themselves? Just accept it and move on at this point lol

[–]ancoree2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

5th , what different instincts? you mean attraction to status, wealth etc., I just became nihilistic and stuck at 4. hating abundant women dominated world we live in.

[–]umizumiz7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Natural instincts

A woman just wants security. Well, and to be fucked really well by a decent looking guy(by her standards).

So, if you're the best man you could possibly be in life then you have access to whatever equally attractive(and on down) women in the world.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

5th , what different instincts?

"When a guy see's another guy with a girl he wants, he thinks to himself 'I need to get myself a girl like that.' When a woman see's another woman with a guy she wants, she thinks to herself 'I need to get HIM.'" - CR

[–]ihaverisen122 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Different base desires both leading to attraction

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]777views2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Fuck it I’m staying at 2

[–]GeuseyBetel8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

i.e. the incel stage

[–]iwanttoracecars-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao roastmaster over here...

[–]academicRedditor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

“...and teach them [women] about mine [instincts]”. You honestly believe this is possible and productive?

[–]Buchloe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I find that I jump around the phases. I'll be pretty accepting of everything, feeling baller as fuck, banging 3 or 4 different chicks. Then get fixated on one in particular, something goes south, and I'm in anger phase and depression all over again.

[–]MattyAnon36 points37 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

So many missed opportunities that I can’t comprehend now

Look to the future only

[–]TheGillos16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

For real.

But I would add that looking to the past and seeing where you went wrong can be an invaluable tool to avoid past mistakes.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Self-awareness is a very underrated quality.

[–]rijeka1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

At one point, I’m model tier but my pics don’t come good on phone so I was trying to get a photographer for dating sites pics but most of my ‘friends’ were reluctant about the idea that I’m spending $300 on it. I guess some people don’t want you to exceed even when you’re their good friend. Pussy causes lot of jealousy and grudges

[–]SelfUnmadeMan16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It isn't your fault. Why be mad at yourself? If anything, be mad at society for lying to you.

Instead of self loathing, take what you now know and use it to improve your life. There will be MANY opportunities in the future. You wanna miss those too?

[–]SalporinRP15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you depressed you are living in the past,

If you are anxious you are living in the future,

If you are at peace you are living in the present

  • Lao Tzu

You cannot change the past but you can make the most of the present and the rest of your life. If you let the past continually drag you down you will find it hard to improve. Relish in the fact that you realized your problem early in life and not when you're 50. Take action now and live your best life.

[–]vullnet12325 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can't change the past. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and improve. Could I have made some more friends in my 1 semester of college before dropping out, or stuck with college? Yea I could've but I didnt. All you can do is move forward and not dwell on it, because dwelling on the past is gonna cause you depression and just won't help at all.

[–]mallardcove24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Take it from me, I was a player on a division 1 college football team that competed for the national championship my senior year. I had the status, body and looks and got tons of girls interested in me. But since I was such a blue pilled faggot, I was stuck in a cycle that lasted all 5 years of college for me - a girl would be interested in me, then I would reciprocate, be a total blue pilled loser and scare her away. I would always wonder why this happened to me and why girls would be interested in me only to withdraw after getting to know me. It was frustrating

Of course TRP helped me understand why, but I didn't come to TRP until 3 years after I graduated. The silver lining for me is that I escaped college without getting married or locked down. I have so many friends and teammates who got married during college or right after. That could have been me. I am thankful I scared women away when I was in college.

The future is still bright. I'm 31 now and doing better than I ever have.

[–]DerpJungler6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is great.

I am thankful i wasn't "successful" with women in my younger years. If it weren't for that, i would never find TRP. And I'm slowly becoming the best version of my self now, as well as finally enjoying life without commitments.

[–]Cholo4Trump3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In what ways were you "reciprocating" ?

[–]BigGucciGuwop10173 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro I'm 29 about to be 30 and I'm basically the same story. It was a combination of Anxiety and being blue pilled.

[–]TerminallyChill9410 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's so funny to see this posted. I was having these exact same thoughts earlier today. In college I wasnt overly popular or sociable, but I could at least get attractive women interested enough to approach me and I would completely bomb it bc of lack of game and being so nice.

The lays i missed by not knowing how to handle a shit test or lmr makes me cringe. I even tried to hit up some of these women like a year post-college when i got some red pill awareness but it rarely worked out. It also showed major scarcity mentality. Don't be like me, just focus on the future

[–]TopofToronto4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Happened to me too, as well realizing how I had ruined a good relationship by being in love and giving in to her when ever we fought because I thought it was what she wanted and another because I had no clue what a shit test was..

It will pass, go out and do stuff.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why aren't you worried about creating new opportunities?

The past isn't a missed opportunity. It's not any kind of opportunity at all. It's really just masturbatory self-pity and self loathing. These habits are ways people deal with cognitive dissonance when they're still invested in seeing themselves as helpless children.

This is the only thing you're not comprehending. There are no opportunities in the past, just information you can use to improve your present game.

Quit mentally masturbating and use you mental energy to create new opportunities.

[–]HumanSockPuppet5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fucking get over it. You're wasting even more time sitting there feeling sorry for yourself.

[–]BigGucciGuwop10172 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm about to be 30 and Anxiety has screwed me out of so many opportunities.

[–]rijeka1[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Meditation and LSD helps bro

[–]BigGucciGuwop10170 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Definitely want to get into meditation but Cid lasts way too damn long in my opinion. More of a shrooms guy myself

[–]rijeka1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How do I know the trip is not over?

[–]jenovajunkie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just go out and fuck.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Talk about it, well improve from today on, forget about those regrets as best as you can.

[–]rijeka1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

In RP realm, when you care you lose. Idgaf = potential massive wins

[–]throwawayg761 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Judging by your post and comments I’m in a very similar situation right now bro. PM me if you ever want to talk about it.

[–]MentORPHEUS1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How do you overcome anger over past missed opportunities? Succeed in the present and become even better at life for the future! Like me, eventually you'll find yourself casually chuckling to think back at your youthful naivety.

[–]rijeka1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much for that hope

[–]INNASKILLZ2K180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You get over it by stop living in self-pity over women. You have a whole future ahead of you. Seriously, who gives a fuck? College you should have been on a mission.

[–]MobilePenor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was thinking that since I started to have to take care of myself (when I was 15 or so), I made a lot of bad choices when it came to women and social life.

I was really depressed about this, I thought about the fact that I wasted 15 years of my life on nothing (I'm 30 now).

But thinking about it again, if everything goes well, I have another 15 years of great erections in front of me and maybe even more. So, there is still time.

In the end as long as long as you are relatevely young, there is still hope. Maybe you'll enjoy it even more since you understand the true value of what you'll get, if you get it.

[–]Sylvester_Sterone0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bang some college girls when ur 30

[–]FereallyRed-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

So get busy on that time machine.

[–]rijeka1[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I understand you’re a EC bro but this is a time of serious self contemplation and sarcasm well might be good for light hearted approach but isn’t the best for sure

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


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