Instantly losing interest.

March 11, 2020
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Anybody else becomes very unattracted to a girl when she starts mentioning other guys ? I don't mean it in an angry way like "oh she's talking about this guy, now I'm really jealous and hurt and can't even look at her anymore". More like a feeling inside of you like you don't wanna deal with her anymore and everything she does from now on is simply unattractive. Is this normal or am I really just jealous ?

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Title Instantly losing interest.
Author Alcatraz-12
Upvotes 127
Comments 69
Date March 11, 2020 11:54 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]frognads160 points161 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Bragging about sex isn't exactly a feminine behaviour, so yeah it turns me off.

It basically screams insecurity and attention-seeking. That's a fuck em' and leave for me.

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[–]Ill_mumble_that30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Just get a bro-job from em.

[–]Enlightened_Chimp11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You don't even have to remember to say 'no homo'

[–]throwawaycunt19971 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Huh. This explains why I lose my hard-ons for them.

[–]frognads0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Social grace goes a long way.

[–]OfficerWade0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she does call you bro, dude or homie just hit and quit it.

[–]AloofusMaximus31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is a way they test how needy/jealous you are. If you get full on butthurt about her talking about another dude, you need to worry way fucking less about her and what she's doing. Also just cause SHE is talking about dudes, doesn't mean you should talk about other women (you shouldn't).

Most women (even just plain Jane types) have a ton of options. All she needs to do is post a selfie on FB/IG/SC and she'll have literally dozens (if not more) thirsty dudes trying to hit her up.

Non neediness and outcome independence are the most attractive things to most women.

[–]throwawaycunt19977 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s not that. It’s just not effeminate to do so, and is an effective boner killer. Might as well be fucking a girl with a moustache while you’re at it.

[–]muricanwerewolf119 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dudes are mad when women are upfront about being hos.

Dudes are mad when women are secret hos and let them have their blue pill fantasies.

Stop being mad and just take these bitches as they are. AWALT.

[–]Gordon-G8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Indifference is the difference... never place her on a pedestal and you’ll never be disappointed! Just have your fun, don’t invest,.. the one who cares least is in control.

[–]LateralThinker1312 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is fairly normal. We all know that the toilets at amusement parks have seen literally millions of different arses, but we don't think about it or we could never sit on one, regardless of how many Clorox wipes you use before your turn.

Same thing here. You're not jealous of those other arses. You're just disgusted at being reminded of the traffic, is all.

[–]Gordon-G0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]WhatRemainsAfter60 points61 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I lose interest when girls starts behaving all manly and yo yo type. Laughing like a lobster on first date and forgetting all manners.

I want a feminine energy. Media has given this illusion that women can behave like some hip hop artist and be 'cool'. No, it is not. You are forgetting your very basic nature, that is to be feminine.

Nothing makes me disgust a girl more than this type girl.

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY200218 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My thoughts exactly.

I hate "women" who have ZERO feminine energy. So off-putting.

That, for me, is very very high up on my list of my deal breakers.

I like my women to act and behave like women.

[–]kollegah13374 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

hey man, for all of you guys saying you hate women without feminine energy. completely agree with that. I too, don't want conchita wurst to suck my dick. BUT remember. We all were once betas (with non masculine energy) but we've evolved and found our nature.

[–]LethalShade2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like the ones that have both. I like the gangster anna be girl that can also wear a dress and be a sweetheart.

[–]liquorbaron0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agreed. I think this is partly as to why so many western men look towards eastern European women. Aside from all the "well they're just like western women in ____ regard", it's the fact that so many of them at least have feminine energy to them.

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[–]z2a1-97 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly

[–]Strigon3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So true

[–]throwawaycunt19971 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nah. Sounds borderline gay to me. I mean, if you’re the type of guy happy to put it in a hole wherever - like a bi RPer - you do you, boo.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Shit test

[–]Purplegetraenk5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I don’t get jealous I just get completely turned off

[–]DerekMorganBAU33 points34 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Sometimes they do that shit in order to covertly say that they are still looking for something. I noticed most bitches talk about the not-so-good relationships for that reason - to let you know that they want something real.

Read: Something that feels real.

It ain't shit. Share your stories too, give her a good laugh and it'll make her feel good like "He's had crazy stuff happen too and maybe he's still looking" make that hamster spin

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[–]mickey__0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

So no interesting stories to tell?

[–]PUA_Fan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great advice

[–]CDBaller11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women are vapid and uninteresting, by and large, when they speak. She's just telling you she's a slut and her mouth needs to be plugged so uninteresting/dull/stupid things don't fall out, because that's all she has to offer you. I don't find sluts attractive, but they're a good masturbation aid.

If you're looking for an LTR/marriage, you're not going to want to waste your time with that. You can get up and walk away.

[–]Meloxian5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ams says check her on that, so check her on that; it’s not about her being special or not having abundance it’s about respecting you and your time; tell her you don’t wanna hear it.

And to all of you guys saying that shows a lack of confidence, y’all can keep listening to your wives talking about getting dicked down and licking some other dudes balls If you want but me I don’t got time for that disrespectful shit.

[–]QuinlanBothese5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes get the same. I want her to be exclusive and have no thoughts, words about other guys. And I get angry too. You must have disgust, fear, distrust or anger ma man. Be honest if it was just apathy you would still be interested, don't lie to yourself. I highly assure that you are jealous but logically know that you shouldn't be, you are repressing it. In reality you might feel like your ego has been violated and want to hurt,control,possess the girl herself or hurt the male she is talking about.
But maybe you are an anomaly who knows.

Conclusively all of this means that she is either really special ;) or you don't have the abundance of women you ought to have.

[–]319Skew4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I lose respect for them and put them in ONS, Plate, or FWB category but it's a great lead into sex.

It's only jealousy if you start to think about what they do together.

[–]Wrath_of_Trump3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

she's taking away that feeling of being special, and apparently that's what you're subconsciously looking for when you lose interest. evaluate if what she is saying is actually bad or if you are harboring ideas about women that aren't healthy or reflective of reality. can you realistically expect to have someone make you feel special? is she at the level where you could expect that from her in some capacity? maybe she's telling you that she doesn't want to be a big special prize so don't treat her that way. there's a dozen different ways you can read it, but it's best if you don't get invested in it. if it bothers you that much, then leave.

[–]rangat424 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think your reaction is totally normal. Talking about other guys is trashy slutty behavior. Huge turn off. I do not think it is jealousy at all, it is just unattractive behavior.

[–]BusterVadge3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is super normal. They do it all the time in order to illustrate what they want and don't want out of you.

Over time you're going to learn that women communicate covertly rather than directly like us dudes do.

[–]alphakari7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Possessive is a better word. You don't like when people play with your toys. Ego thing

[–]Alcatraz-12[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

can you elaborate ?

[–]alphakari7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Us guys have an ego about everything in our sphere of influence. We're territorial like that. If you relate the emotions you feel when a girl talks bout other dudes to the what you'd feel in the unga bunga caveman days, and reduce those feelings to the root you'll see what I mean.

Nowadays we process our shit (which isn't necessarily a bad thing its just what we do.) The way you process it is instead of giving up or pushing back on the validity of your possessiveness, you decide "fuck this bitch" and toss her out.

Fix, if you even wanna, is to realise u can't gain possession of her body no matter what you do. You cant be giving a fuck if some prospective plate might be sucking another dudes dick. The only pristine hos are the unfuckably ugly. All we can get is possession of her mind and thats just something you acquire from a girl just by being a fully formed high smv guy.

[–]Dimenzije905 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Men are designed to look for a women who is a vrigin or low n count. Its in our nature to secure offsprings. Thats why when a girl cheats on you it hurts your inner beeing and hurts much more then when a guy cheats on a women. But when you cheat on a women it just hearts her ego because she feels she isnt beautiful enough or something like that.

[–]diggyigy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

As long as you aren't interested in a LTR with her it shouldn't affect you.

Act disinterested , don't ask her for details and just follow your gameplan.

[–]MagnumBurrito2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Since she's more attracted to a man with options, she might think men are that way too. She doesn't realize we don't want to hear about all the men she could have.

[–]MonkMode20192 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They do this for two reasons, DOI or a shit test.

Generally, yes I lose interest because it's either fuck yes or fuck no (IOD).

The shit test is either they are insecure or they are questioning you, which their tactic means later down the road they will cheat on you if they have the opportunity.

[–]Zanford2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep. It's a turnoff.

And it doesn't necessarily mean you're insecure. It's just as much of a turnoff when you're slumming it and you can tell that the girl (and the guys she's mentioning) are beneath your league.

In fact I think I've noticed more of this from 'meh' girls, like they are trying hard to reassure themselves (or me) that they are a catch.

Lots of girls 'gender project' and they think that b/c preselection is attractive to them, it will be attractive to guys. (An example of bad gender projection in reverse is when guys send dick pics...they want nudies so they assume the girl does too, right!?)

[–]ev2144 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I forgot to add: is this your girlfriend? Or a plate? If it is a plate, why the fuck do you care? She doesn’t belong to you or the other Chad she is talking to, so why the fuck do you care? As long as she keeps interest in you who cares. She doesn’t belong to you

[–]theyearsstartcomin14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If it is a plate, why the fuck do you care?

Same reason i care my plate doesnt look like a skank when im out with her. I want a classy hoe, not some gutter trash with no manners

[–]PrettyBarbiePerson1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When you’re picking them and they try to shit test by talking about other dudes it’s totally off putting and makes me totally rethink my decision and most the time I just usually withdraw all attention and ignore her.

This will make them upset but I ain’t about that they know I’m more attractive than these other guys so idk why they try to make me butt hurt

Like girls always have options on their phones, I always have options when I go out, i just don’t go out as much as they are on their phones so they think I can’t get pussy for some reason

[–]MrWisdom391 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't know about you, but often times if I bring up a girl to a friend who is also a girl it's usually to let her know that I have my interest elsewhere. either she likes you enough to groom into an orbiter or she is trying to let you down easy.

On the other hand, if you guys re talking about sex, sex is probably what you're both thinking =)

[–]MeansToABenz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have found that women in the past didn’t do this as much. I almost think it has to do with the flexing for the gram culture. I also agree with the notion that I run for the hills when they have this kind of behaviour; I know you can’t be picky when it comes to hoes but c’mon

[–]SoA_MC5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, you are jealous and you’re on here asking this hoping someone tells you it’s normal.

You’ve caught feelings, your apparent loss of interest is an illusion. You want her more than she wants you.

[–]sopademaruchan2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I'm kind of in the same boat, I'm really good friends with this girl and play video games together and shit but she started mentioning that she has a boyfriend now, I'm not jealous or anything, but i just dont feel like talking to her that much anymore. I dont even like her like that but im noticing that im just distancing myself away from her

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

let her talk about her numbers, show her insecurities and covertly tell you she's ignorant of the differences in what arouses and motivates men and woman, you're winning here. note the red flags, prevent oneitis, intel galore.

then ask her a question:

you: "what do you NOT want from a guy?"

(then listen, she'll blab for a bit and share more intel on her expected ASD type behavior)

they will then ask: "so /u/Alcatraz-12 what don't you want from a girl?"

you: "pressure to commit" (then stfu, as in that your ONLY thing, even after she listed 10 things she doesn't want from a guy)

After her sex talk and BS this will shake her and have her wondering "wtf does this guy know that that's his biggest worry, not me no longer talking about past dicks". caffeinate the hamster. be OI/NGAF. Watch the arousal shift.

[–]badass_monk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she talk about other guys that means she doesnt have high interest for you.Better let that one go.The girl who like you very much doesn’t even bring up this subject at all.

[–]MrAnderzon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So what you’re saying is that you like women to act like women. Women will teach you about patience.

TRP Principal #xx Listen to her actions not her words

[–]Merica9110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's in you DNA to feel this way

[–]bilabrin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Try guiding the conversation. There are literally a million directions. You can find a way to relate and engage without following her lead in determining the direction of the conversation.

[–]liquorbaron0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Depends on the girl. If it's a girl I'm meh about anyhow then it just makes me want to tune them out more. If it was someone I was dating and they start talking about a specific guy then it's a red flag because the guy is obviously on her mind.

[–]SpiderAlpha330 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's just a shit test. Ignore.

[–]BlackMonkey140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Anyone else loose interest when a girl is ugly? Is it just me?” Lolno

[–]AssholeFucked0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What made you become attracted to this girl in the first place?

Is this girl mentioning other guys during your conversations with her?

Have you overheard any conversations that this girl has been having with other people during which other guys have been mentioned?

Are you and this girl already in a relationship?

Are you intending to establish a relationship with this girl if you have not already done so?

Do you want to take your relationship with this girl to the next level if she and you are already in a relationship?

Do the positives outweigh the negatives?

What do you think you should do about the emotions that you have described?

[–]amwfhunter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No, I'm the same way because there are plenty of other chicks. I'm assuming these are chicks you're fucking right? I feel it is disrespectful to me to mention other dudes. I never talk about other chicks to my plates.

[–]Foolishoe0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Tell her not to talk about it. Tell her you dont want to know and that she has girlfriends for that.

[–]GetBehindMeSatan6662 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

^ This guy fails shit tests ^

dont listen to him

[–]KilluminatiGotti21 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

BP nomalfayg advice

[–]Foolishoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Atta boy, way to add your 2 cents jr.

[–]Foolishoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

oh well.

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[–]Inspectah_Chill2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It can kill a vibe to fuck a girl, pretty big point taken out of relationship I suppose

[–]QuinlanBothese-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bu bu but it hurts so much :( .

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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