Is being friends with girls worth it to get into social circles/friends of theirs you can fuck?

November 18, 2018
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Title Is being friends with girls worth it to get into social circles/friends of theirs you can fuck?
Author AmazonAlphaMale
Upvotes 87
Comments 58
Date November 18, 2018 10:29 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]MaliciousMack65 points66 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

It has benefits. I have a friend in a another dorm. Called me out the blue to hook me up with her roommate. Never met the girl but I was told she wanted to fuck. Nut ensued.

[–][deleted] 55 points56 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Haha they just ordered a dick like a pizza

[–]theredfinance20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This right here shows how easy these girls can have dick nowadays. That analogy is so accurate that it's scary. You have to reach the top if you want to stand out

[–]HumbleTrees11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Extra cheese please.

[–]MilkMyUdders2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Extra smegma please

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Extra jizz for her, please.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1001 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Dam brotha. What is your stats? Height, weight, body fat percentage.

[–]MaliciousMack2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

6'1 black 140 lbs thin. Slightly above average looks, but I just game very well. Her seeing me out with other women ups status.

[–]ChadTheWaiter100-4 points-3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Make sense. Only a black could pull off that look of being that skinny. Judging by the info you’ve given me I’d say you have about 9” of long dick. Which is why she wanted to try it.

[–]theprizeandtheaward15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why are you trying to guess his penis size?! Pretty weird man...

[–]Casanova-Quinn9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

FYI only 2% of men globally have penises longer than 7 inches. Most black guys don't have huge dicks, that's a myth perpetuated by the porn industry.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I thought all blacks had ruler styck wieners

[–]Vikingcel-3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I say only 8.75” since he is over 6 feet tall.

[–]ChadTheWaiter100-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Why niggas over 6’ can’t pack long wands?

[–]Vikingcel0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ofc they can, they just don't need as long of a wand for the chicks to wanna fuck for the sake of the wand ofc

[–]ChadTheWaiter1000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh I see what you mean. He’s getting pussy just for being 6’ tell

[–][deleted] 115 points116 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

of course. thats always worth it. dont be taking her out on friend dates or doing shit every week. but just keep in contact and keep them around to get invited to parties and social circles.

[–]markinsinz718 points19 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Struggling with actually becoming friends with them despite not hitting on em and shit. I suspect frequency is key with this but I'm not sure

[–][deleted] 36 points37 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

be more gossipy and emotional to get friends that are girls. they like that shit lol.

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So, what, basically be their girlfriend? no.

Be a man. They like hanging out with men. You bring quality into her life... make sure you get quality back is all.

Mostly this will happen with women that want sex, but you don't.

Very rare occasion a chick and you will both still "get it", and not want to fuck, for whatever reason.

Trying to play mamby girlfriend to get more access? Why aren't you the one inviting her? hmm...

[–]xddm265327 points28 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

"Like omg did you see brenda's hair. So 2008"

[–]fignootins14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"her hair made me wish that Jagex would bring back the wilderness."

[–]Rhinoperos4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Upvote for the runescape reference 🍻

[–]FireDrillem9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This^ and Choose them wisely. I never allow more than 3 girl “friends” in my life at a time.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just because you can only handle 3 female friends in your life at once doesn’t mean other men aren’t fully capable of juggling many.

[–]FireDrillem22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ha! I’m an old dude. Generally women tend to be shitty “friends. In addition, not only is it a waste of time but juggling is for clowns.

[–]bokilica16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He just said to choose carefuly, he didnt suggest a number

[–]VojvodaSrpski0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

But doesn't being friends with one of them give off beta vibe and automatically disqualify you in the eyes of other girls?

[–]SolarTortality1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

No. Wtf? Just don’t behave like a beta and don’t let them “beta” you and it won’t give off a beta vibe.

[–]VojvodaSrpski0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Can you please explain how being a friend with a girl you're not fucking isn't beta? Men and women aren't supposed to be platonic friends, they can be acquaintances at best.

[–]SolarTortality1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can be the one who friend zoned her. So long as you as crushing puss somewhere else.

[–]trpthrowaway200316 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

One of my buddies wives has been amazing in my life as a "wingwoman".

She accepts me for who I am, because I'm honest.

She has fed a few of her friends to me, also she's a smoke show so when we are all out, the natural pre-selection is quite amazing.

I think this situation is kind of unique though, but for some reason, all of my friends accept my lifestyle and seem to enable it.

It likely does have something to do with the unapologetic and honest way I present myself.

I'd be curious to hear others experiences with this type of situation, specifically the likely psychology behind it.

[–][deleted] 55 points56 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Fuck. Yes. However. Be careful.

You can be a friend and can be an alpha as well. This is the recipe you wanna have for this. Those female friends of yours should all be potential benifitters, meaning not only you guys are friends having fun together, but also you're casually touching them all of the time, they're submissive to you and follow you around...etc etc. It's like you're dating the girl but maintaining that friendship healthy without sex.

This could backfire if you go beta on one of them. You'll end up in the friendzone with no real prospects.

Button line is, try fucking your female friends, and other girls will tag along from their social circles who you'll also try to fuck. Worked for me. I'm sure it'll work for you.

[–]polyspastos 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Relating to another human being is not only possible through bodily fluids, just a heads-up.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah right I'm here to learn how to connect with them using body fluids

[–]creating_my_life28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not nearly as much as being a fit, fun, male with goals and drive in life. Then women will come out of the woodwork.

[–]ltrthrowaway1238 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A lot of the plates I have had in the past I met through various female friends. It’s much more effective than cold approach. In my experience, it’s worth it to have a girl friends, I don’t text them much, but I always make conversation in person or occasionally make plans to hangout or go to bars together.

[–]christophertracy922 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You may think it’s great social proof to have some hot friend endorse you as a good lay for her other friends, but women talk. In fact it’s all they do most of the time. Your status as a friend gets transferred to her girlfriends. Why?
First, if she was a prior target for you who turned into a LJBF, you already have that as an association of your friendship. Any of her girlfriends that would subsequently date you will know that she was your primary interest initially – not them. Secondly, assuming you even could have a completely innocuous, asexual, platonic beginning to your inter-gender friendship, there will be competition anxiety with the other girlfriends. This will result in a tendency for the original friend to filter your exposure to which of her girlfriends she finds the least threatening. You have to consider the balance between your value to her as another friend / orbiter against her endorsing you as a potential intimate for one of her girlfriends. Just because you have a girl-friend with a social circle of attractive female friends doesn’t mean you’ll get her endorsement for the one you’d prefer to get with.

https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/30/intergender-friendship/

[–]askmrcia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agree. Guys can have hot female acquaintances. Hot female acquaintances can be great wingmen as well.

But friends? Ehhh

[–]SalporinRP3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Social Circle game is honestly the easiest game out there. You have the social proof of being friends with someone the girl knows. You have easy ways to get together (going out to bars/clubs in groups). Some girls in the past have wingmanned for me with their friends and have given me some of the easiest lays of my life on a platter.

Despite what TRP says, there are some girls out there who actually are good friends. Rare certainly, but they definitely do exist.

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Girls can be orbiters too. As long as they're more useful than not,

then why not? Have had platonic female friends that would wing-man like a master.

[–]Lambdal70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, that’s actually the most powerful to pull.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude being genuine friends with girls has been nothing but beneficial to me for the last 20 years.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

'friends' is a sticky term.

Be careful with anyone giving your power away or your resources. You want mutually beneficial relationships, do not take on 'dependent' style friendships. No one likes it, not even them.

Hand outs come from parents not friends, the state, not friends. Don't give away what you need to become the foundational rock in your own life and the life of any woman you might meet.

A friendship with a woman is always sexually leaning, and not having sex with them right away opens up causal interactions with the people around them. If you aren't 'putting out' but you are engaging with them, going places with them, they will be enticed and wonder, especially if the chemistry is strong.

I fully support networking with women interested in the same things you are interested in. Social events can be incredible if you take a great looking woman.

Great looking women attract great looking women. You don't have to fuck them, if they don't want to fuck, they have friends or family that might want to fuck, or those people they connect you to connect you to women that want to fuck you.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER IS THEY HAVE A USE. VERY FEW WOMEN WILL TYPICALLY JUST SNAP INSTANTLY INTO WANTING TO BANG YOUR BRAINS OUT. THAT'S NORMAL LIFE EVEN FOR SOLID HIGH SMV MEN.

Don't be so worried about it, go out there and engage, do active fun stuff and better yourself till most of the women around you can't stand themselves and get wet just thinking about spending time with you hoping you want to smash.

[–]downvotesanimals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Being friends with people is worth it because having friends kicks ass.

[–]SirAttackHelicopter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It depends on the girl. most girls will make sure to "hamster" or go into "hen mode" around their social circles, and if that includes trash talking the new guy to gain an advantage, then they won't even blink before finishing the first insult at your expense.

The issue (and biggest mistake everyone here makes) isn't to impress the 1 girl. You need to build status. Be the guy other dudes can look up to or talk about. Be the guy girls talk about. It doesn't always have to be about good things, but as long as you maintain your cool factor (by the uncool guy insulting you and therefore by proxy making you cooler). Be interesting. Be something to talk about. Everyone in the room is your wingman.

THAT is what it means to be alpha.

[–]Peter_B_Long0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My roommate (31F) is one of my closest friends. She's very attractive. She modeled in the 20's. She has a bunch of guys who just do shit for her. We have a pool guy who came every weekend over the summer to clean our pool at no cost. He said he did it because he liked that she would offer him coffee. We just had a guy deliver a 10ft x 5ft mirror for free. She had to sneak $40 in his pocket cause he wouldn't take anything in return.

Anyways, Now that you get the idea of how hot she is, let me tell you about the value she brings into my life.

She's a great wing-woman. First week I moved in we went dancing at a bar. This girl approached me and we started talking. My roommate would hype me up to her. Giving me compliments and basically building interest. An attractive girl mirin' you in front of you is huge social points.

A few weeks after that, we were at a day club. I approached the hottest girl I'd ever approached (at the time). She was with her mom. I went for the "I'm actually hitting on your mom, not you" dynamic. As I was chatting with the hot girl's mom, I noticed the HG was trying to look away and seem disinterested. At the perfect timing, my roommate passes by and I call her over to introduce. My roommate comes, puts her arm around me and starts praising me in front of them. As soon as my roommate excuses herself, the HG shifts her attitude and she's all over me. She asks if I want to come with her to grab a drink and isolates me from her mom. A few minutes later we're making out. I was in disbelief the whole time cause to me she was a HB8.

Besides being a wing woman, she's also a great roommate and host. She threw a party for my birthday over the summer all by herself. She has the house decorated so well with a Gothic interior. Whenever I bring a plate over or any company, she always gets praise and admiration. I had a girl from Tinder come over to a party and she was so obsessed with the house that she was offering to hire my roommate to decorate her place. Because of this it makes girls want to come over more easily.

She's also hosting a Thanksgiving dinner this week. She's cooking everything on her own and she's offering all of our friends to come over and eat if they have nothing planned to do.

Just overall a great chick and just having her around gives me tremendous social value points.

[–]Musicgoon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So you're thinking of keeping a female friend huh? I think female friends are a good way to up your SMV and social circle. Now the first big thing to consider is this: My guy friends encourage me and help me get laid. Will she do the same? If she's not helping she's hurting. All that time, energy and resources going into her would be better served invested into yourself. Don't be her source of validation. And you have to hold your own. Chances are that if you're asking about this, you arent being a leader. Don't be, "just one of the girls". Cringey isn't it?

Now, do have a desire to Fuck this girl? This requires insight and honesty. Are you settling for friendship in lieu of being balls deep? And I'm not talking about the ,"well, if it was thrown at me I would take it". You're a guy. We all understand that... I'm talking about the I really like and lust after this chick. You at that point automatically put yourself in category of orbiter. And she will go out and fuck all sorts of Chad's. Tgen Will come back and tell you about it. Are you ok as her friend to hear this shit?

Regardless of friends or romance she cannot be your equal. If you follow her around like a puppy, listen to her bullshit, spend copious amounts of time together, and always agree. You will slide right back into beta BP territory. And you will be spotted as a chump from a million miles away from other women.

Lead, be decisive, value your time, and be honest with yourself. Tread carefully...

[–]Fulp_Piction0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. 100% absolutely - mutual friends is a great ice breaker. Your girl friends will also try to set you up. Contrary to what a lot of people will spout on here, you can be friends with a girl and not be being used. You don't have to be fucking every girl you interact with regularly, and a guy with no girl 'aquaintances' comes across as kinda weird.

[–]Shootereto0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah man. Just make sure you can get something out of it.

[–]2comment0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Works better than wingmen as long as you don't fall into beta orbit.

[–]Rkingpin 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you've got patience, honestly girls are mostly boring and chat a whole load of nothing about everything.

Having a wolf-pack and hunting together>>

[–]hrm08941 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Recently cut off all contact with this one woman (platonic). All we ever talked about was her problems and she would use me for rides. They're so incredibly boring and I learn nothing from them.

Female "friends" are the most one-sided relationships ever. I can't tolerate listening to a woman's trivial problems if we're not fucking.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, just make sure YOU are the one that puts them into the friend zone, I suggest watching Jason Capital - Social God (he does cover this subject and how de-friendzone them & have sex etc.)

[–]Fauxregaurd-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No. Your only role in this situation is orbiter.

[–]red_matrix-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Having other girls as friends is “social proof”, and it is like catnip for other women you’re trying to hook up/meet/date, etc

[–]MajIssuesCaptObvious-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yup. It's a means to an end.

[–]hrm0894-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No. She'll just use you for shit. But you don't need me to tell you that. Go experience it firsthand and you'll see for yourself.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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