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is it possible to have a LTR when you dont have a job?

June 14, 2015

guys I think I fuckd up

I never had LTR in my life before. Now I meet a hot 18 year old who wants to be with me in a LTR. It's completly fine for me but I fuckd up in one aspect : I lied that I study at university instead of telling her that I dont have work for 6 months now.

I just experienced that whenever I told a women I dont have work they just lost all interest (for 6 months straight). Now that's the first time in my life I lied in that regard but I dont know what to do right now.

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Title is it possible to have a LTR when you dont have a job?
Author dongpal
Upvotes 0
Comments 13
Date June 14, 2015 6:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/is-it-possible-to-have-a-ltr-when-you-dont-have-a.150056
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/39tuq1/is_it_possible_to_have_a_ltr_when_you_dont_have_a/
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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Hey man, it's all right. Relax. You're fine. Just continue with the lie for a little bit and then either tell her once she's in love or just say that you aren't going, or taking a semester break or whatever.

But the other thing is, why don't you have a job? What are you doing to fix that?

[–]dongpal[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

thanks for the answer. today I spoke to her ( and first time to her family ) and I told them that I study but I most likely will cancel/drop out of it.

They are ok with it but now they want to know what I will do right now. I dont know. To answer your question

why don't you have a job? What are you doing to fix that?

right now I have enough money to live and thats why free time is more important for me than money/work. thats why I didnt do anything to fix that.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If that's the case, then own it. Tell them that you're taking a break because you have enough money to live with.

If you can demonstrate that you're confident in yourself, have enough money and can get a job easily if need be, you're better off than most people who don't have a job.

[–]abdada0 points1 point  (10 children) | Copy Link

LTR is unwise at your age and status.

[–]dongpal[S] 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I'm 23 and I want to experience something I never experienced before. Even if it means more effort than it normally would.

[–]abdada-3 points-2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

If you never ate a steak before, eating a McDonald's burger would not show you anything resembling a dry aged KC cut bone-in ribeye.

An LTR who is attracted to a low SMV man is NOT going to be an eye opening experience.

Get a job. Get three jobs. Work on yourself for a year and you'll attract better women.

[–]dongpal[S] 2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Shes a virigin who is pretty shy. 18 and athletic. We kissed a lot but no sex yet. I can simply see by her actions and nervousness that shes inexperienced. Im not gonna waste that opportuny just because of one thing (which actually counts a lot unfortunately). Thanks to TRP I was able to demonstrate pretty high SMV by knowing a lot of things that only experienced people now ( being stoic, using humor very well, defused all her shit test perfectly, leading her and dominating her in every way/throwing around etc.)

What do you want me to do ?

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

So you catched oneitis, want reasons for plausible deniability, as well as tipps on how to handle you being a liar to a person you want to have an intimate relationship with?

He already told you what you are supposed to do. That's about as good as it gets.

[–]dongpal[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

ok now I hate myself

first time in my 23 year old life i feel like I finally accomplished something with a woman and now it looks like it's all shit

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Not that I want to kick you, while you are on the ground, but how would you come to the believe that a relationship based on lies will turn out to be good?

Also do not start dating with the sole intent to find an LTR. Keep dating her, eventually fucking her and in the meantime keep improving yourself. Find out if she's worthy of being in an LTR with you and then you can start thinking about commiting to one woman.

[–]dongpal[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

the only lie is the job, everything else was true

it also fucks with my mind that she wants dates with me while still being online in an app like tinder

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Seize contact for a while, both for your own good and to teach her options.

[–]dongpal[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

i dont understand what you are saying

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