Hi Everyone,

A little over a year with the pill. Thought I had a good sense of things, but this weekend kinda screwed me up.

This girl I met at a bus stop and I had already gotten coffee once, so I then suggested over text that we go to six flags together (it's not far). We are students in a big city, but I got my car from home recently for a summer job. I told her over text that I had passes and that we should go, and she agreed. Now here is my actual mistake that I wound up apologizing for later (and I never apologize): I actually only had one pass, but figured I'd tell her later about that and splitting the second pass wouldn't be a big deal. To me it was just $30 and I figured she wouldn't care, since I we weren't splitting gas or parking or anything.

So I pick her up the next morning and we start driving there. I have some classic rock on the radio (Molina by CCR, Mary Jane's Last Dance by Tom Petty etc). I really just thought it was music that everybody likes, but she was like I don't like this, and since she was holding my phone for the GPS, she goes to spotify and change it. I was a little taken aback since whenever I'm in somebody's car, they choose the music. However, that was less of a problem. The real problem was she changed it to like party/club music/rap, which I can't stand. So jokingly I was like "you're music sucks, no way I'm doing this" but it was with a smile on my face. I mean, if I did that to one of my friends, they would literally say verbatim "bro, go fuck yourself, get the fuck off the aux or you're walking home." Anyway, we can't agree on music, so I just turned it off since we were going to be talking anyway. Apparently turning it off looked bad, but I didn't really think it was a big deal.

Next thing, somewhere in the ride, I can't remember why, I was teasing her and said, again with a smile on my face and in a joking tone, "you're boring!" apparently that struck a nerve, I don't know why, but she made a comment like "i've never had anyone say I'm boring before." I think I would have noticed more that she was actually annoyed had I not been driving, but I obviously wasn't looking at her.

Lastly, I bring up the split the ticket thing, and she goes nuclear, says she's not splitting and I should pay for it, then says we should go back home. from what she said, she seemed to be most upset about the lying, not about the money. I try to reason a little, but then I'm also like in my head "fuck this bitch" and turn around. We then have an awkward half hour silent ride back. I drop her off, no one says bye, and that was that.

I talked to a few friends about the money thing and they said it looks bad and that i was actually the one that was wrong. So I shoot her a text and say "hey I'm sorry for my part in this. I know it makes me look like a liar, but that really wasn't my intention." Her response then reveals that she was really miffed by the radio situation and the boring comment as well, and that i showed "too many red flags and [she] doesn't need that kind of attitude in her life." to me, it seems like she was overly sensitive about a few comments, so when the money thing came up, she was like fuck this i'm out. I do want to talk to her in person to clear everything up, even if there's no chance in salvaging it to a date, just so she doesn't think I'm an ass. I just tease a lot, and i have gotten in trouble before for teasing too much, but I don't think I went overboard here. what does everyone think?

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Some background on the girl: when we met, we bonded over the fact that we were both conservatives in a very liberal city. she really did make herself out to be a conservative girl that doesn't fuck every guy she sees. on that car ride, she reveals to me that she likes to go out on weekends, which meant she was blatantly lying before. also, she's like a HB9, and said "i always get invited to the VIP section of clubs" (it was relevant to the conversation at the time). So i'm also feeling that she is kind of used to getting whatever she wants and that's a red flag to me. also, before anyone says she just didn't like me enough, in prior meetups, there was plenty of touching and playful banter about us having sex, so the attraction was there.