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Is this a genuine reason she’s cancelling or just another rejection?

September 6, 2019

Plated a girl at work (I know what you’re gonna say - but I’m likely not staying here long so I just went for it, and we work in different departments and hardly interact other than briefly passing by in the hall so whatever) and things were going well for the first month. I see LTR potential so I’ve been trying to selectively sprinkle in some beta but I’ve been thrown for a loop lately.

Last week a friend of hers passed away. I saw she posted about it online and we had previously made plans for that day so I ended up texting her “hey, sorry about your friend. If you’d rather reschedule I’d totally understand”. She agreed but then she was away all weekend and we didn’t end up rescheduling. In hindsight maybe this was a bad move, but I was throwing TRP out for a second and just trying to be a decent human being.

This week she told me another friend of hers was in a serious car accident. So this girls life is just getting shit on right now. I had a bunch of my own personal shit keeping me busy so we really haven’t had much time for each other. I decided to hit her up today, saying “hey, I know things have been off between us for a while because of everything going on, but let’s get together on Monday if you’re around.”

She responds: “Hey thanks for the invite but with everything going on dating isn’t really a priority right now. I’ve been having a lot of fun with you but I’m not in a good head space which wouldn’t be fair to you. Thanks for being so understanding”

Now this logically makes sense but also just seems like a bullshit run around. I’m just applying the Brad Pitt rule and assuming she’s not interested but maybe I’m overreacting. How should I reply? How do you guys deal with grief related situations like this when you’re not their “rock” yet because you’re not in a LTR?

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Title Is this a genuine reason she’s cancelling or just another rejection?
Author The_Juggernauts_Dad
Upvotes 0
Comments 12
Date September 6, 2019 8:19 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/is-this-a-genuine-reason-shes-cancelling-or-just.252176
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/d0m007/is_this_a_genuine_reason_shes_cancelling_or_just/

[–]SniXSniPe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She's not that into you.

She's literally spelled it out: she's basically rejecting you.

[–]Copypastable1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You prioritized her crocodile tears over your plans, and instigated changing those plans for her sake. It turned her off big time. I've seen grown ass women weep over death and a split second later it was like nothing happened. First time I saw that shit was with babies and children. Wave around something they like and it's like a whole new person. If she was really into you, she would move heaven and earth to be with you.

And you should sound more confident when asking her out. You said, "hey, I know things have been off between us for a while because of everything going on, but let’s get together on Monday if you’re around.” Instead it can go something like, "Hey, we should meet up. I'll be at Crocodile Tears Cafe at 8pm on Saturday. Are you coming or not?" If she's into you, she's always around for you, so don't ask "if you're around." Fuck if things have been off for a while. Fuck that. You're giving her all the reason to say no. Ask her if she's alright, if anything.

Women are cold blooded. You can't be "decent" with any of these creatures just because of how pretty they look, or else they can rip you apart in the end if you do.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

You acted like a boyfriend.

You're not her boyfriend.

"throwing TRP out for a second and just trying to be a decent human being." tells me you're a LARPer, aka still blue. That's what you get.

You want to fuck her or be her tampon?

She bled on you, yanked you away from the vagina, and tossed you in the trash.

[–]The_Juggernauts_Dad 1 points [recovered]  (8 children) | Copy Link

Right. So if a plate tells you that someone close to her died how exactly do you handle it tough guy? “That’s a bummer babe, wanna fuck?”

Good god you’re projecting so much insecurity buddy.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed-1 points0 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

This situation is plainly and succinctly explained in a sidebar article, smurf.

No, I'm not going to spoonfeed you.

[–]The_Juggernauts_Dad 1 points [recovered]  (6 children) | Copy Link

Lmao ok let me ask you something. What level of emotional devastation gives a person a logical reason to put dating on the back burner regardless of their feelings for a person? Are you claiming that does not exist?

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

You cockblocked yourself, tell it like it happened.

Who's to say she didn't need a good stiff cock to remind her she's still alive after her friend died?

You made that decision.

Who's to say she didn't need some escapism in the arms of a fun guy when her life is otherwise shit?

You made that decision.

Ever think a fun guy is exactly what she needed, not a somber confidante she doesn't even know?

You made that decision.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #1

Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #6

Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #8

Always let a woman figure out why she wont fuck you, never do it for her.

You assumed so much about her. Your armour is glowing white, but your dick is dry. Good luck, Sir Neverlaid.

[–]The_Juggernauts_Dad 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy Link

They really endorse anyone these days huh? Good job perpetuating the stereotype that everyone that posts here religiously is an emotionless robot. I’m sure your life is very fulfilling.

[–]TRPCops[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Moralizing gets you a timeout!

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just a quick handjob in the car and the red banner is yours forever.

My life rocks.

You can read all about it on the main sub.

[–]The_Juggernauts_Dad 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’ll pass. The fact that you’re proud that someone wrote about your life on a Reddit discussing sexual strategy is truly sad in its own regard.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Before the fall.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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