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It's happening where I don't want it to: anything else I can do?

June 30, 2015

Six roomates: two guys, four girls. All between the ages of 22 and 26.

I've lived here a month. Started a new position, and found this place on Craigslist. It was a mile down the road from work, and it was forcing me to be around others my age.

The roomates are all overweight, with the exception of one of the girls. She's one of the guy's girlfriends - kinda cute raver girl. But no more than a 7 at best. We threw a party last weekend. A lot of people, who all knew each other. I was the odd one out, but I tried, and was a smash hit, apparently.

A few times, drunk girls would comment on my fitness. At one point, a girl even pulled my shirt up. Raver girl and her female friend liked what they saw and dragged me into her room, where they stripped and proceeded to fuck each other in front of me.

I have a lot of respect for drunk me. He does some stupid shit, but he knows where the limits are. On top of me having a girlfriend that's actually cool shit, this would be shitting where I'm eating.

"Sketti-os, where are you going?"

"This would just cause problems."

We had a chat about it in the morning, and I made it crystal clear that I'm not going there. She's a roomate, so if shit hit the fan, my daily life would be affected. She seemed to agree, but what she did next didn't coincide. She broke up with boyfriend-roomate, apparently claiming she wanted to see other people.

Another roomate is mad at me because I (politely) rejected her 360-pound cousin who was rolling balls on molly all night. Not really my thing.

Question 1: Boyfriend roomate doesn't know this happened. Do I tell him? I feel like that's the honorable thing to do. Not to mention, it would save my ass if raver girl tried to lie about anything. But at the same time, it would piss off raver girl and cause problems there. But if I don't, and boyfriend roomate finds out later, from another source, I imagine it'd be worse. If my girlfriend tried to fuck someone, I'd be thankful if they told me.

Question 2: Other than making it abundantly clear verbally that I'm not shitting where I'm eating, can I do anything else to remove the sexual label given to me by the roomates and their close friends/family, or do I constantly have to be on guard?

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Title It's happening where I don't want it to: anything else I can do?
Author Sketti-Os
Upvotes 3
Comments 6
Date June 30, 2015 7:30 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/its-happening-where-i-dont-want-it-to-anything.150619
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[–]fnordsnord 8 points8 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Question 1: I will get downvotes for this. I always do. No. Even though everybody claims that the would want to know about this, the messenger is always blamed. Unless you are tight bros with a dude, and I mean help-him-hide-a-body tight, never give a man bad news about his woman. He already knows and doesn't want to face it. Forcing him to face it will just piss him off and drive him deeper into denial.

Question 2: Just continue to deflect. It's not going to stop. If you have a high SMV AND present a challenge, she's going to HAVE to get you express attraction for her to validate her self image. You might gets some miles out of: "Damn, you're really hot. But I'm in a relationship; I just can't."

[–]Sketti-Os[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You won't get downvoted. Even if it's not a shared opinion, as long as you give solid reasoning for your claims, and they're not bluepill, people here will generally either upvote for contribution, or just do nothing. It's a pretty intelligent community.

Anyway, thanks for the input. The general consensus is basically what you've said. There's been a lot of shit I didn't think of, which is why I brought this up. I'm not the best at foresight.

[–]avngr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


What is this?

[–]ThePedanticF0x0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

While I would certainly appreciate being informed of my girlfriends distasteful endeavors, the majority of men will not. Most men blame the man, the woman usually gets the pussy pass in this kind of situation. I myself can testify to this.

Doing the honorable thing for someone else's benefit backfires many times in this day and age. If you wish to be honorable then honor yourself, not others.

If she attempted this with you then she has done it before multiple times. This time she did not get away with it, so her subsequent break up is nothing but an attempt to repair her own self image, not yours or her ex's. Remember this.

Whether you see it or not your peace has already been disrupted, you may as well have fucked her. It is up to you to judge whether it is wise to inform the guy that he was almost cuckolded.

[–]NidStyles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

1) Never tell a non-bro shit. Never, not once, not ever. You don't do this for two reasons. One, Betas will always play powertalk games with what you tell them. They will always try to manipulate you or perspective females in some way. This is needless drama you should be working to avoid. The second reason is that it will destroy any chance of ever getting this dude to be anything other than a straight up threat to your livelihood and property. You will never be able to trust him around your possessions while you are not there. Betas will do far more fucked up shit when you fuck up their worldview. Women will be direct and effect your life, a Beta will actually fuck with your property.

2) Ignore those that make unwanted sexual advances completely. be civil when forced to interact with them, but otherwise ignore them completely. This sends a clear message without you having to do a damn thing. They will get nasty with you to try and get a rise out of you, but you are already ignoring them which will set you up for being able to just continue doing the same.

3) You learned your lesson. Never move in with people who party together, and never party with people you live with.

I can't imagine how many pills a 350lb beast had to swallow to actually crest the threshold on MDMA. I can't imagine that was a cheap night for her. Back in the 90's you would never see fatties on MDMA, because they were all out dancing all night on the stuff. So strange to hear about fatties doing it nowadays...

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your roommates are losers, find your own place.

  1. You have nothing to gain by white knighting. Keep your mouth shut.
  2. Why would you want to remove that label? Be seen as the sexual object and learn what that can do for you in non-sexual ways. High SMV and a laid back attitude will make your stay much less stressful than if you were to shut them down completely.
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