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Just joined. Please help diagnose my case.

November 2, 2013

I have recently just got involved into a somewhat serious relationship with a girl 2 yrs younger than me (I'm 19) who's not controlling but is pretty cold.

I act like I am the prize and it really feels it's a war for control. I know she cares about me, but doesn't seem to show, and I don't care much about that but I'm just curious if you guys can help me understand what's going on. I have been 2 months deep into seddit and TRP and nothing has ever been so clear to me. Besides that I used to close pretty easily even before (... speaking about religion, art, philosophy and so on. Go figure).

As for my gf, now I just keep it to a banter level, waiting for you guys to give me some advice. I'm great on the speaking but suck on the keeping: one night stands flow easily but holding a relationship has never worked for me.. That means I have always had clingy girls who could do my insecurity. I got into a relationship also to train myself. Now confidence has overtaken the old me and I'm like a blank paper, needing directions.

TL;DR: make me swallow that red pill already for I need it badly to have a good relationship with my gf. I'm no beta so everything is accepted.

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Title Just joined. Please help diagnose my case.
Author Spiritualpha
Upvotes 3
Comments 9
Date November 2, 2013 8:57 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/just-joined-please-help-diagnose-my-case.138434
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/1pqq3r/just_joined_please_help_diagnose_my_case/
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[–][deleted] 8 points8 points | Copy Link

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[–]Spiritualpha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Old but gold.

[–]trpRX6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

At your age forget spending any time being in a relationship with one girl, it isn't going to last. If I could go back in time and tell my 19 year old self that I would. focus on the stuff that matters, your career goals, physical fitness, a couple of hobbies, your good friends... the rest will take care of itself.

edit. also stop calling them girlfriends, call them lovers instead. and dont be afraid to lose a lover, you will have many more.

[–]Spiritualpha[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks, I'll keep that all in mind. I care a lot about words so your edit kinda blew my mind.

But I think I'll stick to her for a while, I just wanna make mistakes now before I move for university, where it's gonna be all about what you mentioned... Plus more girls.

[–]trpRX-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

why stick with her? would the captain of the football team stick with her? would any man with options stick with a misbehaving girl?

[–]Spiritualpha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, I think any captain would. She's hot, she teases, she makes for the hustle I have to go through. I never said I'm changing my habits for her, I never said I'm leaving my hobbies and sports and most importantly I won't change myself any differently than how I would if she weren't around. I still get As in school, ladies still dig me and I'd be damned if that ever changed.

The only thing is I can look and tease, but not touch. I love this sub for how rough sometimes things get, for how hard the red pill must be stuck down your throat, so any criticism is accepted. She's 'misbehaving' by not giving me motherly love, which is all I had been looking for in the past. That's why I am confused and asking directions. Kudos

Edit: typo

[–]UnableToConnect2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

There's your problem right there.
You are letting her know by your actions and body language that
you are having a good time with her and really like her.

What you are practically doing is telling her:
"I hope you find me worthy, since as you can see,
I am fun to be around of and I make a great chat."

What you are doing in essence is letting her know that
you are insecure about telling the bitch directly in a confident manner
to suck your dick or fuck off.

Unfortunately, you are a beta.
You tell me to make you swallow the red pill, but you say that you are not a beta.
That makes absolutely no sense at all.
That statement is something a double-talking woman would say.
You would not be here asking for advice if you were a confident alpha.

First of all, accept that you are a beta.
You can not deal with the problem if you refuse to ignore its' existance.

Unfortunately, you probably can't repair the relationship with your current partner,
because once a woman has labelled you as beta,
she will do everything to keep her dominant status which you gave her voluntarily.

It's like you voluntarily punched out your own teeth so you would not "hurt her feelings".
Well guess what. She has no problem at all hurting your feelings.

You have completely misunderstood the game of sex so far.
It's not a "Game of Courtship" or "Game of Pleasantries".

It's a fucking "Game of Thrones" where the prize is the fucking.
If you are familiar with the show, you might have noticed that
nobody ever claimed the throne by being nice.

While slitting bitches throats will get you arrested,
you will be wanting to do that verbally and by other means
to convey the idea that she will either suck your cock or fuck off.

[–]Spiritualpha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Alright, thanks for your insight.

Following what you're saying it means that I need to skip to the next one? Seems pretty harsh to me. We've been together for two weeks.

Today we're going out and I want to take her to my house (I'm still living with my parents for now and they're out today). How should I do that? I'm not going for the YouTube clip "she definitely has to see", cuz that ain't me.

I've been imposing myself for the last days and it has worked so far. But now I need advice on how to get my prize, if you now what I mean.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

ITT: Admitting to statutory.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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