Just seeking adive if i'm doing right - Took the Red pill and stopped being the nice husband since a month and here is what happened

atticusfinch1973 · 2021-03-11T12:46:04+00:00

My only advice is take it slow. A lot of guys blow up their marriages by going from dread level 1 to 10 in way too short a time.

BurntYams · 2021-03-11T11:17:09+00:00

Nice buddy!

But don’t make the same mistake A LOT (myself included) new guys make when they find TRP and apply it in a relationship that was founded BEFORE finding trp.

They start reading all up on plate theory and how to treat plates. and start treating their partner like one.

You treat her like a plate, she will break LIKE A PLATE.

Remember, trp in relationships is DIFFERENT than with plates. Plates want alpha, no complications, dominance. 0% beta. It’s an effective strategy, but sooner or later they realize that’s all there is, no side to be a provider, so they find someone else EVENTUALLY.

trp with relationships, it’s a healthy 80% Alpha, 20% beta.

Remember, if you treat her like a plate, she’ll break like a plate eventually.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-03-11T14:06:41+00:00

GOOD for you. a few things:

1) go on /r / askmrp and read top posts

2) remember why you're doing this... for you. You need to understand this fully.

3) Frame is everything. You have a long road ahead, yes, there will be short term wins but if you truly start changing, she either will recoil at the power imbalance, or assume it's a short term fad. Internal strength of Frame is the answer. read this: https://archive.is/Uxztt

4) the EPIC shit test is required reading https://archive.is/pSJXz

5) and of course, Steel's guide: http://archive.is/RxbTN

6) PS: don't talk about RP. Don't "prove her wrong to be right" keep your ego in check and continue the grind for you and your children. Once you become the man you can be proud of, she can fit the mold or be replaced. This is the attitude you need to maintain.

Smerdakas · 2021-03-11T11:08:15+00:00

Finally a good post. Kudos to you brother and keep progressing, the worst mistake nice guys do in serious relationships is they become too nice and never rock the boat.

I highly recommend reading No More Mister Nice Guy.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2021-03-11T14:45:13+00:00

Oh boy, he’s going to go Rambo. You need /MRP

jtzabor · 2021-03-11T12:10:16+00:00

There's also a married redpill subreddit you should checkout

Pres-Bill-Clinton · 2021-03-11T13:28:21+00:00

Try this. In a playful, but not really tone, order your wife to have sex. Something like, “I want you in my layer in 10 minutes dressed in nothing but a thong”.

My wife will make a tepid protest like “you are not getting anything unless you ask nice.” Or “I have to finish the dishes”. Or whatever.

The response to any objection is always “10 minutes”. Then leave the room. Of course if there is a real objection like she is sick you call it off. Almost all of the time it will be a shit test.

100% of the time she shows up ready to go. Even when she says she will not. Best sex of your life. So good, she may come out double pregnant.

RedUncleCad · 2021-03-11T11:27:20+00:00

Its going fine. Try and remember she was a bitchy shrew because you sucked. Let some anger go and enjoy the ride and take care of your family because its your job and yes, you dont need applause for owning your own shit

Herr_Roidobertoro · 2021-03-11T11:57:09+00:00

Sounds good and congrats on your second child! Remember to do a paternity test, though.

adam-l · 2021-03-11T11:33:55+00:00

Post this in the main sub.

CrypticV3nom · 2021-03-11T14:19:13+00:00

Remember your frame, don't go Rambo on her either, there is a mix of Alpha and Beta when you're a family man. It's called the "Oak", you're solid, rooted, and provide comfort and always lead. At the same time never be afraid to roar at the pack when needed.

Read "Married Man Sex Life Primer" by Athol Kay..learn and grow.

skyrunner22 · 2021-03-11T15:21:35+00:00

Hopefully you visit MarriedRP. They can help you much better for your situation. Good luck

gibblesnbits160 · 2021-03-11T17:56:39+00:00

As others have said take TRP very very slow when your married. I got very close to ending an excellent relationship because of TRP. On top of that while she is pregnant don't be discouraged if you don't see the results you want. Pregnancy does crazy things to an already crazy female mind so extra "beta" may be needed. Read up on the difference between comfort tests and shit tests because if you mix those up she might implode in this mind state. No more mr nice guy is an excellent read highly recommend. Remember that TRP is about doing things for yourself not for her. You are on the right track with not seeking her validation when you do something keep doing that. GL.

jackandjill22 · 2021-03-11T14:51:46+00:00

Glad it's working for you.

slappysq · 2021-03-11T15:36:41+00:00

What are your lifts and body fat %?

This just sounds like the weekly Rambo post

UEMcGill · 2021-03-11T13:35:40+00:00

I read it, sort of. Well, I skimmed it.

I mostly heard you complaining about your wife. Her, she, I did this so she...

I'm I doing right? Is there something that I need to do?

Your living in her frame. Start from there. Stop being worried about her emotional response or her validating your actions.

Hit the gym because you're probably a fat fuck too. Dumbells won't cut it.

Bigchungus1992 · 2021-03-11T14:09:36+00:00

"Women BAD! PLATES BAD . pregnant wife annoying, not gib me secks. Should I treating her like shiit??? YES! I am now ALPHA because I dominate fragile prengant woman. " -OP, probably

drv12021 · 2021-03-11T15:27:26+00:00

Great effort with beneficial result. Glad you decided to take charge of your family like how many of our forefathers have done.

319Skew · 2021-03-11T16:44:42+00:00

Sometimes I wish I'd discovered TRP when just prior to my child being born. It may have turned things around. From one father to the next, I'm glad that things worked out for you and wish you success.

For the record, I went with the standard 'happy wife/happy life' approach and it ended the marriage. So Kudos on your TRP discovery.

SublimePimp · 2021-03-11T19:08:46+00:00

One of the better anecdotes out there. Keep it up champ, but remember, she’s always got you by the balls with two kids in family court so be vigilant

Snoo87499 · 2021-03-11T23:40:30+00:00

Jump On purple pill my guy

jackzhangbarrow · 2021-03-12T03:51:38+00:00

Wholesome changes

themostgianthorse · 2021-03-11T15:24:47+00:00

Hell yes man! Congrats! Keep it up!

Tambamwham · 2021-03-11T17:57:02+00:00

Yeh... never get married unless you can lead every aspect of your life, hone, marriage, and children. At all times.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2021-03-11T22:00:07+00:00

i hope she's hot & smart for all the trouble it sounds like you had to put up with

Throwawaytheguitar · 2021-03-11T22:05:17+00:00

I suggest you to check married red pill subreddit out

cfbovernfl · 2021-03-12T05:11:31+00:00

You married; you never "took the red pill".

dick_to_ball_ratio · 2021-03-12T16:10:21+00:00

Sex twixe a month? She isn't worth the effort. I'd gtfo

KidBrody77 · 2021-03-11T22:28:07+00:00

"And I have been offered sex twice in a month!!! Refused the first time but I was offered sex 2 days later!"

Wow. This statement right here is troubling. Talk about operating completely within her frame. Listen carefully because you need to hear this and I am one of the most RP educated members on this forum. I am an expert. Here it goes.......

Why are you expecting and/or waiting for your wife (a female) to offer you (a male) sex? If you expect this it means you don't understand the first thing about male-female interpersonal sexual dynamics. But that's ok because I am going to teach you and you can thank me later.

Females do not "offer" sex to males. That is a basic fact of nature. When is the last time you saw a cow try to back up underneath a bull? When is the last time you saw a female cat cahse down and pursue a tom cat to fuck her? When is the last time you saw a young mare horse chase down a stallion to breed her? Or a bitch in heat chase down an unneutered stud dog? In fact, dogs have giant knots in their dicks so that once its inside the female is stuck and CANNOT escape.

All of these animals are mammals and humans are no different than any other mammal. By asking or expecting your female wife to offer you sex is literally asking her to go against her own biological programming and hardwired DNA. No woman wants to have to "offer" a male sex. Stop that shit. It repulses them. As it should.

You should NEVER expect your wife to offer, initiate, pursue you for sex. That is YOUR job and expecting her to offer you sex is the first step on a gender role reversal road that eventually ends with her behind you pegging you with a plastic dick.

Now granted, we're not fucking animals. You obviously can't just fuck your wife if she tells you no. I understand that. But acting like a man and stop expecting her to initiate or offer you sex is the first step in getting her to stop saying no. So here's how it looks.....

STEP 1 - Initiate sex whenever you feel like fucking. Pay attention to what I just said. WHENEVER YOU FEEL LIKE FUCKING. Not when she feels like fucking. Not when it's convenient. Whenever you feel like getting your willy in her warm hole.

STEP 2 - If and when she tells you to fuck off......BLOW IT OFF LIKE NO BIG DEAL!!!!!!! BE OUTCOME INDEPENDENT!!!!!!!! Laugh and say something like "No worries babe, I'll get you later" or "No problem babe" and kiss her on the cheek and go find something to do. You have to communicate this is not a big deal to you. You can take it or leave it. The reason for that is because women want men with sexual options and nothing SCREAMS that you don't have sexual options like pouting for sex, or being upset you didn't get sex, that shit is industrial strength vagina repellant.

STEP 3 - Understand she's pregnant and hormonal and feels like she's ugly as fuck. Women have to feel like they are somewhat attractive to even being open to the idea of sex. Don't tell but show her you think she's attractive and want to fuck her non-verbally. Slap her ass. Kiss her cheek. Hold her hand. Do a playful titty grab. Be affectionate with her physically even when you know it won't immediately lead to sex.

Try these things and report back.

trv22 · 2021-03-11T14:04:06+00:00

this post right here is exactly what this sub is. gaining confidence and doing what you gotta do. great job man.

Defiant_Mess5346 · 2021-03-11T17:09:04+00:00

Good shit bro the only thing I would add is to start hitting the gym.

AnonymousGhou · 2021-03-11T23:01:26+00:00

Never forget the value you bring to the table. If you were to abandon her, what kind of position would she be in in life? Single mom with a new baby, yikes...(yes you're not a jerk, but it doesn't hurt to recognize the power you hold over her)

I remind my girlfriend often that I'm a stones throw away from leaving her. Secretly, I plan on marrying her but keeping her on her toes is crucial.

Also, cheating on your wife is fine imo as long as you don't rub it I'm her face. What she doesn't know won't hurt her and it'll put pep in your step which is good for both individuals in the relationship. Chasing and acquiring new pussy is what makes a man a man.

Sounds like you're kn the right track though, here's some random reinforcement.

Drewsef916 · 2021-03-11T12:25:42+00:00

Get a girlfriend too

MinuteOk47788 · 2021-04-02T03:56:24+00:00

Aren't you being unkind for wanting sex when she is pregnant. May be she can give blowjob or something.

WordsMort47 · 2021-04-06T19:28:56+00:00

Do you mean she offered sex and you refused it? Why did you refuse, just out of interest?

cuddledrums · 2021-05-27T04:53:52+00:00

Lol so you became red pulled bc your wife is complaining about how uncomfortable it is to be pregnant?? That’s kinda sad honestly and also your shooting yourself in the foot in your own marriage. So you aren’t being affectionate to your wife how is she going to feel loved to have sex with you? Your not taking care of yourself physically (but Ik from redpoll standpoint that you want your wife looking stunning every time you see her) so why would she want to have sex with you? She offered sex to you the first time during the month and you said no so why would you think she would want to offer up sex again when you keep rejecting her??? She will just learn that if you want to have sex that you yourself will offer it. Your wife seems sweet that she’s letting you get away with all of these new found behaviors without explanation good luck in your now doomed relationship. Stop going to sub Reddit’s and actually go to a credible marriage counselor.

Title	Just seeking adive if i'm doing right - Took the Red pill and stopped being the nice husband since a month and here is what happened
Author	asakk
Upvotes	327
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Date	March 11, 2021 10:08 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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