So I have a plate. 6/10 at best. Big ol' titties, a bit more cushion for the pushin', paper bag with a smiley face probably her best fashion accessory.

For obvious reasons, I don't want to put in any effort to keep her spinning. I just want to fuck her when my other plates aren't available.

She's testing me right now. Didn't come around one night after I txt her that morning. She wasn't busy. She "enjoys [my] company and the sex but not so keen on showing up, sex then going home".

I replied with agree and amplify. Which I believe was wrong because this was a comfort test, not a shit test.

I said "So I'll come over there and you can kick me out at 11".

She replies that she's "Not okay with being used".

I respond with logic this time, also probably the wrong idea.

I basically said that I'm not looking for a relationship, just sex. Also that I don't like that she says I'm using her because it takes two to tango. She's using me too.

She says she has no illusions about my lack of desire for anything serious but she "doesn't like having to sneak in through the side door to get used then kicked out, no matter how good the sex is."

Fair enough, she feels like a slut because I treat her like one.

I ended our conversation and went radio silent with "Suggest a solution then. I thought you'd rather be discrete than getting paraded through my living room." ( I live with 3 other dudes and my bedroom is right next to the livingroom/kitchen. She knows this, she's only been in the living room once because flat mates were not home. )

So now that you know where I'm coming from, can anyone give advice on how I can avoid this in the future. I see myself encountering this more and more as I journey deeper into manliness.

FYI, We always cuddle after sex for a 15 minute minimum unless we go for a round 2 and run out of time for cuddling. Usually there is lots of cuddling between rounds.