Hi fellow red pillers, just to give a bit of background: I'm 27, male, discovered red pill about 1 month ago. Been reading and internalising all the information. It's extremely useful and I wish I had discovered this stuff 3-5 years ago. But better late than never!

I'm looking for some advice to get better with girls. I went on a date yesterday with a girl, who I met from a well known online dating site. We went to a local park, greeted each other with a hug, then just walked around the park, talked for a bit about various things and got to know each other. I brought along a frisbee in case we got bored and we played with that for a bit. We got some ice cream too from a cafe inside the park.

After 1 hour, she said she needed to leave in 15 minutes. At this point, I was fairly sure she wasn't interested in me - although at the beginning she seemed pretty friendly and not put off by me. At this point, we got into a philosophical discussion about whether you like people to say the truth to your face or not. I said I do, and I thought this was the perfect opportunity to ask her directly "how do you think the date went? and be perfectly honest". She said "do you REALLY want to hear the truth?" I responded yes.

These were roughly her words, as I remember them "you came across as quite indecisive and unsure of yourself, possibly lacking in confidence. I also felt like I had to take the lead in conversations a lot and anything you told me about yourself, I had to get it out of you, instead of you voluntarily saying it to me. I feel like I don't really know you and it generally just wasn't very fun".

I organised the whole date, including location and everything. All my messages were brief and to the point. However, obviously during the date, I must have given off body language which signaled I was all those things she listed. I know communication is 93% non-verbal, so clearly I went wrong somewhere with my non-verbals. In particular with girls, they don't really listen to what you say, they more rely on "emotion" and "feeling" (something I read on TRP).

This isn't just a problem I had with this date. Previous girls have said a very similar thing to me. One girl in the past called me "emotionally numb". I know that my voice is monotone, I have very little facial or tonal expression, I do come across as both bored and boring, I outwardly demonstrate very little in the way of passion/drive/motivation, I am very "low energy" if you observe me. My close family know that this is just the way I am, but it puts virtually everyone else off - in particular girls. So I'd like to improve on this aspect of myself.

How do I solve this problem with my actions/personality/character/"game" in order to become more attractive to girls?

By the way, I also asked if she thought I was ugly, too short, badly dressed etc. I asked her to comment on my physical appearance. She looked and laughed "oh no no, you're DEFINITELY not ugly". No idea if she was telling the truth there or not, but if she (and other girls) agreed to a date, she (and other girls) must have had some physical attraction towards me beforehand. But my actions screwed things up, there's no doubt about that.

If you need any other information, feel free to ask. I will respond to everybody's post individually.