LTR Lied about something stupid

May 15, 2020

So my LTR made some stupid fucking TikTok of her dancing and sent it to me. I made it clear a little while ago that I would never date a TikTok slut.

So I decided to snoop her account and lo-and-behold she had posted the same video on her account.

I asked her if she posted it, she said no and deleted it immediately. She then shifted the blame to me saying she made it for me and I'm so ungrateful and mean.

Am I being petty or should I break up with her over this?

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Title LTR Lied about something stupid
Author Desadarius
Upvotes 136
Comments 108
Date May 15, 2020 2:30 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Dense_Cantaloupe237 points238 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

last sentence is facts.

[–]CasaDeFranco92 points93 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

It's a tough position but she's revealed herself to be untrustworthy, he's saving himself a world of hurt from down the line. What adult even uses TikTok?

[–]Pacheko1717 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My mom is addicted to that piece of shit app. It's like a virus spreading itself here in Brazil. First it started with the proto-whore 14-year olds and now even moms are getting in on it because "muh funny bideos :DD"

Me and my dad cringe everytime we hear those stupid fucking songs coming from her phone. As if WhatsApp boomer cringe wasn't enough, my mom is now a zoomer-boomer.

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[–]PandaLitter42 points43 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Imagine killing yourself because you couldn't get spied on by the Chinese

[–]Standgrounding2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]Aakash05028 points29 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Great. We've got one less crazy bitch

[–]mugatucrazypills5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

careful reddit could put restrictions on subbreddit for talk like that !

[–]Aakash0500 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck Reddit!

[–]linkinway5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]party_dragon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

the "bitch" ain't crazy, the bitch is pretty normal

the problem is that these multinational megacorporations with treasure troves of data and an army of data scientists figured out how to hack people's brains and hijack our internal reward mechanisms... casinos porn social media validation it's all the same

[–]crocrackero111 points112 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The last part, when she shifted the blame on you is definitely something worth distrust too. If you are thinking about droping her, I think you should do it

[–]kankouillotte35 points36 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

that, or just spin the plate and don't care what the stupid whore does on her own time. Just know she's not gf material

[–]hondusa0110 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This. Life is much better when you DGAF. Especially about petty things like this. Don’t date, don’t impregnate crazy, lying, attention seeking bitches.

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[–]CasaDeFranco36 points37 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

She already killed his trust in her.

I had something similar happen once, I digested it the days following and she noticed my mood changed and asked what was up. She took the breakup badly but dishonesty / gaslighting is a dealbreaker and you have to stand by your values.

[–]RagingMayo8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Sorry, I am not a native speaker. What does gaslighting mean in this context?

[–]Blazer80821 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality.

[–]CasaDeFranco15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Likewise, the term comes from a film where this woman's husband slowly progressing dims the gas lights, and he dismisses her observation as craziness.

In this case, Op's girlfriend is like, you're crazy, why can't you trust me, deliberating manipulating his accurate perspective of her lies. This is a sign of an emotionally abusive person.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'd go as far as to say that "I'd prefer if you told me you posted it rather than lie to me" it sounds like this girl would triple down and that would make the decision clear. However this is on the assumption the clear gaslighting is a one off and out of character move.

[–]halleluiaiaia929257 points58 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Similar happened to me. Told an ex I would never date a girl who has pics of herself in bikini on social media.

One day she notices that a few ex classmates of mine have pics in bikini and asks me how is that ok? I respond: “I am not dating them”. I also have a very small social media pool and dont follow any thots (just people I know).

Few minutes later she posts a pic of herself in bikini on her account and justifies it as “well since you follow girls that have pics in bikini”

Manipulation at its finest.

Dropped her a week later.

Not sure if you should drop her yet, but if you have other red flags start running

[–]chipipro16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Solid response

[–]bustanutmeow12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

What was her response to getting the boot?

[–]halleluiaiaia929219 points20 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Crying, drama, appealing to my empathy. This was not the first red flag, was just another proofpoint. So by that time i was absolutely certain I wanted to break up.

But she attempted everything to get me to stay, including wearing lingerie (LOL).

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

including wearing lingerie


[–]Standgrounding2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]Fury_931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sex and tears the female weapons of choice. Fucking disgusting.

[–]Stupyyy10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's a standard shit test to see if you are alpha or beta. You will be tested for your reactions all the time.

[–]RagingMayo1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What if you don't tell your girl certain limits right from the start? You said right from the beginning that you don't like for her to have bikini photos on her social media.

What if you didn't tell her from the start (because you didn't think of it) and she blames you for making up "rules" along the way?

[–]halleluiaiaia929213 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Then i would be more diplomatic about it. But when she knows and still does it... thats not forgivable

[–]Dense_Cantaloupe0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

did anything happen over the week following, or were you just deciding?

[–]halleluiaiaia92925 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nothing happened but i felt angry. And it was not the first red flag.

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[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can't tell what you should do

yes you can

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I don't see her as crossing a line if the video wasn't slutty? Though I question why she deleted it if she knew it wasn't slutty, and why did she lie to OP rather than admitting the truth?

I see this more as her character traits showing through: willingness to manipulate and gaslight for her personal gain. If this is a clear pattern, run, if it's the first time I'd consider offering a life line. It's not our job to fix somebody other than ourselves and at the same time it's possible this was out of character for her.

It depends where you place gaslighting on your scale for red flags. I don't even notice it half the time because it doesn't move me in the slightest.

[–]_the_shape_0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It depends where you place gaslighting on your scale for red flags.

I'd say it belongs considerably up there, and not only because of the egregiousness of the transgression itself, but more importantly, the precedent it sets for the relationship moving forward, as it lays the groundwork so that she can get you to fold and submit to her manipulated version of reality if she simply tantrums hard enough and/or threatens to take away your favorite toy aka her vagina.

Before you know it, you'll be nodding your head that yes, the sky really is green, or yes, 2+2 = whatever she wants it to add up to, or yes, you're not her "boyfriend", you're her little bitch etc.

Gaslighting is one of the sharpest available pair of scissors to cut a man's balls off.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Point taken, I agree entirely that if you recognise it and don't instantly put an end to it, it sets a precedent that will totally fuck you.

[–]dutchgguy9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

she should probably break up with you over this

[–]SteveSan8242 points43 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

All women lie about stupid shit. I’ve never known an honest woman.

She didn’t make the video for you. She only showed you it to confirm to her it’s a good video. Just like if she sends pictures of her wearing new clothes or some makeup she hasn’t used before. It’s just to hear what you think so she feels ok for other guys to see.

[–]RelucBeam22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah exactly.

I don't understand the majority of comments here. If you were to drop every woman who lies, then you'd be single forever.

[–]SteveSan826 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It depends what they lied about. What hes describing I'd dump her slutty ass

[–]Fury_930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gotta hold these hoes accountable.

[–]goofballgorilla21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Put your foot down. Apply dread, maybe even soft next for a couple days.
Demote to plate

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[–]hedged61610 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Slow and subtle demotion, not an explosive breakup

[–]lonewolf240423 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Drop her FAST. Next time she’s gonna lie about some dude and tell you that they’re just “friends”. Millions of women out there man, don’t waste it on some woman who badly needs attention (all of them tbh)

[–]akihonj9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Others have said the last part and I'm going to echo that, but got further here, if your thinking about dropping her then do it and be done with it, if you don't think you can trust her on this tiny issue what about the bigger ones

The fact that your thinking about it says to me you've already made up your mind and are hoping that somebody out there is going to tell you to chill out and let it go etc. I won't do that because I know this issue will eat away at you and the relationship is doomed anyway.

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[–]akihonj0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Boom and there goes the truth bomb

[–]mrdeeds197210 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're on the right path, which means the relationship is on the wrong path. Start (read: Never stop) looking for options and working on improving yourself.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Seems kinda dramatic to break up over something so trivial and given how popular tiktok is right now I dont blame her for wanting to have fun with it despite your silly objections. She showed a bit of her colors here so keep it in mind going forward and see if she lies again but don't be petty and weak and lose your mind over something dumb.

[–]falecf42 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

First reasonable response I've seen. My first thought reading OPs post was, dude I'm a Tiktok slut as a 37yo guy. There's some pretty decent content on there if you look for it.

OP just ban your girls from all social media, no call, no texting. She can only use smoke signals. Be the most alpha-est alpha.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

But what if her smoke signals look like dicks?!?

[–]falecf40 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm all out of ideas

[–]LethalShade1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I think OP is fucked either way. It's kind of silly to forbid your girl to post on TikTok but if he goes that route and she does it anyway and starts lying to you about it/trying to gaslight you with complete nonsense(I did it just for you.) Your frame is obliterated and it's hard to recover.

Dump her and work on yourself or enjoy it while it lasts.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Fucking enjoy it while it lasts. I don't see what's accomplished by ending it prematurely for fear of what a white lie might possibly maybe potentially indicate for some point down the road.

[–]LethalShade0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Depends how old he is too. If you're in your 20s and just trying to have fun, don't worry about it too much. If you're ready to get married and meet the mother of your kids, yikes, good luck.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I guess I assumed the former since he said he's worried about her being a "tiktok slut" lol

[–]DatRiggz13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you want to ltr someone who lies? Simple fix

[–]pyth0ns8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

More than one lie broski.

If you yourself, don't like that in a woman... The. You yourself need to realize that you should be breaking up with her.

[–]catsdontsmile2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Everybody lies, and she deleted it because she has a good amount of dread going. I say keep her and remember she lies and gaslights since that shit will definitively come up in the future.

[–]juliank472 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You should not be focusing on these minor issues in life my friend. If it bothers you enough, next. If it doesn’t, great, move on.

[–]communistcontrolact12 points13 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

This is kinda gay. Wouldn’t one be single forever if they dropped every girl for a stupid lie?

I can understand if it’s something bigger

[–]Temptationn4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

exactly all women lie, I go by the size of the lie. if it wasn’t a slutty video I don’t see why OP cares, seems insecure. I told my girl she can post anything she wants as long as it’s not classified as slutty. she sends me everything prior to posting and let’s me “review” it. OP should’ve done the same and let her post what he feels is normal since he admitted it wasn’t even slutty.

when you tell a child not to do something, what happens? can’t believe this sub is agreeing with this TRP in 2013 would’ve been bashing him for being insecure

[–]Desadarius0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I am being pretty insecure. This quarantine is giving me a scarcity mindset and I'm overthinking shit that doesn't matter. Too much red pill

[–]checkmarks264 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Like others have said, lying about something tiny is testing the waters and if they would lie about something small you can be damn sure they’d lie to save their ass.

One of my exes went as far as to claim she was raped but wouldn’t report it or tell anybody else, shortly afterwards my beta blue ass was dumped. I shoulda known from the beginning that a girl who openly cheats on her bf is no good, but boys aren’t raised to be men anymore, just emotional tampons.

[–]communistcontrolact0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Haha what was the dumping reason? She sounds like an absolute bitch to have done that

[–]checkmarks260 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Didn’t take her out enough xD But in all honesty I was in her frame and not leading like I should have, so I don’t blame her for wanting out, just how she tried leave...

[–]Saladin193 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

if you have to ask I think you know the answer...

1) the whole tiktok thing is not that bad, its a small lie, but is it indicative of a pervasive pattern?

2) besides you should be in an LTR with someone you like, if you feel you need to break up with her over this, then its obvious you don't like her thaaaat much..

3) Idk about breaking up, maybe take a break? maybe drop her? ofc its your call in the end

4) but this whole blaming you stuff is whats petty..

[–]nameyname35 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Come across as a controlling arsehole and you’ll be treated as such.

[–]tacosattack5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Where there's smoke there's fire.

[–]Vofz6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Lol what. I thought tiktok is some irrelevant ass shit? It's not like it's onlyfans.

[–]Dvrkvision3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

it's just tik tok bruh.... she lied sure, but the thing here is that she didn't fit to your standards by being a "tik toker". It's not even about the lie... why didn't you just break up with her as soon as you saw her tik tok? is it because you know your standard was dumb in the first place?

[–]TheBlockedUser4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"She then shifted the blame to me saying she made it for me and I'm so ungrateful and mean."

Let me guess, you started crying after you heard this?

[–]the-twisted1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dont think this specfically calls for a break-up . You probably became a little to chilled in the way youve been treating her ie. excessive non-sexual attention having a weaker frame . People will always disrespect people they find low value because they think they are better than them . Start treating her like a plate / show her your a HVM and then she wont do anything that would make her lose you.

[–]CrypticV3nom1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The fact you snooped and bitched about it shows how far in her frame you are, it's pathetic. Stay in your frame, who cares....she's doing a dance, you have other important things to do.....she lied, you caught her....give her a choke on your braciole and then remove your attention from her....frame....frame....frame

[–]beginner_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

People lie and often don't get caught. small lies. this lie per se isn't big but as you say what is bothersome is that you ask directly and asked for confirmation and she insisted.

Did you tell her you know she lied? You could do that and ask for a sincere apology if you wish to save the relationship. But only do so if she actually comes up with a real apology.

Fact is all women do this shit, you either have to waste time with this crap, double-down, make her apologize or simply not enter LTRs to begin with.

[–]Poopybuttholeman10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Eh, people lie about stupid shit sometimes.

Do you have a back up in the pipeline?

If not don’t break up.

If you do, increase frequency of talking with the back-up, decrease frequency of talking with your LTR.

Rash movements and emotional responses are not the most ‘alpha’ way of dealing with this situation.

All the guys on here who just say “blah, BREAK UP” are not thinking clearly and are overly fearful of being hurt - clouded by emotions.

Look at the situation objectively, she has shown that she is capable of lying to you, you’ve lost some respect for her. She deserves less attention and she deserves to have her words taken with less credibility and value.

Lying about something inconsequential is easier than lying about something relationship-shifting. But it is a slippery slope.

What does it mean? It means that she’s capable of altering small events to paint a different (more rosy picture) of events and situations.

Aka capable of trickle truthing, where she shows you part of the story (the video) but not the other half (the platform).

The tik tok ban is kind of silly imo, lying was not the right choice to get around it, but if you play stupid games expect to win stupid prizes.


Cold shoulder for a few days, confront her on lying (if she thinks it’s something she can get away with, she’ll be more brazen with it) connect the act of lying with the punishment (cold shoulder/talking to other people/questioning the relationship).

Remember she is capable of lying.

Move on, if a larger red flag raises its head, judge that with the knowledge that she is capable of lying.

[–]jn14j0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly, if you make the decision to break up with her. I would wait until she can't pin the why on TikTok. While most of us here understand that it's the principle (the lying), if you have mutual friends I would suspect most people would in fact blame you for breaking up with someone over a TikTok. Just a thought to persevere your own reputation.

[–]agsuy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its quite simple.

1st set a clear boundary. And make sure she understands why.

I mean avoid the "I am MACHO MACHO you do what I say". Instead give a coherent explanation based on your frame.

If she is ok with it she wouldn't question you again. If she does then you could call her out and cut her down.

If she isn't ok then you just cut her down.

It is really that simple.


To further clarify.

If she says she is ok with it and then does it you should confront her as a man. Don't be subtle. Don't act as women do.

Just tell her "I saw X. What should I do with you? I can't be with someone who doesn't respect me" showing your disappointment.

[–]binrobinro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

First lie you've noticed. Expect more.

[–]seducter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah man that blame shifting is a huge red flag. If she explodes on you for dumping her, you know that wasn't all she was doing.

[–]leotard-princess0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Everyone tells white lies sometimes. If you want a girl that never does this shit then you're living in a fucking dreamworld. If it happens again and again then do something - otherwise don't listen to these wannabe chads who are spending all their time acting tough on an internet forum rather than going out there banging girls.

So why am I not out there banging girls? I got too addicted to porn and kink and now I have to rinse out my mind with six months of no fap and the best I've done is like 48 days.

[–]usedtimecapsule0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Was it a text or were you calling?

Tone is important, and I feel like this is a bit petty. Who gives a fuck what she posts on tiktok as long as it isn’t borderline Onlyfans material.

Also depends on how old you are.

[–]robot3000_010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She's seeking validation outside the relationship, therefore get a blowjob and cheat on her to level the score.

Her being on Tiktok is like you being on tinder.

Don't deny yourself the crack cocaine of she cant

[–]Dimenzije900 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Youre stressing too much over something stupid. Why did you lurk? So what if she has tik tok? She send you a video. Tell her to bring that ass over here instead of confronting her about beeing a tik tok slut. And ofcourse she was gaslighting you its what women do, wake up. But now you look like a buthurt beta because you loose frame so easily. So next time jus relax and stfu. If her beeing a tik tok slut is too much for you then leave her.

Edit: gaslighting is a red flag when you havent done nothing wrong. In this situation you got butthurt over a stupid thing. Every women gaslights dont worry about finding a girl who doesn't. She doesnt exist.

[–]e39boy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is really childish from both you and her. Arguing about fucking TikTok, hahaha. Seriously some of you on here don’t understand balance.

[–]hedged61610 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Downgraded her to plate, treat her accordingly, detach emotionally.

[–]trpppp1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

First of all, this is something you verify in the vetting period. If she is on social media, she always will be. If you didn't like it, shouldn't have made her an LTR in the first place. Stop trying to control her behaviour. Most women use social media nowadays, it's annoying but it is what it is. Good luck finding one that doesn't. This is pretty petty behaviour in general, pretty much like mate-guarding.

Now to her lying. This would be grounds for a break-up for me. If she can lie about something as retarded as this, she can definitely lie about other things, especially sucking Chad's dick in the future.

[–]alittletoosmooth-2 points-1 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Acting butt hurt isn't a good look, but hey man if that's your rule then that's your rule. If you really give that much of a shit about tiktok, then dump her ass. If you don't really care that much to dump her over it, then stop barking about it. Regardless of how stupid your rule is, you can't draw a line in the sand and then back down when someone crosses it.

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A rule is a rule and a mans word is law. If a bitch can’t follow your established rules then they’re not worth it. Pussy ain’t worth going back on your word.

[–]alittletoosmooth3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree 100%. My point to OP is stop posturing. If it's a rule of yours, dump her. If it's not really a "rule" but a "nice to have", then shut the fuck up about it.

[–]TheBlockedUser2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

How exactly is his rule "stupid"?

[–]alittletoosmooth1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's not the point. It could be any "rule". He says its a rule of his, yet he's here asking what to do, because he wants to rationalize keeping her. My point is, stand by your word. I can guarantee this isn't the only self-proclaimed "rule" that OP is breaking.

[–]TheBlockedUser0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You meant to say he is someone who goes against his set boundaries, not that his "rule" is "stupid".

[–]alittletoosmooth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's both. He goes against his supposed boundaries, but I also think the rule is stupid. But my opinion on his rule is irrelevant

[–]rn78890 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude you reek of being 5’6”. It’s a fucking tik tok video. Do you want her waiting at home in her prairie dress with fresh biscuits on the table?

Being mad at her for being a woman is the most beta thing you can do. Yes, it’s a little lie, but you snooped. You can’t snoop. I’ve never known a single woman in my life that wouldn’t tell a little lie to save face. They all gaslight. It’s just how it is. Remember, she’s never yours it’s just your turn.

[–]alphakari0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, toss her in the bin. Something overt like this, ya just tell her you wanna see other people, and let the dice roll. If she still sticks around, great, if not, great. DO NOT ADMIT THAT THE TIK TOK IS WHY. That's just food for the hamster to start spinning it like "wow he's so controlling." Nah, just tell her how its gonna be so that she doesn't have that options of framing it some type of way.

Shouldn't have forbid it to begin with, though. Just judge these ho's for what they are while letting them think you aren't the judgy type.

Otherwise they just lie to you.

[–]Nergaal-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

people do stupid shit. maybe even acting slutty when she might "not be like that". but the fact that she gaslit you instead of admitting to something stupid should be a major red flag. i recommend playing the dread game, and if even then she does not get it, consider moving on

[–]Stupyyy-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Easy demote

[–]Soms619-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She is in her natural state. Of course the video was sent to you to make it look like its for you but the target market isn't you.

She's is pulling in or keeping the interest of other males in her sphere, orbiters. Once in a while she has reel them in if she feels the interest is going down.

Dont blame her, she's doing whats natural. She might be unaware of her games. But its nature's course.

How you deal with it is up to you, but nonetheless you leave her for another LTR, you would still experience this behavior.

[–]Patricakevin-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Run. She gaslit you in a manner of speaking. It’s not a sign of a healthy relationship.

[–]bombgg-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Trust your gut. Never settle for someone who doesn't respect you.

[–]Ben_06-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Only look at her behavior, don't listen to her.

She lied, she will do it again and again, and for more serious stuff. I learnt my lesson.

[–]send_it_for_the_boys-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gaslighting only gets worse. For me 3 months being gaslighted and manipulated fucked me up so bad. It’s not worth it man. You are so much better! I can tell you have a solid mindset right now you’ll only get better & stronger if you just leave!

[–]1InformalCriticism-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had an LTR like this who eventually devolved into stupid shit like this. It's just not worth the hassle. Women eventually stop respecting you if they sense even the slightest scent of weakness or someone better gives them even the slightest bit of attention.

Plan the exit strategy where she can cause the least amount of damage in a tantrum.

[–]oooKenshiooo-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are not being petty.

Manipulative people start out with small lies to test the waterst and proceed to make them bigger and bigger. To some of them, lying is an adiction - just like stealing is to kleptomaniacs.

There is a reason people developed a strong gut-reflex towards lying people - they are dangerous. You may cut her some slack, but MY personal stance in life has been to drop liars instantly.

Forgiving the overstepping of boundaries tremendrously weakens you in the long run. It has a desensitizing effect on you, to point where you simply do not remember you ever had them.

[–]AdonisWild-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She don’t respect u nigga

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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