Been exclusive for a month, shit test popped up several times in one night. She came over while I was cooking some steak. I like my steak rare so I had to keep an eye on the timer, and so I told her to pass me the pot lid. She said, "only if you say please." I told her please is earned, not asked for. She said "then I won't get the lid." I said okay and went to get it myself, turns out she'd got it and was hiding it behind her, I tickled her and took it off her and ignored her until I finished cooking.

Later that night while in bed, we were naked and she was grinding on top of me and I was holding her neck and told her to suck my cock. She said again "only if you say please." I repeated myself that please is earned not asked for, with a grin, and she said "fine I won't suck your cock" to which I said fine and fucked her very roughly.

Later, she said that I am very rude and childish for not saying please, and I repeated myself again with a big grin on my face and just tickled her and kissed her.

Now, there is no resistance to me telling her to suck my cock during sex. My question is: did I handle the shit test right? What are some other responses? I feel this was more an authoritarian response rather than an amused mastery one, but my refusal to enter her frame caused me to pass it.