I am (M29) looking for advice on what to do with a girl (F26), because to be honest I feel like I'm totally lost.
I have met this girl at work a couple of weeks ago. She was fun, interesting, absolutely gorgeous we share the same values and want the same things in life and we hit it off really well.
At first I was very hesitant on making the first move as you don't really shit where you eat, as well as I am much more senior at the company that I work for so I wasn't really sure whether I'm getting the attention because of the perceived power/influence I have at the firm or whether she just wanted something from me work related. (which has happened before).
We kept talking and she kept being proactive so about two weeks ago I decided to ask her out. and she said yes!
Now this is where things get a little complicated.
We both knew at the beginning of our interactions that I am getting relocated to another country (I'm in Europe) - which I did a week ago - for 6 months.
Unfortunately the date never happened, not bc we didnt want to go out, but rather that week being my last I got really caught up at work that evening and never could actually made it. (got stuck at work till 11PM).
She was totally fine with it given the circumstances and ended up going to two lunch dates afterwards to make up for the lost time.
Due to the relocation package I received I can basically fly back home every or every other weekend - and I am due to go back home this Thursday and spend a long weekend in the country.
So we agreed as the next step to book an AIRBNB on the country side and spend two nights there and the last evening back in the city - which I was super excited for and it seemed to be that the feeling was mutual. She was even the one whom made the suggestion about going away to the countryside together.
Also she is really keen on getting relocated to the city I am in as well as I am open to moving here permanently too.
To be honest I kinda romanticized about the idea internally about starting a life here together with her.
Everything was great ever but than things took a strange turn after I booked and payed for the apartment.
We have been talking on the social media regularly but her attitude took a 180 degree turn the day after I booked the place.
She is passive, leaves me on seen when I make comments about the trip or romantic comments and gives me generally passive one-liner responses or no contact for days.
Even I noticed that in the last 5 days or so I was the one who always initiated conversations and I could tell she never really put in any effort / interest to continue the conversation. ( I even broke one of my biggest rules which is never double text a girl. ever.)
I know that last week at work has been super stressful for her due to various reasons as well as this week she is on holiday with her parents, but I don't know - I guess my anxieties are telling me that I have done something wrong and my gut is telling me that she is a lot less interested than she was before I booked the place, because if you are interested in someone you do seek them out.
Should I just keep no contact for the rest of the week until we meet?
Should I go ahead and address this worry of mine with her? (I'd rather not as I would come off as needy and feel like this would diminish me from a position of power)
I do recognize that we never actually went on a proper date before, and one of the things I am looking forward to in this trip is getting to know her better, but it feels like the feeling is not mutual.
Or perhaps she wants to get to know me in person rather than on the phone.
Any suggestions guys?