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Monk Mode, Need a Value Hobby

June 11, 2018

So I'm relatively late to the game and wish to hell I had found TRP when I was a teen. I look like an alpha (short, but extremely muscled and toned) so even bigger men back down when I look at them the wrong way, so it's always been easy for me to get women short term. My problem was that I'd be a white knight to chase away their asshole man, but then prove to be just as fucking beta, by allowing myself to become attached.

Now I'm 30. A pretty little thing talked me into leaving my psycho ex-wife and fighting for custody of my children (she had been hurting them physically in her bi-polar, schitzo episodes) and after I had caught it on camera, i set the wheels moving. VERY long and disturbing story short, she won 50% for having a vagina, but I did manage to steer clear of ANY payments to her of any kind, and in fact am receiving child support from my step daughters' father, as the court decided that he had no contact with her and that I was the real father in the courts' eyes. And this pretty little thing that had been throwing herself at me and begging for me to do it so we could get away and be together... suddenly decided she wasn't ready for children, and took off.

So, now I'm here. I've finally accepted that AWALT, and am ready to dive head in. I've started working out again, and in just 5 days, see massive results, and women have been trying to move in on me... but I don't want to go in the way I did before. I'm still not happy with who I am, and I need to better myself to ensure that I can keep plates going to avoid giving in to any one, and falling into my past state.

I'm trying to go into monk mode, but as you can imagine, having children for 3.5 days a week, pulls me to the side. My youngest goes to school in a few months, so that's better. The biggest problem though is that all of my strengths in life were my strength. I was into lifting, parkour, gymnastic tricks... but I'm now 30, have a neck injury from work, and I hardly think that walking around the room on my hands and then doing some handstand pushups would impress as many chicks as it did when I was a teen.

TLDR: I'm wondering if you guys could list me off some new hobbies I could get into on my off time that would increase my value. A new language is a good one but new languages are extremely hard to learn later in life. What are some other good ideas?

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Title Monk Mode, Need a Value Hobby
Author LunarTears0
Upvotes 13
Comments 22
Date June 11, 2018 8:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/monk-mode-need-a-value-hobby.99812
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[–]it_takes_the_redpill13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Pool (billiards not swimming) is not super physically demanding, and is highly social. People can play well into their 80s at a high level. Not sure how bad it would be on your neck/arms, though, but since you can work out I imagine it wouldn't be hard. Solid for dates, too. Great isolation, some drinking, you can teach her, and if she's bored you have a private table to talk and walk around without it being awkward.

Lol at the poeple recommending MMA and all these other highly physical things.

[–]LunarTears0 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

You actually read, thank you. Believe it or not, I'm actually very good at billiards and have used that as my go to...has worked on many occasions... but that's about all I have, and picking chicks up on a pool bet are still slim to none.

High five, give me some more

[–]tranquilschizo3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

From pool, you could branch out to other things such as darts or poker. Every girl wants a Dan Blizerian (;

[–]DesperateChemical3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I study languages. Lots of work and really rewarding. The pay off can be great if you go visit other countries but most of the time it isn't super useful. Depends on where you live, I use Spanish probably once a week here in the western US but I haven't spoken to someone IRL in korean for the last year.

Plus I take vacations to countries where I speak the language or am learning, it adds a lot of value and is great for meeting local girls.

There are tons of great material online for free.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Currently learning Spanish and couldn't agree more. It just opens doors that I couldn't without it. Also, with stuff like DuoLingo for free, it's easy to pick up recreationally.

[–]bleuge0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hola amigo, qué tal tu día?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Más o menos, bien. ¿Y, tú?

[–]tranquilschizo4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How about things such as hiking or kayaking? Both are a workout, but you don't really risk getting hurt.

[–]shadowsofparadise1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Something I want to start doing is learning to play the Piano and it may be a good fit for you. If it doesn't bother your arm and your hand's index and pinky, then it's worth a shot. I've been doing some research on how to learn at home on my free time and which piano to buy, so if you're interested I can send you what I've thought about buying and how to learn without any experience in music ever. It's good for your brain and it will add value if your ever around a piano with a date.

[–]GrotusMaximus1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Learn to make stuff: welding, woodworking, glass, etc. Great knowledge to pass to your kids, quality time bringing something into the world, things to give away to loved ones.

[–]Moreofmore1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Non physical or low physical suggestions. *Cooking *Dancing *Darts *Bowling *Kickball (rec leagues or other social sports) *Music anything( collecting, playing, jamming) *Cars/motorcycles (build, trade, classics) *Drag racing

[–]throwaway2_5_5_21 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Get a shotgun, range membership, and shoot some clays. Every girl I've taken shooting has LOVED it, but the shotgun was a bit too powerful for them. Looks good for you to be able to control the gun.

Another generic like language is instruments.

[–]NewHum1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You should start boxing. Im a boxer and even thoe im only 21 there are plenty of older guys in their 30 and 40. at my gym. A lot of them started for the same reasons and got a huge amount of value of out it.

The gym is like a family of guys (and some girls) we all suffer together, we spit blood sweat and tears together and that makes a hell of a bond. It’s also insanely effective training and muscle wise and will make you even more confident.

[–]LunarTears0 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Again, fighting arts have become a dream that I know I can't have. I've tried. I force the push through my workouts to ensure my left arm looks like my right, but my left arm can do less than half what my right can. I have a permanent pain and discomfort in my left arm that leads me to the need of seeking something less physical.

[–]NewHum1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I understand but perhaps you still could have you dream. Now I don’t know what is actually wrong with your arm but maybe it could be solved. I have some guys in my gym that have a problem with one of their hands and the trainers know it so they keep it light.

Some of them have even worked on their arms in ways that minimizes their pain since you know boxing trainers have loads of experience with damaged arms.

Maybe you should go to the gym and tell them about your problem. They will completely understand and will tell you if it’s something you can slowly work on getting fixed.

You can literally just walk into most gyms and they’ll be happy to help. Despite what most people think of boxers and other fighters are generally one of the nicest and most friendly people there are.

You never and giving it a try won’t cost you anything.

[–]whiskyjeezus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Skiing or snowboarding if you live anywhere near mountains

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's your fucking time dude! What do you want a do?

[–]ZaidanoJ0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu.

[–]traktor28 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link


[–]LunarTears0 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I like the idea, I taught myself to fight; grew up in the country so it's more of a bar brawl style and being short- hit fast, hit hard, get out technique is what I've been limited to. I feel like it'd look silly fo ra 30 yr old man to be training with younger men, though.

I was thinking something less physical, as my neck injury severely limits my body. Awesome value hobby for you younger men out there wondering, though.

[–]throwaway2_5_5_21 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

19 and went to a Jiu Jitsu gym. Lots of people older than me at the adult classes.

[–]_Ba_Dum_Tss_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same. Instructors themselves couldn’t have been younger than 30.

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